Tuesday, December 28, 2010


Passive men do not exist. Do not believe that they do. Yes, there are men who women go after and spoil. Yes, there are some men who are not as assertive and direct about getting a woman they like. BUT DIG THIS, HE'S CALLING SOMEBODY. HE IS PURSUING SOMEBODY OR SOMETHING. Something is motivating him. If he's been in a relationship before and he's not a virgin, he is not passive.

There are no passive men, he's just passive about you! Even a "passive guy" can be passionate or motivated by something.....

If he's not calling, not dating you, showering you with compliments, jocking you, pursuing you, he's just passive about you!
. He is not passive about calling you. He is not passive about texting you. He is not passive about befrieding you on myspace or facebook. He is not passive about dating nor pursuing you. Every man knows what to do. If he's passive about anything, it's you! He just didn't see your light, he doesn't know a good thing. Whatever the case may be! Be honest about this!

Remember that

Saturday, December 4, 2010

Men Only Remember

3 Types of women

1) The woman they could not have (or the woman who left)

2) The woman they could not conquer/ Tame

3) The woman who made them work for it

Which one do you fall under? because men sure are entertained by the human nature of this process.

What A Man Likes~! *winks*


1. Guys don't actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
2. Guys love flirts.
3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.
4. When a guy says he doesn't understand you, it simply means you're not thinking the way he is.
5. "Are you doing something?" or "Have you eaten already?" are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.
6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
7. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad characteristics.
8. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.
9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl's attention.
10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.
11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.
12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can't. And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!
13. Guys cry!!!!!!!!
14. Don't provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.
15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.
16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
17. When you touch a guy's heart, there's no turning back.
18. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...never mind!" would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.
19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.
20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
21. When a guy makes a prolonged "umm" or makes any excuses when you're asking him to do you a favor, he's actually saying that he doesn't like you and he can't lay down the card for you.
22. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow."
23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
24. Guys hate gays!
25. Guys love their moms.
26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her.
28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
31. Like Eve, girls are guys EUR™ weaknesses.
32. Guys are very open about themselves.
33. It's good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don't let him wait that long.
34. No guy is bad when he is courting.
35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they're not that much pretty.
37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.
39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.
41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.
42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.
43. Guys virtually brag about anything.
44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.
45. Guys think too much.
46. Guys' fantasies are unlimited.
47. Girls' height doesn't really matter to a guy but her weight does!
48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!
49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.
50. It's not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they've been together for 3 years or more.
51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.
52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won't be matured and grow up.
53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.
54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.
55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.
56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he's sweating. You'll probably see that he is nervous.
57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.
58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."
59. Guys don't really have final decisions.
60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.
61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.
62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.
63. Guys believe that there's no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.
64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.
65. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.
66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.
67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.
68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.
69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!
70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
71. A guy's friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.
72. Don't be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.
73. Don't be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you'll be surprised.
74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.
75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.
76. Guys don't comprehend the statement "Get lost" too well.
77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.
78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.
79. Guys don't care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.
80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they'll realize they're wrong.
81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He's just too stubborn to deal with it.
82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.
83. Guys' weakest point is at the knee.
84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.
85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.
86. When a guy looks at you, either he's amazed of you or he's criticizing you.
87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.
88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.
89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you're with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.
90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!
92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.
93. When a guy says he can't sleep if he doesn't hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.
94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.
95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.
96. Girls are allowed to touch boys' things. Not their hair!
97. If a guy says you're beautiful, that guy likes you.
98. Guys hate girls who overreact.
99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships
100. Men really want to wait for the prize (They enjoy the whole feast)
101. Men like to Pursue and enjoy what is unobtainable

Friday, December 3, 2010


I got a word today from Joel Osteen. “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you". Forgive, Forgive, meditate and forgive. We recently discussed seeking God, in order to be prepared for the man you are meant to be with. We also discussed that a man should find a woman and not the other way around. You want to attract the right man and get closer to paradise, follow my advice, forgive. It is so refreshing, you can literally feel weight lifting. In fact, when you forgive, all you're doing is releasing the baggage, heartaches, and disappointments. Releasing is a form of forgiveness. As you release, you will open up shakras and you will be more elevated, and positive, thus making you feel better and attracting the man you deserve.

You want to attract Mr. Right, start with forgiveness of the past, that has developed into a defense mechanism to protect you from being hurt, which has only counter reacted and lead you to closing off the doors to attracting real love. When you forgive past hurts, you value yourself more and thus will attract exactly what you want and that is to be valued.

Start with closing your eyes, and clearing your thoughts, remember to forgive your own self 1st, for being hurt and allowing yourself to walk around holding a grudge, which hurts even more. Forgive yourself for allowing people to have control and power over you whom you have yet to forgive. Think of all the people who have hurt you that have caused your law of attraction 2 work against you. As you release these hurts, you will be more liberated and your life will improve, thus attracting the right

psssst... And "If you build it, it will come"

Ladies repeat this to yourself, "I will permit no man to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him."!!!

I realize my annoyance stems from me knowing I'm just 2 good for b.s.

Thursday, December 2, 2010

A Worldly Man vs. A Godly Man

A worldly man vs a Godly man

A worldly man or a man worldly within his approach will never pursue you the right way, in fact, he will do all the wrong stuff. He may be a good hunter but he will never hunt you the right way. He may not even be the dream guy you want. He is usually good looking, manly, has swagger, and has many admirers. He has lots of women, or female friends. He may even be a narcissist. He may be superficial, and materialistic. He might not do the things you wish him to do. He may not say the right things, or he may not treat you as you deserve to be treated. Isn't it so easy to hook up with a worldly man? I wonder why, because it's easy not to follow the rules GOD intended for us to follow. It's easier to just satisfy the flesh. Not to mention the fun you'll have, while doing it. A worldly man believes old wise tails, and he holds you to them. A worldly man fornicates and he wants to have sex with you too. He does not hold tight to his word. He makes false promises. A worldly man is earthly and of the world, so don't be surprised if he thinks you're a little too deep, lol You are too deep for a worldly man. A worldly man plays games and believes that he has to do little to nothing in order to have a woman. A worldly man expects you to chase him, as if he's the woman and when you don't , he accuses you of being old fashioned and or too traditional, instead of biblical and natural! A worldly man knows nothing about chivalry. A worldly man is a talker not a doer. A worldly man falls quick to temptation and he will cheat. Overall, a worldly man will never satisfy your spirit, because he is of a superficial mind state.

A Godly man will understand that he first has to get his self right, before conquering a relationship with a woman. A Godly man is more patient, and he consults GOD for guidance, in choosing and pursuing the right woman. A Godly man will be exactly what you are looking for and there will be no second guessing it. It will just feel right. He won't send mix signals, because his spirit matches his nature and his nature matches his actions. A Godly man brings about the right emotions out of a woman, therefore, you'll be more patient as well. A Godly man knows how to hunt for the woman he desires, in the right way. He is not metro sexual. He is also not down low. He does not wish for a woman to chase after him and he WILL NOT , EVER TREAT A WOMAN WHO IS SPECIAL LIKE JUST ANOTHER ONE. He won't categorize you. A Godly man will not grow impatient and give up on you. He won't let you slip a way because he's already a discerned man. He will learn you, love you, never annoy you, and cherish you. He will suit your spirit.

Men Play a Dangle Game

Men play a dangle game and that game is to say one thing and do another. They may act like they like you and then bam, their actions say another. Has a man ever tried to be sexually active with you, after making it clear that you two were just friends? Has a man ever talked to you about romance, taken you out on a date and then tried to play the friend role on you? He may act like he's attracted to you but shortly refer to you as, friend, buddy, homey, pal, etc. This is his way of playing the dangle game. The dangle game is when a guy dangles a worm in front a fish, leaving you to think about and question his hypocritical behavior, which once your mind is on him, you as the fish, has fail for the worm and hooked yourself into his trap. It's bait, baby. Men know when you like them, they can sense it. It's a sort of six sense they have. Notice how there is never any questions when it comes to a guy you don't like. When a man plays the dangle game with you, it's just his way of setting the motion, having it his way. They all do it, when they feel things can get confused or when they're testing you to see where your mind is. It's also a game. Men who like you but want to keep you at arms length are good at this game. They set the dial straight on you all being friends, but they clearly act like it's more between you. So play his game. Sense him, set your own tone.

And remember this, if a man really wants you, he will come and get you and he will find you. When a man pursues what he wants, he has no need to play these games, because it's purposeless.

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Chase a Man / Chase GOD!

Written by a very in tuned lady.

