Monday, April 26, 2010

A man only respects a woman when....

A man only respects a woman to the level that he deserves to be respected. In other words, if you're dealing with a foolish man, with no respect for him self, he will not respect you either. If he doesn't deserve to be honored, then he won't respect you for honoring him. A man who deserves respect and is about something respects the woman who is attracted to him for that reason. As smart as I am , I once had a guy call me dumb. I asked him why he would say such a dumb thing to me and he replied with, "because you're entertaining my dumb ass". My point is, his comment had nothing to do with my intelligence, but all to do with him. He knew that he was a turd and because i actually conversed with him and exchanged a few words with him, he lost respect for me at that moment. This may be a reason why nice guys say things like, "nice guys finish last". A nice guy knows he nice, but he lacks respect for a woman that doesn't recognize him for being nice and goes for the bad boys. A man will only respect you to the level that he deserves respect. Watch how a man conducts himself. If he thinks highly of himself and behaves correctly around you , he may be a keeper and or someone who will treat you with high regard. A man knows when he's foolish or when he's a good guy and he will only respect you to the level in which he behaves around you and or carries himself.

Take heed, I always say that people who have low self esteem, either have low esteem because they are no in tuned with their positive traits and or they do know the truth about themselves and they recognize that they don't have good character.

Just as a person that feels good about themselves. A person that feels good about themselves either feel that way because one, they see how great they really are, or two, they don't have adaquate self esteem anyway.

A man will only treat you in terms of how he deserves to be treated.

Don't Give it up!

SEX, SEX, SEX. Everywhere you turn around that's what everyone is talking about, as if its some sort of trend or something. The STD rates and HIV rates and all other sexually transmitted disease rates are higher than they have ever been. Who would have known that, sex would become a national, cultural trend, like getting new Jordans. It's no wonder people put virginal women on a pedistol, scrutinize or disbelieve her when she expresses her need to wait.

Well girlfriend, I'm here to tell you this, don't give it up!!! A man only respects a woman's body whom he had to wait for. If you don't believe me, just observe how he talks to you, touches you and treats you before he recognizes your body as a temple and not just a whole to penetrate. When he associates you as just a sexual object, he no longer treats you as delicately as he treats the wholesome girl who makes him wait! In fact, when you make him wait, he then views you as a person, a human being, a lady, a woman of class and not just, junk in trunk. Do not give it up ladies. This world is far to corrupted to be having casual sex. In fact, until men can become masculine men as they once were, who are leaders by nature and hunters, I don't think you should give it up at all. Many women think they can teach a man a lesson, once he's messed up. I got news for you, until a man can accept responsibility for being a man, a pursuer and his life is in order, as Steve Harvey would say and he is righteous, he won't learn his lesson and if you've given it up to him, you have even more on your plate because now he's confused. He's not a responsible real man, he's not taking care of business, yet he gets the reward of a woman's body and now she wants to teach him a lesson, instead of not giving him any in the first place. You want to teach a man a lesson? Well the best way to do it is, to not give him any in the first place. Besides, in the words of Kirk Franklin, "sex out of wedlock confuses things". Don't be a horn ball ladies, save face.
If you've already made a mistake, then forgive yourself and start over fresh, the right way. Don't continue with your old patterns.
Every girl isn't wholesome and virginal, but you can be virtuous and live the right way.