"A woman is not to chase a man. Women please stop chasing men. Let him chase you. Give him time to fight for what he wants. After he gets you, he'll know that you're worth more than rubies. (Proverbs 31:10) Both man and woman are suppose to chase after God. While the man is seeking God, God will direct the footsteps of both the man and woman so that they cross paths. God will lead the man to pursue the RIGHT woman. Too many times the good fellas end up chasing the wrong women because they lack discernment. As you begin to seek the face of God., your discernment will increase because for the spiritual height you will be on. Chase and Purse the word of GOD and then everything you want will be right around the corner, so i here my spirit tells me so.

So men lay in the arms of your Father just like Adam did when he went into a deep sleep as God handcrafted his beautiful woman for him. Or rest and relax like Issacc did when his father sent his servant on a journey to bring him a wife from his own country. The bible says, that before he and Rebecca were near each other, he was in the field meditating. Another thing godly men is watch your character and reputation. Remember Boaz saw Ruth working hard in the field. He watched her closely as she worked noticing some of her good qualities. A godly man is a wise investor. Any investor will tell you to not make any hasty decision regarding investing in a market or selling your shares. You have to watch the market and know the market in whatever you want to invest in so that you can yield high returns.

Many people tell half the truth when interpreting the scripture that says, "He that finds a wife finds a good thing". It is true that the word "finds" means that the man is to pursue a woman. But that scripture is also two-fold. What that scripture means is that after God completes processing the woman's character, she then becomes established in her spirit and character and is now qualified to be a wife. So now she is a good thing. (Church)!

A foolish woman is not a good thing to a man. The bible says everything God created was good. God didn't create evil character in women and men. So every woman must go through a fiery trial so that God may burn up the chaff; to produce the good that is in her. To bring out the best in her, so that when she walks into her season, she will be a good thing. And when she is a good thing, she will then become qualified by God to be called a wife. So whoever comes into the presence of this woman will come into the presence of a good woman who has allowed God to process her into being a godly wife.

The bible says "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these other things will be added unto you." (Matthew) As a matter of fact, the more we pursue things and people, the further God allows them to stay away from our lives, because we're seeking something more than we seek God. God wants us to pray and rest in His arms as we pray for our helpmates.

Remember Adam was asleep when God brought Eve to him. Adam knew he was missing something, but didn't know it was already in him. So when God presented Eve, she was good. That's what the scripture "A man that finds a wife, finds a good thing." And "NO" this doesn't mean a woman is suppose to chase a man. Isacc wasn't looking for wife. God presented Rebekah to him. Boaz wasn't looking for Ruth. God presented her to him. In each situation, it was God that brought each couple together through different circumstances, no matter how unusual they may seem.

No matter who your husband or wife is, or where they are from, God will strategically place you in the path of your soul mate. You don't have to go to the club or even go to church looking for anyone. Just keep your eyes on Jesus and He will meet everyone of your need, and give you the desire of your heart according to His will and word. Ladies be prayerful and ask God to make you a good thing. Again, I say don't chase a man, because if you're really good he'll chase you down. Remember the saying, "You never miss a good thing until it's gone. Stay out of his face. And seek His face. Stop calling him. And
call Him. Become that good thing, and your man won't be able to resist you because of the anointing radiating on your face from the inside out.

What this message renders is, a woman should not be chasing after a man, but should be chasing after GOD, allowing him to prepare her to be a good thing, a precious gift to a man. A man should be chasing after GOD 1st, so that he can be molded into being a good man for a woman, and so that GOD can present to him the woman he designed for that man and instill inside of him the ambition to actually pursue the woman of his desires. (You see why it's so important to be evenly yoked)

GOD MUST NOT ONLY DEVELOP YOU AS A WOMAN FOR THE MAN FIRST BUT A MAN MUST ALSO BE DEVELOPED FOR THE WOMAN! put all your desires in GOD. call GOD, text God, PAGE GOD, facebook GOD, myspace GOD, add GOD as your friend, vent your frustrations to GOD. Leave GOD a message 1ST and watch how he will move in your life, granting you all the desires of your heart but only .1st after you have throughly sought him.

PEACE AND church.

Monday, November 1, 2010





Sunday, October 31, 2010

Men are really Great!

Hey, hey, hey, don't think this is a male bashing blog, because it isn't sistah! I'm a Scorpio, i see things in a clear, balanced way :)
Men are really great, it's a lot of knuckle heads out there, yes, but there's also a ton of wonderful, beatuiful, handsome men out there. I don't know if they're in America, Africa, the Carribean or outerspace, but they do exist! lol

You just have to decode these brothas and learn yourself and your needs in the process. That's all. Men will jerk you around the way they want to, because they know what they want, but don't mistake me, men are great. This blog is simply here to guide you into the different types of men that exist. The average man of these categories. This blog is to help you understand your mistakes and to better understand him, whoever he may be. This blog describes the gamers out there, the men causing confusion, the typical man of these categories.

This blog does not apply to all men, just the men it applies to, lol

" If it don't apply, then let it fly"

When a Man Comes on 2 Fast and 2 Strong

Don't you just love this? When he comes on strong and fast, just like a fairy tale. He says all the right things to you on day one, day two, or is it week one or week 2? It makes you feel like love at first sight really exist. He tells you the old famous line, " I've never felt this way before". He talks about relationships, marriage, and that he's looking to settle down. He tells you he's super single. He calls you baby within the first couple of days or weeks of dating. He acts as if you guys are much closer than you really are, what a man, what a mighty good man... lol

Wrong, unless you're irresistible, such as myself, if he's coming on too strong, too fast, it's because he's looking for something.
Maybe he wants some loving (boom, boom, wow) maybe he's buying time, until his dream girl comes along or maybe he's rebounding. Maybe he just wants some affection and just to be in the presence of a woman. Whatever the case is, love does not happen over night. You have to build a sort of rapport with people, so when people are coming on too fast and strong, they're seeking to find something.

Whenever someone comes into your life, and their moving a little too fast and strong, calling you their friend and what not too soon, they will also leave your life the same way they come in, fast. Think about it. You loose em, the way you get em. People that actually take the time to know you and build with you are long lasting.

Friday, October 29, 2010


Men know exactly what they want their women to look like, or do they? Sometimes they may have a idea of their dream girl, but until they meet that special girl, that idea of the dream girl will cease to exist. Men will usually tell you how they think you should look, as if they can define the beauty of a woman! ha, i laugh. They may tell you to wear this or wear that, do your hair this way or that way. It is hard to define femininty. I have a gay guy friend who told me that, he wants to see me wear five inch heels, make up, fake eye lashes and a mini skirt. I had to ask, are you really gay?? lol The point is, no, absolutely not, that is not how i roll and that is not what defines me as a woman. How many of you women out there have changed up your style for a man, just to impress him? But does it make sense to dress for someone else, and not for yourself? No

Truth be told, men won't take those hoochie, koochie girls home to mama, never! In fact, the one with the natural beauty, who finds no woman as her competiton and can hold her own, is the one he marries. Never allow a man let you fall into a trap of, good time girl, subtracting long term girl. Read the Steve Harvey Book, are you a throw back? Be a true dream girl, don't be the fake girl they show in the media. Because i gaurantee you, the minute you subdue yourself to someone's opinion , he will feen for that girl that is naturally beautiful and it will leave you feeling stupid. Think about it, men love Halle Berry, Nia Long, Lauren Hill, Pam Grier? why? because their beauty is more natural, where as men will view Beyonce as sexy, yet seductive and a good time girl. Her beauty is more made up.

A man i met at a club/event once asked me why i was wearing flats. I went on to tell him, because I can. He said," yeah, you can get away with it,although you would look sexier with heels.". A girl, dressed seductively with high heels on walked pass as he was saying that and i said to him,sarcastically " would you rather i look like that?" He replied with, nahh, she's looks good but I wouldn't take her home to mom's , i would rather date a someone like you". Why? Because my beauty is the truth, two snaps, and one twist!

You get the drift? Define yourself. Do You!!! Men can't define femininity, nor beauty all they can do is appreciate it. Your designer, GOD, designed you as a woman before you were even concieved. You've been a woman from day one. While women mature four years faster than men, you knew your gender before he... lol


Do you know what you want?

When a man wants you, can he actually have you? Not I. Are you desperate for a man but don't know what type of relationship you desire? Do you adjust your life for his needs? and then justify that its what you wanted all along. And last but not least, the whole giving your life up thing, following him and helping him live his. If you answered yes to any of these questions, then no. You don't know what you want. If you know what you want then, no man can just yank you around with his needs and desires. Men usually bore you with all their, "this is what i want and this is what i need convo's" but can you have that same conversation with a man or your friends? I know what i want! Therefore no man can run game on me or trick me up. It takes time, but it's important to get to that level. Take some time and figure out what works best for you! what works for you! Find out what your type is and what floats your boats, because I guarantee if you don't know what you want, i can see many heart breaks in the near future. Research shows that, men are more self involved and concerned with what benefits the self, while women tend to be more concerned with what is best for the group. Please, when it comes to your personal life, you better do what's best for self. I'll tell you again, follow in a man's footsteps, they will lead you the way. In the words of my old home girl, "N$%** will lead you the way, lol. Why do you think men go through life with minimum heart breaks? Why? because they know what they want and they know how to get it. As a man, he has the power to pursue and a woman has the power to accept and or reject. Do not feel guilty , pressured and or obligated to entertain a man that does not fit your standards. A guy i know asked me, do i feel guilty when a guy likes me and I feel no desire to bite back, well should I? I mean, to an extent you want to be nice and not hurt feelings, but does that mean, sale yourself short? Men secretly play off of a woman's guilt of entertaining them, even when she's not interested. Why, because as i stated previously, they don't care how you feel, as long as they're satisfied and pleasured. That's why it takes them centuries to figure out that a problem exist in a relationship. Men think of themselves first, because they know what they like. That's why many men stay married, when a marriage is down the drain, while most women feel dissatisfied, because they don't care. IT'S GOOD TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT TO THE FULLEST, MAXIMUM.

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

The Conscious Brotha


What's up with the conscious brotha's? He's such a warrior, sexy , strong, so charming, intellectual, smart, sensual, culturally in tuned and king like, right? OH yes he is. This brotha can talk your panties off at the drop of a dime, if you're into the gift of gab types. This brotha is all about Black supremacy and will not settle for any conversations that doesn't revolve around that. Everything must be Black, his soap, his bath tub, his toilet paper, his dog and even his name is Blacky. In fact, he sees the world in either, Black or White. There is no grey area with him. He is convinced that he has a purpose and it is to drive people crazy with his Black power talk.There are no simple conversations with this brotha. These types of guys do not play. They don't have a sense of humor and they don't make light of anything. Nothing is simple. They are talkers, not doers. They assume that everybody is lost and they may even talk to you like you are, before realizing who you are. In fact, he finds a way to revolve everything around race. A simple conversation : You say to him: " I went to the store today", his reply: "But did you stick to your roots on the way there". He finds a way to make every conversation relative to racial issues. In fact, nothing exist in his world but that. He doesn't know how to stop and smell the flowers, as they would say. He doesn't engage in things of the world. He doesn't live freely, because in his eyes, this is a White man's world. He needs constant reminders everyday of who he is and where he comes from, to sort of drum up his confidence and desire to be a King. He is not balanced. These men are usually insecure in so many ways, that they have developed a defense that justifies their current situation. They are not metaphysical whatsoever. They also aren't educated. They are self educated. Many of these brothas hang out at college libraries, and public libraries and book stores. They claim to be experts at any and everything. They look at a degree as, Why be educated when, education is set up by a White government? They may even say, Why work? that's the matrix, and it can crash. He may even feel like this, why have ambition? That's why supremacy. These men are very articulate and they play off of words and speak in rituals.You never know if you're talking to them or a lectured video and or a walking computer. They do not have minds of their own, most of their information is regurgitated. Remember, his being revolves around protecting a sort of persona, an alter ego. Not to mention , this brotha has about 25,000 of those. As charming as he may be, he is narcissistic, just as many people who don't know who they are or know how to think on their own, are. This brotha is so determined to make excuses for himself, the stance of his people, that he has totally stepped back into the past, and commands that we should all live the way we once did before being brought to America. The only thing is, the world wasn't as developed then, until slavery, which means, we kind of had to live without many appliances, that we have today. These brotahs forget that, Africa eventually developed into the land that it is today, and yeah, they don't live like villagers everywhere. These brothas act as if, keeping up good hygiene, being ambitious, dressing to the T, having nice teeth, nice hair, and a nice presentation is a form of being Eurocentric. The thing is, it's insulting, because that's like saying we should be like swinging off trees somewhere, scratching our asses. Instead of getting up off their asses and getting a life, and paying homage to their ancestors for inventing almost everything,i.e., the seametress, cotton bin inventors that made this world what it is today, they would rather turn back to the cave man days and make excuses for not living for today. The are rebellious and in many cases, insulting, demeaning and condscending. They believe that they know more, and they expect things to be a certain way. These brothas can also be very angry. They act as if it's the 1960's again and slavery will happen at any given time, so "we better be ready". They can be very delusional. In the conscious world, everyone thinks the same, their is no such thing as individuality. There are no vague conversations about the weather. No, they have a answer for everything, remember, they really believe that they are truly scientists, psychologists, philosophers, and Doctors, why? because they say so, lol. They have delusions of grandeur. They can be so narcissistic that, they may even reduce GOD, the creator. How could you, how disrespectful? They may put color to GOD, instead of leaving GOD colorless. They believe in doing what Whites have done for centuries, by just putting color to it. In the conscious world, everyone speaks the same, and uses the same kinds of words to describe things. All White people are the devil and all Black people are innocent Goddesses. Everything that goes wrong is the White man's fault, because only bad things like getting fired, evicted, car repossessed, etc, can only happen to Black people and no one else. They use this form of grammar to totally control one's thinking and actions. They may ask you for favors or ask you to do things that are inconvenient and or not plausible, and if you refuse, they will blame your Resistance on being hateful towards your race. Remember, anything that holds no racial balance, can be used for tyrannical purposes. Other races do this often. Black power brothas usually stick together. They trade information with their like minded male counterparts and they form a plea, that will blow your mind, no matter what it is. In fact, any small comment can fuse it. I was speaking to one of these types of men the other day and he happened to be flirting with me. When i replied with, "aren't you seeing someone"? he said, i don't want no queen. You would think that means, he doesn't want to see anyone right now. No, he said he would rather have a goddess than a queen, because a queen is too resistant, and will not take that ish. Where as, from his perspective, a goddess is willing to give him the power he seeks to have over her. When i asked him to elaborate, he told me, there was a whole lecture behind it. Most of everything these brotha's know, someone else taught them. He is repeating someone Else's words, so who he is, from day to day, changes often. These brothas also like to go by King. They always have names like, King George, King Solomon, Prince Al, Muhammad, etc. They always have the king in their name. Now how you going have that many kings in one land?
Oh, this brotha can be handsome, but if not, above all, he is charming and sensual. He is not overly sexual and would rather build with a woman, before being sexually involved with her, as GOD intended. He does believe in marriage and the foundation of his family. He is usually king of his household. He is not always harmonious. Remember, he is likely to feel inferior and he's trying to touch basis with his manhood and kingliness, just as his male ancestors once were, before being stripped of this right, owed to them during slavery. In many cases he is still finding himself. In the words of a "conscious" brotha i know, "the conscious rode is a lonely rode". Not to mention, these brotha's are usually players. They love women and they are okay with being vulnerable to them. They may even convince you that, in Africa, it is okay to have more than one wife, so it's okay to have more than one woman here in America to. They may hit on their woman's friends, at the right given time, and or their partners ex women. They don't care. They have created a, peace on earth persona. Therefore entertaining anything that is not "positive", is not advised. They will do things that may not be acceptable at times, believing that it's just spiritual. These brotha's have game, he will run that queen stuff to lure you in, so don't be fooled. He will try to make it seem like you are too independent as a woman and you should give up your crown to a man, who has given you no guarantees. He is a cheater and if he has a cultural connection with you, he is willing to cheat on his wife. He will give all types of excuses of why it's not really cheating. He'll take you on a date and say it's not a date, but a meeting. He will massage your feet and say, he's just healing a friend. He will flirt with you and say it's fine because things aren't going good in his marriage. Conscious brothas are very sensual, and dramatic about it. They will literally wash your feet, like homebody did Jada Picket in, Jason's Lyric.
Conscious brothas usually are broke and have no money, but they will trick you into believing that, the only reason you want to go out anywhere, is because you are living in a Euro centric mind frame. They will literally make you feel stupid. This brotha operates in a very judgmental way, and he takes on a position that, he has the right to validate who you are, your thoughts and feelings. They have many pre conceived notions, and they believe they already know you, because you fit in a category. These brothas actually believe that, sistahs have a hidden agenda, and in many cases, they have been taught not to trust women, because they are just too this or that. If you don't march to his drum, it's a problem. Remember, if he is willing to disrespect and reduce GOD, the almighty creator, then why not you? Remember that, if you refer to GOD as GOD and not Allah, he already has categorized you as worshiping a White Jesus. Therefore he will disrespect your faith, simply by misunderstanding that alone. Black conscious brothas have vocabulary's like they are Webster themselves. Since many of them don't have jobs and they choose to blame the government, yet sit around indirectly use the system, they have lots of time on their hands to read books and dictionaries. They even use words out of context sometimes. I once heard someone say, " I won't give up my avatar". These brothas will also attack your character if they feel that you are a threat to their thought process and alter ego. Know who you are, if you are going to be dealing with this brotha, because these types of brothas are a whole different ball game. In fact, most women dealing with them do not work and are completely under their power. They are repressed individuals, because these men do not accept talkative, strong women into their lives. It's unacceptable. They will not hear of it, therefore they will do whatever it takes to assassinate your character, until you utter and speak like them. Getting a woman to beat to their drum is a confidence boaster for these men. Sometimes they like to light your fire, just to see you go. These brothas wll try and shame you for the gifts you have and them being intimidated by them. They will put your education down, achievements down, etc. They'll say things to you like, "ooh you're a psychologists, a doctor, a philosopher"? " ohh so am I". In other words, they'll out down that your degree is a white man's matrix degree, yet define themselves with the same creditability you actually are an expert in. These people suffer from delusions of granduer. They call themsevles, doctors, experts, scientists, philosophers, yet they have no training, or education to back up the assertion. In fact, i had one Black power guy, who from my experience was very ignorant ask me, " so i see you have a master, so does that mean you mastered the field or do you just have a masters in the field?" lol What! That sounds like a crock of bullshit don't it? In other words, he was basically running a sort of reverse psychology, implying that there's a difference between mastering a field and having a masters in the field... lol You can have both, master a field and have a masters, but you can't master a field without having a masters in any field. As i said before, these men like to believe they are experts in fields because they have checked a few outdated books from the library and listened to a couple of lectures and etc. They can be very condecending towards women, and they believe women should just sit down, shut up, not be strong and pretty much oppressed. These men will run that feminine energy stuff on you, just to get a reaction our of you, don't go for it. Now, conscious single men, are just that, S-I-N-G-L-E by choice. They have so many issues, no woman wants them. I know of a woman who recently moved into a temple with brothas like this. Before she moved, she had a mind of her own, now she's a man in a skirt. She talks like a man, fights like a man, and hates like a man. She even conducts herself like a man. She has completely lost her feminine power. She's lost herself. There is nothing wrong with learing your roots and embracing them, but there is something wrong with cults and operating in a one mind mindset, in order to get there. That's why you must be careful, because with these brotha's, they are simply energy vampires, looking to suck all your energy. Oppression is oppression and it can come in any form. Remember that, a cult is a cult and you don't have to join one, in order to know thy truth about your roots! See the thing is, sometimes they get so obssessed with White supremecy issues that they begin to idiolize their slave masters, without even realizing. You think I'm lying, check out the nation islam and their newest partnership with scientology and newest white members. Farrakahan instigated the death of Malcolm X , due to changing his views against whites, yet condoned them linking up with Whites later in life. Ain't that a bitch, Malcolm X could have lived. Jealousy runneth deep, don't it? The point is, they get so locked into how their slave masters think, that they become addicited to taking everything white and making it black. Isn't that contradictory? There is no white Jesus, hell no! But although the bible states that his skin was bronze, hair of wool, i still don't put color to GOD. I believe people should know about their culture, and yes! I believe in the advancement and awareness of African history. I sure do, but where do these people get off thinking that you should submit yourself to their opinion and believe and think the way they want you to.

Believe GOD! Trust in God first, then yourself, allow no mortal being to validate or invalidate you.
These men expect to be worshiped, don't go for that. Please know who you are, if you are going to be dealing with these types.

All culturally in tuned brothas are not like that, trust!! There are some fantastically great balanced guys out there, who also know their roots and the truth. However, most are like the one's i described in this blog. Beware of energy vampires. It's nothing to play with.

And why does it seem like most brothas apart of this movement are Taurus men! Maybe because they have egos that need stroking lol

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Be A Pimp About Yours


Men see relationships similar to the way women see it, something worth investing in. The difference is, men may view a woman whom they are unsure about as a stock and will view a women they are completely sure about as an investment. Ladies, how many times have you said to yourself, "but he may change", "I'ma just wait this one out", "but he needs me", "I'ma change him"? exactly. How many times have you turned up the song, " ring the alarm", by Beyonce? Exactly, while a woman believes that every man is an investment, and something that she should be loyal to, men see it otherwise. Women don't know how to just walk away! How many times have you said to yourself, "this matha f***'s crazy"? , " or had a hunch that something just wasn't right? You stayed, didn't you? why, because it was an investment to you. Men know that their stocks can crash at any given time, so they know how to walk away when they feel something isn't right. but can you do that? Men do what feels best for their heart, they don't do things out of guilt. I once had a guy ask me if I felt guilty because a guy was feeling me and i did not feel obligated to go out with him, because i did not feel the same. Why should I? I have standards and preferences. Men know what they want, so know what you want, ladies. Men know who they are, and they do what's best for themselves first, so do you! Do what you want to do, they do. Let no one run your own shoes over. So if you want to date around, view the stock, take some time to decide, date more than one guy, be single, be a pimp about yours

Know the difference between an Investment, a stock and window shopping. Every man and every situation isn't worth investing in.

: - a thing that is worth buying because it may be profitable or useful in the future :
• an act of devoting time, effort, or energy to a particular undertaking with the expectation of a worthwhile result

Stock-in (or out of) stock (of goods) available (or unavailable) for immediate sale in a store.
on the stocks in construction or preparation: To have a specified amount of belief or faith in : I don't put much stock in modern medicine.
take stock review or make an overall assessment of a particular situation, typically as a prelude to making a decision : he needed a period of peace and quiet in order to take stock of his life.

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

What Makes A Good Healthy Black Relationship?

A user wants to know what makes a good Health Black Relationship? Here's my view

What makes a Healthy Black Relationship to me that I notice is, when two Black people respect and honor each other, gracefully. When they admire each others will, and adore each other's nature. When both parties don't try and be the chief and when they are both confident individuals, surpassing baggage and issues from childhood, which leads to affecting their current circumstance.

I also notice successful Black relationships, when it's GOD's will and they aren't forcing it where it doesn't fit. When both parties are successful and feel achieved, never hating on one another, only support, helping one another grow, leaving behind the

Last but not least, I think what makes a strong Black Union, is when a brotha is not intimidated by the strength of a sista's. He is not chauvinistic and he is not demeaning to her and he does not make her strength out to be something that should be denounced. Instead, he embraces it because he is confident, he is not narcissistic and he is strong himself. He does not wish for her to be inferior,so that he can feel superior. He knows what it really means to be a man, therefore she yields to his manliness and lets all walls down, because she trust him and she knows that his direction is for her own good and not just to benefit his ego, or narcissistic, GOD complex. She will never disrespect nor emasculate him.

Dig my poetry , lol : That's what i notice, in hEALTHY BLACK RELATIONSHIPS!!

Sunday, October 10, 2010

When a Man is Abusive


You ever notice how many have a natural ability to abuse? Men can be know it alls and chauvinistic, without even knowing it. Is it because us women are stronger these days? Is it because we're not as submissive like the good old days? Is it because men truly feel weak? Or is it a way of man oppressing and trying to keep a gal down? Abuse comes in many forms, rather emotional, physical, psychological, or verbal. I don't know if its the strong will of a woman, but men can be so abusive. Rather he's trying to get you to second guess your self, trying to argue with you, hate on you, play a mind game with you, isolate you, oppress you or verbally abuse you, it's some bull shit and it's wrong!!!! It is a form of abuse. If you listen long enough to a man with those traits, they will tell you why they're behaving this way. They may say something that revolves around being strong, being more "logical", or a woman being too strong. I had an ex- friend once say, "my friends and I don't like women who are on that Black Power stuff". What does that mean? Is it he and his friends that are truly weak and intimidated by a woman's strength? what he means is, a woman should sit back and shut up and not be strong, in other words. That's probably the reason why many movements fail, when a woman isn't involved. Men try so hard to be strong and king, that they may not realize that they are also being abusive in many forms. Oppression of any sort is, wrong!! It is abuse and if someone tries to oppress who you are, no matter what the form is, beware and stand clear. Don't take that!

Becoming Friends With His Family


When you meet a guy, aweee, the infatuation begins, and then the butterflies. For the desperate woman, these things start when he asks her for her number. How many of us meet a guy, become in awee with him and then suddenly we want to prove our position in his life? We want to prove just how good of a woman we will be to him, right? You may start making him breakfast, lunch, dinner, deserts, doing his laundry, showing extra caring traits, taking on his interests, etc. You may even become sexual with him too soon, if that's all you know. We do these things to prove ourself to that special guy. The way we try and seal the deal, which really puts icing on the cake is, becoming friends with his family, his friends, his frat brothers, and in some cases, his animals. That's the way a woman really thinks she holds power. Yes, having a good relationship with his mother is important, but becoming friends with his family and friends is so out of the question. Pump ya breaks ladies! You are not going to get closer with a man by trying to befriend his friends and family. In fact, most women try that same trick. Yes, it's innocent on your part, but It's funny how he never tries to get close with your family to win you over. I've never heard a guy say, " yea, i was chillin with her mom's and sorority sisters the other day". Yet, women brag about being close with a man's family and friends all the time. A man never wants to involve other people in his relationship. He wants to get to know you. That's why men never try to become cool with your friends and family too soon. It may happen, but not so soon, he takes his time getting to know you first, before going through the trouble. Women try to hard, you don't need the security blanket of his friends and family, in order to seal the deal. If realtionships with the people he is closest to, evolve between you and them, then that's fine, only because it happened naturally. Other than that, don't force it, and don't let him force it upon you. Because men secretly know that women try and pull the close one with their family and friends, they will sometimes try and test you around their friends and or if he has kids, he will test you around the child, to see how you fit. Don't let a man test you. Let him prove his self to you, by all means. Men are use to women trying to prove themselves but that confuses the man from being actively interested and you being receptively interested in him. Always know that a man is the active one, you are the receiver. In the beginning stages, just let it be, sit back, let nature takes it's course and watch and see what he offers.
Remember that song. "Me and You , Your Cousin and Your Mama, Too", that isn't real life ladies, stop trying to befriend his friends and family, to get closer to him. Let nature takes its course and let those things happen naturally. Besides, just because u chop it up with his family and or friends, doesn't mean he's decided on you, for long term. Just because he says he's looking to settle down, doesn't mean it's going to be with you, so take it easy.

Monday, October 4, 2010

When a Man Cheats

Jerry Springer, you ever waTCH it?

I notice that a lot of times when a man cheats, it's usually within close proximity. Either the person he cheats with lives down the street, works with him, and or it's your cousin or sister. Men will take any opportunity to cheat, especially if he's a dogg. Being in the fact that, doggs are the only one's that cheat. Do not be surprised if you are dating a dog, and he cheats with your friend or cousin, or sister. Besides, if your a woman with scanless friends, don't be surprised if she's willing to lay the pipe. Be careful who you surround yourself around. A scanless man, usually cheats in close proximity. Do not be surprised if he cheats with your friends or family members. They usually will cheat with what's closest to them.

Sunday, October 3, 2010

Men are know it all"s (Judgemental)

Where do men get off judging and calling you out. It makes you feel self conscious and it's intrusive. If you know what you're talking about, then you don't need my confirmation. Men always seem to define you. " You're this, you're that". They never seem to just let things be and exist. Men feel the need to quickly assess and they do this by testing you, without even realizing that they are intefering with an independent variable, which is behavior. In order to understand behavior, you must allow it to exist as an independent variable. The minute you tamper with behavior, thus causing a sort of reaction in others, then their behavior becomes dependent upon what has made them react. The best thing to do is, just exist, and watch objectively and naturally. Men don't know how to do this. They are so quick to judge and come to some quick decision about you, as if getting to know someone is a freaking driving quest. This isn't driving fella's, you can't just make a quick right or left turn and figure a woman out. It doesn't work that way. For some reason, men hate to admit they're wrong. Patiently waiting to know someone makes them feel dumb. A man that quickly judges, without fully collecting all the data 360 degrees around, can't stand it, it makes him feel lost, so he labels you and categorizes you. The wise man takes his time learning his prey. In fact, he won't irritate you or push your buttons to try and drive you crazy, so that he can supposedly see your true colors, while under stress. He knows this is untrue, so he sits back and just watches. Any educated, wise person understands that, a person does not act in nature when under stress. Do not let a man irritate you, judge you, and then label you as is. "People give so much weight to personality characteristics, and not enough weight to situational variables".

Men really need to relax and take a chill pill and stop judging women so quickly. No, all women are not the same and no, everyone does not belong in a category, and even if women were all the same, it's insulting to assume that right away, anyway. I know I'm not that easy (One of a kind). And NO MEN, YOU DON'T HAVE TO KNOW THINGS RIGHT AWAY, IN ORDER TO FEEL LIKE A SMART MAN. a wise man knows this!

What's up with Older LA Brothas?


Okay what is the deal with older LA men with no cell phones? Is this some sort of new trend, that's wack? I've met three older gentleman, pushing forty or a little under forty, who only had house phones. I mean, is this a sign of a broke man? or some player type ish? Does he have another life? or does he have a wife, & kids? i mean, what's up? It's not the nineties anymore, everyone has a cellular. Unless he's living in the ice age, he's living in a moorish society, or unless he's Amish, i don't see why he only has a house phone. Either he's broke or he likes a chase, and in either case, it's a lost-lost situation. Who has time for games. Usually these types of guys are quick to give you there number, "hey, let me give you my number". It's a numbers game with these guys. I'm not sure what this is all about but I notice a pattern of these guys having something missing about them. They're usually wack as hell, hella corny and old, womanless, or desperate. They give their (house numbers) to fifty thousand women a day, hoping at least one will call. They wouldn't care if it was a female monkey. Stay away from those wack azz men with house phones and no cellular's, they are a waste. They have something to hide, that's why they usually beg women to call them, instead of the other way around. They get rejected a lot! ha ha lol In fact, they target women who may be just desperate enough to call, because then their chances will be higher.

Next time a older gentleman in LA says, "hey, i really like you, and spits one of those love and first sight lines, from a romeo and juliet movie, and asks for you to call him. Tell him HELL NO, "I DON'T CALL MEN, MEN CALL ME" -Chi

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

A combination of my recent blogs

Know what you want! & Love thy self

 August 22, 2010

I recently read an inquiry about how men don’t commit, unless they feel they can’t do better or are afraid of loosing you. I also read that men prefer you to be bald and hairless in certain areas. Well, I’m here to tell you this, screw him and what he thinks. For every woman , there’s a mirror to match in a man. Know who you are, and love thy self. When you love yourself, everything else will fall into place. Know what you want in a man, and you will never have to worry about being dogged by one, because you won’t be taking scraps. Whenever you attract a man who doesn’t accept you or like something about you, it’s because it’s something within yourself that you don’t accept. KNOW THY SELF, EMBRACE THY SELF, AND KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. Everything will fall into place from there on.
In the words of Dave Chapelle, “women are comparing themselves against magazines and celebrities and the more they look at the pictures, the uglier and fatter they feel and when a woman doesn’t know she’s beautiful, well then hell, we all suffer, because then she will set the bar too low”. Men know this secret, but they will tell you anything to talk you out of truly loving yourself so that they can continue to get your panties and waste your time. Know your beauty, because it’s best for a man. He just doesn’t know it yet, so don’t change, don’t frail, do you. Stop being desperate and know that, “one man’s lost is another man’s treasure”


Posted by: flygyrl on: August 22, 2010

Men like to have fun, they are fun creatures. They enjoy being childlike, immature, goofy, free, and spontaneous.
Men like happy, vibrant women. If you find yourself being a complainer, hater, sad, dry personality type, then you’re in big trouble. Men don’t want that! They want someone who can make them laugh, someone they can laugh with. They want a woman who is free to go, and not over analyzing every second. They like women with energy. If you are sad, unhappy, depressed , negative and or etc, you could be pushing him away. Men like women that they can have fun with. Pick up the pace, speed it up, crank the music up, let your hair down, roll the windows down and enjoy life, because men do like vibrance.
Get Happy !! )

Men will not uplift you, so don’t wait for it

Posted by: flygyrl on: August 22, 2010

Unless a man is sent by God as your prince charming or unless he’s a friend used as a vessel to uplift you, he won’t sweety, so don’t wait for it. Men who have a special calling in your life to uplift you will do so. Men who are in your life for other causes will not uplift you. Think about how many times a guy secretly gave you a compliment that sounded like crap and made you want to puke afterwards? How often has a man invalidated your confidence? How man times have you made yourself look awesome for a man, only for him not to notice or insult you? If you’re waiting for a man to uplift your confidence and or affirm you, don’t waste your time. You might as well do it yourself. Uplift yourself, encourage yourself. Men know who they are, in fact, men like who they are. They don’t fish for compliments, like women do. They may do little extra stuff to get the lady’s attention, but they know when they look good! They rarely seek your approval. With a man,when he’s looking good, he knows it, and when you notice it, it’s like confirmation for him. They will never seek you to validate them, before they first validate themselves. The difference with women is, she has no confidence until a man gives it to her. Ladies, you have to know who you are, and never allow a man nor his actions to validate who you are, because the only time that happens is when you don’t know who you are. So know your talents, strengths, and greatness. When a man sees that you want his approval, he’ll do the opposite or switch it up at any given time, because now he’s in control, so just love and uplift yourself, they do it! I mean, you can’t put all your trust in man. In addition to that, a man may have a tendency to throw darts at you here and there, why, because they don’t like having the pressure of always uplifting your confidence, you do it for a change!
I always notice that anytime, I seek a man’s compliments, I give up my power. Love and compliment yourself and he will do the opposite of hating, which is, love what you’re all about.

A Man’s Testosterone Level

Posted by: flygyrl on: August 22, 2010

A brief conversation with student from a physiological psychology class, written by flygyrl:
"I like that point you made, this may be a reason why i notice that men define themselves by their penis size, and also their sperm count. Very subtle, huh? I see why it happens that way now, their hormones are produced in their testicles. You also said that women produce their hormone levels through their ovaries. I wonder if that is why a hormone, Oxytocin is released when a woman has sexual intercourse, gives birth and breast feeds. I also wonder if that is why she is so nurturing and shows her love through sexual attachments, when they do occur. It’s funny how you say that, men have less estrogen levels than women, thus producing more aggressive behaviors, determined by testosterone. I have been listening to men claim that, women are more aggressive than men these days. I think that’s a problem when you have a hormone floating around in your system that a woman has less of that produces aggression and she can be more aggressive than you.
The definition of Testosterone (wikipedia):
In men, testosterone plays a key role in the development of male reproductive tissues such as the testis and prostate as well as promoting secondary sexual characteristics such as increased muscle and bone mass and hair growth.[3] In addition, testosterone is essential for health and well-being[4] as well as the prevention of osteoporosis.
Now you see, men have a hormone in their body that only defines them as a man. Men have no reason to blame a woman for being more aggressive than he is today in society, unless of course, he has yet to do a ball check, which is exactly where the hormone testosterone is produced. LET’S DO A HAND CHECK FELLA’S. LOL

When a MAN Says Stop!!

Posted by: flygyrl on: August 21, 2010

Men always say, women are emotional, they talk too much, think too much, they complain too much and don’t give it up fast enough, and rarely enough. Men also hate when we consult our girlfriends for advice, swearing we don’t know squat! lol Well I’m here to tell you that what a man ask you to stop, it may not always be what’s best for him, but it could be best for you. Try an experiment. Without a woman’s words, men could never figure us out. Stop talking and see how much power you have. He won’t know rather he should go left or right. You will be able to wrap him around your fingers like what! Men say we think too much. try to stop thinking and see how fast he questions why you aren’t thinking about him enough, power. Stop consulting your girlfriends, and seek their advice and see just how screwed up you’ll be afterwards. They will talk to you like a man, just to keep you guessing. Men secretly hate for women to figured them out, it’s against their oath and who wants their cards pulled. "When women come together and figure them out, they hate that, so they say things like, why consult women?  they don’t know anything". Stop complaining and just sigh for a change, or when he asks what’s wrong, simply reply with, “nothing”, or “thanks a lot”, lol. See how much power you will have. Be unwise and give it up too soon if you want to, and guess what! he will not respect you; men only respect women that make them wait. Give it up more frequently, even when he’s undeserving and guess what, you become a sex object, which only he can associate with. Try to turn off the emotions, be head strong and overly logical and guess what, then he can’t break you down, break your confidence or through you off. Listen to his emotional complaints about women and his pleas for you to stop, do it and see how much power you will have. Men actually enjoy this upper hand they have over you, sometimes they just can’t deal with the trade.

Pet Names (but he calls me sweetheart)

Posted by: flygyrl on: August 20, 2010

But he calls me Baby, babes, sweetheart, love, honey, boo, all the nicknames, etc, he must be my baby beau too!
Guys will call you pet names, to try to ease their way into your life. If a guy likes you, instead of doing the hard work, he’ll sometimes call you baby,sweetheart, etc because it’s easier. For one, it paralyzes you,puts your guard down, and two, it’s easy for him to ease his way into your life , without doing the hard work, and last but not least, it gives the impression of closeness.
Okay, stop falling for that! I don’t care if he calls you sweetie, sweetheart, baby, babes, boo pop, love, or whatever, if you have no rapport with him, and you have not been together for a while or do not have some strong connection , that surpasses first names, don’t go for the okie doke. A man who hasn’t built rapport with you will only call you pet names, because it sounds like you’re all close and what not. It’s game. If you have not built a connection, chances are, he calls every girl that and he’s running game, to try to make you believe that you are closer with him than you really are. Pet names stem from history. Don’t fall for this trick. If you are his baby and you have built a foundation, then his pet name for you is legit, otherwise watch out, because it’s game. Don’t fall for the pet names, unless of course, it makes sense. Ain’t nothing wrong with liking it, heck, we all like it but just don’t fall for the depth of the meaning behind the pet name too soon.
Remember that, love at first sight is rare, and even then, love takes time. Connections always take time. Nothing happens overnight. Don’t believe the hype. When a man comes on too strong, it’s game. Men do not and rarely do they fall fast, and quick. They are timed creatures, so if he’s acting like he’s close to you and it’s only been a month or two, please,that’s how you know it’s game. Men take their time, unless of course, he’s desperate.
I met a guy on a Thursday once, and he tried to call me baby and sweetheart, by Friday, lol when i asked him to stop because he didn’t know me that well, he replied with, why can’t i call you that? it was game that I called him out on.
Peace and I’m outie.

So Should You Change for a Man ?

Posted by: flygyrl on: August 18, 2010

Since my last discussion of Black Men against Black women, it got a little steamy. What a touchy subject, but I have to now switch it up, address something else. So Should you change for a man? I ask first, who are you? Do you know? If you know who you are, accept who you are and love who you are, you will never feel the need to change, alter or create new habits just for a man. A man sometimes thinks he has the ability and power to change and mold a woman into what he wants her to be. I call it the, “alter effect”. A friend brought something to my attention today. She said, “why is it that men have an X and Y chromosome, yet they don’t understand us, and they share one of our chromosomes”. Wrong, it’s the other way around. Because men do share one of our chromosomes and they are female first, before created into a male sex, they do understand much more about women than we understand about men. I think men do understand many things about women, the difference is, they don’t accept what they receive a lot of times, and try to alter what is natural, by giving negative connotations to words associated with women, such as “emotional”. They also try to talk you out of certain habits, that may be natural. There’s a difference between understanding and agreeing. So should you alter yourself for them? No. The only time you should change yourself, is if it is best for you and only you. You should never change your style for any man. Be yourself and if he doesn’t like it, Ta hell with him! You are who you are, why should it change just because you met him. What he may not like, another man will. One man’s lost is another man’s treasure. Be someone else’s treasure and demand that respect. Men never change who they are for a relationship, they are “as is” merchandise. They look at things like this, “either you want to purchase or not”. Be as is merchandise and advertise yourself the way you are, and if he likes it, he’ll flock to it, if not ta hell with him. Men sometimes think that they have the power to validate a woman’s worth, no he doesn’t , only GOD can do that. Do not allow a man to validate you as worthy or unworhty. DO NOT CHANGE FOR A MAN!


Posted by: flygyrl on: August 13, 2010

Due to slavery and hardships the Black man has experienced in society, he is the most corrupted of all the genders within all the races . The Black woman isn’t even as corrupted mentally as he is. The White man has done nothing but try to keep the Black man down, so that he can’t be strong for his woman, as the head should be. In the slavery days, the Black man was torn from his family, emasculated, lynched, and in some cases, lynched with his penis cut off and stuffed in his mouth. The Black man was even called a boy by his slave master and was completely treated like a biyatch. They even beat the slave man in front of his woman, so that the slave women would believe that he was too weak to protect her. This created the term used today, “strong Black woman”. She had to take care of him, guide him and hold it down when his confidence and manhood was broken and when the slave man was torn from his family and moved from plantation to plantation, according to the White man’s plan. As the Black man was broken down constantly, they forgot one thing, to break the Black woman down, because their goal was to make her so strong that she would rule over her man, thus triggering the biyatch effect in him, which emasculated him, just as his slave master and society once did him. Due to the White man f****** the Black man over, he is lost as to what it means to be a man, the head, the provider. His syndrome, passed down from generation to generation, has only strengthened the women around him, thus forcing her to be the man and woman in many cases, i.e., in her household. Also during the slavery days, the White man was so fearful and insecure, that instead of just emasculating the Black man, he also warned him not to go near his woman. He was jealous of the beautiful dark skin, confidence, kingliness, nice body and long pea cock the Black man possessed , that could easily be associated with masculinity. Although the Black man never desired the White woman, the White man was terrified because of his own attraction to the beautiful, sexy Black woman, which he raped . He projected his own desires for the Black woman, onto the Black man, thinking that, he must feel the same for my woman. The Black man was opposite and attractive, therefore he warned his woman, “stay away from those n***** boys”. Although there may have been a curiosity on the White woman’s part, there wasn’t anything to worry about, horrifically. Due to the fear of the white man, the term “forbidden fruit” was created. Due to the White woman being forbidden, she yearned for the Black man even more. The Black man was so insecure and torn from who he truly was, similar to the way Simba was torn from being King in the lion king, which is a KING man, every now and again, he would be curious of trying something that made him feel equal to his slave master, rather than meant, going chicken fighting, having a higher slave position, like keeping the n***** in check or house n***** positions, or maybe even sex with a white girl, although this desire was rare. Anytime a slave man was perceived as confident and or free, he was oppressed and belittled and undermined, so that he would be put back in place. What message does this send to his mind frame? That he is constantly invalidated and will need to do anything it takes to validate him self. Once slavery ended and this world became more equal, and integrated, interracial dating became more popular. Black men have done any and everything to try to redeem themselves from being over powered and oppressed. Rather that means, leaving their families, abusing their women, being mannish, rapping vulgar lyrics towards their Black women, fucking white girls, being disrespectful , irresponsible, etc. Black men are so insecure within in themselves , that they actually think that being able to have any woman they want now, is making them of equal status in society. In fact, the honorable Elijah Mohammad explained in the 1960′s that White people were going to go through a repentance stage of 60 years, in which more equality would be seen , i.e., Obama for presidency, black people in higher economical positions, etc. and more White people will render themselves to Blacks. He also discussed the last trick of the white man, is his promotion of his woman to the Black man, not all but some will fall for the trick. It’s a trick to keep the Black race torn apart, and keep the black man against his woman, his queen. In addition to that, this also saves them from the ozone layer and their time, which is coming to an end on this earth, as more couples mix. Surely you didn’t think that after all that oppression, White people are kissing our butts, befriending us, and our men for no reason, right. No, by the turn of the century, the world will be Black again. It’s GOD’s plan, consult the creator, i did. Of course, the uneducated Black man wouldn’t know that. Black men love their Black women, but they are angry because they do not understand the system of what i just explained. They don’t understand the root. They would rather play the victim and not try to understand their place and how their experience has led to their own harsh behaviors. Instead of turning to GOD, or religious leaders and groups that can teach them what it means to be Black, in many cases, some Black men who aren’t rational of course, have decided that, the best way to get back at the world, their women and the White man is by, fucking their women, to get back at the White man for being fucked over in society and in life. This was confirmed by some Black men. It’s only a pay back thing and it’s very destructive behavior. Some of these men hate themselves, and they are mad at their women and White women. When they, pay back, they are only sabotaging themselves, but too stupid to realize it. BLack men, some, not all haven’t realized this domino effect yet, and they are so hateful towards their own women. Black men need to stop tearing their women down!! and realize what the root is and get to it. Stop saying we’re this and that, and look within your own selves. Although society has done you wrong, you have become your own worst enemy in so many ways. You can be irresponsible, lazy, uneducated ,weak acting hateful, mannish and angry. It’s disgusting. You have been taught to hate yourself and your people, and out of all races and genders, you are the only one’s that have no knowledge of who you really are. Black women know, that’s why they’re so loyal. Out of all the races, YOU Black men ARE THE ONLY ONE’S THAT DEGRADE YOUR OWN WOMEN, IN SONGS, MUSIC, MOVIES, MEDIA AND IN LIFE. At no point, should a Black man ever put down his Black Queen, ever! I don’t want to hear you use words, like bitch, or hoe that are considered anonymous with being a woman. It makes no sense to act as if she is not perfectly designed for you. It makes no sense to bash, what you attracted into your life. Be a man, and be responsible of your own choices. For every woman you bash, there’s a man to match. Stop putting your women down and stop hating yourself so much. and please, let’s get rid of the “y’all factor”. y’all Black women this, y’all Black women that! Look within yourself, and at your own faults. Cast the first stone, if you’re completely innocent. In the words of a woman’s article, “GOD made the Black woman in his image and loves her, so what makes you think you can invalidate her existence, as a mortal being”. Black women embody every trait and every characteristic that every woman has on earth. They all come from us, we are the first people. STOP putting down your mother, sister, aunts and daughters. Stop subliminally slapping us in the face! Stop being against yourself , since we are mirror images of one another. And please stop with these dumb azz cliché’s , “i love black women”, “strong Black women”. We are so sick n tired of hearing these terms as if it’s abnormal or something. I mean, you’re supposed to love Black women, what else? I never heard of a cat going up to another cat and in their cat language say, ” I love felines”. Duh, of course you love us, as you should, but when men start saying it to get some sort of reward or cookie for it, something is wrong. You are supposed to love your own kind, your own women. A woman should be strong, what else would she be if not strong, weak? My question is, so the women won’t stand alone, where the strong BLACK MEN???? And brotha’s, please stop labeling us incorrectly, i.e., Angry Black woman. I’ve haven’t met too many of those, but I have met hurt Black women, who need and deserve to be loved. I met Black women who have been dogged and abandoned by their Black men, even church going brotha’s. We’re tired of waiting, so love us first, and be our covenant. We’re tired of you allowing the devil to use you against us and your own race of people. A man of GOD never dips easy. He sticks with his woman and loves and cherishes her like christ loved the church. When will this stupidity end. We must stick together and love one another in order to rise. You cannot rise without your people, so Black men, get off the bullshit. And down low brotha’s , we know who you are, we just don’t say it to your face, please stop trying to play like you hate your own women, because you’re gay. It’s a COVER UP, THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH US. COME OUT THE CLOSET.
No woman on earth holds a candle to the Black woman. We are the shit! 36O degrees around, in every way possible. From our brains, swag, soul, flavor, strength to everything else, you name it. WE ARE THE SEXIEST. Although majority Black men are with Black women, a handful have bad issues towards being against their own women, and their rubbing off. FIND A GOOD BLACK WOMAN AND STICK TO HER. LEAVE THE HOOCHIES ALONE AND FIX YOUR OWN PROBLEMS, BE A MAN AND A MAN OF GOD, AND THERE YOU WILL FIND YOUR DREAM COME TRUE, YOUR QUEEN! When you become a real man to her, a man of integrity, the drama and problems will cease. She will be easy, loving and will yield to your presence. I know I yield to real man! boo yow

Friday, June 4, 2010

Never Chase After a MaN !

Never , ever chase after a man. If a man sends the message that he wants to be chased, run like hell. A real man hunts. You will not chase him, not today, not at the expense of your self esteem, and not ever! You are not a dog; you are a prize. You are a woman, a treasure to a man,know that. A man who doesn't want to chase after the girl he wants is pathetic, insecure or probably not a hunter. If a man sends the message that he wants you to chase after him and or do half the work, he's lazy, looking for a fan club or he's probably just afraid of rejection. In that case, you don't want him anyway. Never let a man confuse long term girl with fan club girl. If you chase after a man, he won't respect you in the end. They respect the women that don't come easy,no matter what they say. No matter how much a man denies this fact; they will always remember the girl that they could not conquer or the one they had to fight for. It's the American dream. Don't show desperation, be a queen. Never, ever chase after a man, he will not respect, adore or desire you in the end. If you do happen to have a good relationship with a man that you chased after, just see how long it will last. Most likely, he desires a woman that he cannot have and she's the one who gives him a run for his money.

In the animal world, it's the male that seeks the female animal. The female presents the opportunity. We're all animals, aren't we?

This message was written by a young lady on yahoo answers: "I think it is not so much of the "ignoring game" or the "playing hard to get", its more about being confident and not falling head over heals for a man, but instead waiting until he makes the moves. Don't let him read you too quickly and i think that's what makes a man chase a woman..."

In the book and movie, "He's Just Not that into you", it says that, if a man is into you, he will pursue you, no matter how busy he is and he will make plans in advance to make sure you're available. There are no doubts about how a man feels about you, if he is interested in pursuing a friendship with you.

Monday, April 26, 2010

A man only respects a woman when....

A man only respects a woman to the level that he deserves to be respected. In other words, if you're dealing with a foolish man, with no respect for him self, he will not respect you either. If he doesn't deserve to be honored, then he won't respect you for honoring him. A man who deserves respect and is about something respects the woman who is attracted to him for that reason. As smart as I am , I once had a guy call me dumb. I asked him why he would say such a dumb thing to me and he replied with, "because you're entertaining my dumb ass". My point is, his comment had nothing to do with my intelligence, but all to do with him. He knew that he was a turd and because i actually conversed with him and exchanged a few words with him, he lost respect for me at that moment. This may be a reason why nice guys say things like, "nice guys finish last". A nice guy knows he nice, but he lacks respect for a woman that doesn't recognize him for being nice and goes for the bad boys. A man will only respect you to the level that he deserves respect. Watch how a man conducts himself. If he thinks highly of himself and behaves correctly around you , he may be a keeper and or someone who will treat you with high regard. A man knows when he's foolish or when he's a good guy and he will only respect you to the level in which he behaves around you and or carries himself.

Take heed, I always say that people who have low self esteem, either have low esteem because they are no in tuned with their positive traits and or they do know the truth about themselves and they recognize that they don't have good character.

Just as a person that feels good about themselves. A person that feels good about themselves either feel that way because one, they see how great they really are, or two, they don't have adaquate self esteem anyway.

A man will only treat you in terms of how he deserves to be treated.

Don't Give it up!

SEX, SEX, SEX. Everywhere you turn around that's what everyone is talking about, as if its some sort of trend or something. The STD rates and HIV rates and all other sexually transmitted disease rates are higher than they have ever been. Who would have known that, sex would become a national, cultural trend, like getting new Jordans. It's no wonder people put virginal women on a pedistol, scrutinize or disbelieve her when she expresses her need to wait.

Well girlfriend, I'm here to tell you this, don't give it up!!! A man only respects a woman's body whom he had to wait for. If you don't believe me, just observe how he talks to you, touches you and treats you before he recognizes your body as a temple and not just a whole to penetrate. When he associates you as just a sexual object, he no longer treats you as delicately as he treats the wholesome girl who makes him wait! In fact, when you make him wait, he then views you as a person, a human being, a lady, a woman of class and not just, junk in trunk. Do not give it up ladies. This world is far to corrupted to be having casual sex. In fact, until men can become masculine men as they once were, who are leaders by nature and hunters, I don't think you should give it up at all. Many women think they can teach a man a lesson, once he's messed up. I got news for you, until a man can accept responsibility for being a man, a pursuer and his life is in order, as Steve Harvey would say and he is righteous, he won't learn his lesson and if you've given it up to him, you have even more on your plate because now he's confused. He's not a responsible real man, he's not taking care of business, yet he gets the reward of a woman's body and now she wants to teach him a lesson, instead of not giving him any in the first place. You want to teach a man a lesson? Well the best way to do it is, to not give him any in the first place. Besides, in the words of Kirk Franklin, "sex out of wedlock confuses things". Don't be a horn ball ladies, save face.
If you've already made a mistake, then forgive yourself and start over fresh, the right way. Don't continue with your old patterns.
Every girl isn't wholesome and virginal, but you can be virtuous and live the right way.


Friday, March 19, 2010

What Happened to Real Men ( and the chase)

According to Mimi Tammer: This is what she has to say about the game

"For a GREAT woman, a man may grovel if he has been
ignoring her and is about to lose her! Then IMHO a
wise man will make his feelings clear.

It IS possible for a woman to take ignoring a man
too far - to the point that he thinks she doesn't
like him at all. (That is not what she did here.
All she did was ignore him for a short while
because she knew something was not right.)

On the other hand, so many men are afraid to step up
to the plate and go after a woman. What a waste.
And like this man, they expect HER to go after him!!

They say, "Hey, the phone is a 2-way street."

Whatever happened to the chase? Men who REALLY
WANT a woman will, will, will chase her!

And women like to be wanted. Men - when they are not
suppressing their innate desire to chase - like to
"catch" a woman, too. It's intensely rewarding for
them to finally "get the girl
" - and this is the
storyline for just about every love story.

The Chase can be a very mutually rewarding experience
but society only has itself to blame for breeding a
generation of girly men
. Men are now scared to death
of our wrath and they cover their bases and cower -
and now we women have to deal with the fallout and
no one is very happy!"

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Emotionally Unavailable Men

Although men are more complex than given credit for, they aren't as complex as they seem. They are simple as well. With a man there's rarely an in between, they're either in or out. Men are action oriented, so if his actions are contradictory with his words, believe his actions!!!! If he has one foot out the door, while the other one is in, he's emotionally unavaliable. If he says he'll call and never does, he's not available. If he texts all the time, and uses online forums, or computer devices, such as emailing, facebook, BBM, he's emotionally unavaiable, do not be fooled! What man that is mentally ready avoids live contact? not a man that's really into you, that's embracing your glow. If he is not making you apart of his world and seems quite distant, he's emotionally unavailable. If he keeps you at arms length, beware. If he says he wants to see you, yet breaks dates, flakes, never calls to cancel and comes around when he wants to, he's emotionally unavilable. If he's recently out of a relationships or still carrying baggage from his last relationship, stay clear. Don't waste your time trying to figure out an emotionally unavailable man's agenda, because if a man really wants to be with you, there will be no second guessing or analyzing the situation. He won't be driving you crazy, with confusing thoughts of, "he loves me, he loves me not" or "he seemed so excited to be around me last Tuesday but things have changed since then" kind of thoughts.

If he's sending mix messages and he's not your partner, nor making you apart of his world, he is not avaliable emotionally. Allow no excuses to steer you clear from knowing this. If he has excuses about his current mental state, then there you go, there's the confirmation of an emotionally unavailable man!

If a man is actively, and strongly seeking you, and wants to be with you, there will be no skepticism. He will not be questionable because he will be so available to you!

Don't Believe

Don't believe that anything you do will cause a man not to desire you. If he doesn't desire you than that's what it is. If a person wants to be in your life, than there's nothing you can do to change that otherwise. Don't think for one second that, something you said or did pushed him away. If he really wants to be in your life, he will allow nothing to hold him back. Think about it, your friends know exactly what to do in order to make you feel good, and they don't judge you or end friendships with you when you do certain things, so why would he? "If a man desires you, ain't no running him off"-Steve Harvey. Men play against this and try to make you feel like you have done something to make them want you or not desire you, but this is far from the truth. A man will think how he wants to think about you, regardless of what you do or say.

Be yourself , enjoy yourself, do you, live your life. Don't believe for one second you have done something to turn him against you!

Either he wants you or not

Friday, March 12, 2010

Men treat you the way you treat yourself.

Men size you up from day one. They notice everything about you. They notice what you accept from them, what you don't accept and what you stand for and value. A man first notices how you treat yourself. If he sees that, you expect only the best for yourself, he will then know how to correspond. Men may even test you to see just how much you value yourself. If he has nothing to offer but crumbs and you entertain him, he knows you do not expect the best for yourself in romance. A man analyzes if you are high or low maintaenece. If you don't treat yourself well, nor will he. If you respect yourself, then so will he.
P.S. The men that complain about the quote un quote gold diggers, no non sense, spoiled, higher than thou on a pedistol chicks, are the one's they fall for and commit to. Why, because men know one thing, "she values herself and won't take any thing less than what she desires". They'll never tell you this because, a man will treat you which ever way benenfits him most.

Men treat you the way they see you treating yourself.

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Trust in Yourself and Believe in Yourself

Love yourself Ladies!!!

Have standards, boundaries and rules! Be not afraid to express them. A man will walk all over you, if you let him. In fact, it doesn't even matter if he's a good guy, religious guy,or bad boy. If you let him get away with anything, no matter how small it is, he will degrade you. Keep it real and let it be known. Stand up for yourself, and love your self. Do it for self love. Don't allow him to manipulate you into thinking you love yourself too much. It's none of his business, you're doing it for self love!

No one will respect you if you don't.

Never listen to his words (Watch his actions)!

As a man speakith, so is he. If he's talking, that's just what he is, a talker. Never believe what he's telling you and or promising you. Believe what he does and let him show you. Men are more action oriented. Don't fall for the okie doke. Don't fall for a man who says that he doesn't want to show you off in front of his families and friends. Never believe a man who claims that he doesn't want to bring you around, for the sake of running into his ex girlfriend, babies mother or ex wife. He's just not that into you. A man does not care who he hurts, when it comes to the woman he loves. He's just not that into it, if he has excuses. Men break hearts all the time, when it comes to following their own hearts desires, trust me. Trust no mans words, watch his actions.

P.S. I know of a guy who attends my church,who barely talks or calls, yet he's determined to search for me every church service. He follows me around, waits for me at places he knows I will show up and he begs to take me out, and he doesn't even have much money. In fact, he'll spend his last five dollars on me, just because he wants to be around me. That's action! A mans words is never enough, and don't you believe it is. No matter who he thinks he is, his words will reveal his true nature,because as a man speaketh, so is he. Watch a man's actions, never believe his words, unless of course,he backs it up with action. winks.

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Never stay Pass your due date!

A man knows when he should be left alone. Never ever stay pass your due date. If a man does one thing that is out of line,or over steps your boundaries, hit the road! If it's a sign, it's a sign. A man knows when a woman should hit the road, but he won't say anything until it's done. In fact, don't fall for a man who begs for you not to leave him alone after he has misbehaved, it's a trap. If you stick around, he still won't respect you, and most likely will do whatever it was that upset you in the first place again, and why? Because men respect those who respect themselves. He admires the woman who will leave him,if he's inappropriate. Men love to be spanked when they have misconduct. Men respect a woman who dumps him when he deserves it. A man will never respect you if you allow him to disrespect you once and you stick around. Know your boundaries and hit the road when you feel it's right, leave no notes or explanations, he knows what he has done to deserve such a punishment. This may be a reason why, when you tell it like it is, he gets aroused. Men know when they should be put in check, told off or dumped! They sometimes even test you, to see where your self value is, by observing what you choose to stand for and not put up with. Men love a woman who values her self worth.

Never stay pass your due date. No matter how little or how small your reasoning is, a man will never respect you if you do.