male-decode : 2014

Thursday, May 8, 2014

Please Do Not Check This Blog Any Longer (Male Decoded Has Moved)

Hello, I am noticing that people are still viewing this site. I thank you for being linked to my blog and for visiting this site. However, Male Decoded has moved. I now have my own website and I offer more than just blogging services. If you are interested in continuing to view my blog and the rest of what I have to offer, please visit my new site at www.maledecoded.com Again, my new site is Male Decoded Follow me at: Relationships 1O

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

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Monday, April 21, 2014

A Man Will Move On You, If ....

Hello

The same way that, a dog can smell fear and will attack and the same way a person can sense fear or weakness on another person and as a result, they will attack and the same way a police officer can sense one who doesn't know their rights and will violate and the same way a racist White person can sense when a beautiful Black king or Black queen doesn't know their royalty, is the same exact way a man can sense when you don't know your worth and when he senses that, he will move on you!

Put it like this , insecurity is weak. Lack of knowledge is weak. Fear is weak. Ignorance of the law is weak. Lack of self love is weak. Weakness is weakness. If you don't know who you are and you don't conduct yourself like a prize , your as good as any other weakness, that renders consequences. What makes insecurity any different. If you do not feel good about yourself when it comes to a man, that is a weakness and he will attack. Matthew 7:6 states, “Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you". Period!

Forget this new era of men acting as if they are the prize. Although men are beautiful beyond measure and I love them dearly, this whole little, " I don't need women attitude and I'm the prize jazz is, bologna". Men have no right to act like douche bags when they need us so badly. In fact, a man with a douche bag attitude , is only playing off of your , read the above , "your weakness". A man is a predator, while a woman is prey. If a man is hungry enough he will eat. Therefore don't feed yourself into the trap, and do not throw yourself to the wolves, because if he starving, he will hunt. Do you get my drift? Men cannot even survive without women, just read the book: "the power of the pussy". Men need us and yes we need them too, but they need us just a little more. I am not for sex out of wedloc, I am just making a point here. Men cannot live without sex , while a woman can. Men need our feminine energy to balance things out.

Ladies, din din is din-din! Just as any other situations; your weakness can lead to your devour. Get rid of your weaknesses today.

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Saturday, April 19, 2014

Male Decoded Has Moved (Say Goodbye)

Hello, Due to my many loyal readers and because I have gained many viewers all over the globe, I now have my own website. Can you believe it? Thanks to you and your loyalty. I could have not done this without any of my loyal viewers. My new website is more than just a blog. The new Male Decoded website, will include, daily blog entries, newsletter sign up, a chat room, recommended readings, about author section, my soon to come ebooks for purchase,and much more. I'm even offering coaching services, which will be listed in coaching sessions on the website. This website will be so much more resourceful. The new website is: www.maledecoded.com Please join me there as I will no longer be writing on this site. My new website is www.maledecoded.com

Monday, March 17, 2014

Getting A Man

I've received so many blog reviews that, I finally turned my blog into something bigger. If you're interested in knowing more about the behavior of men, tune into www.maledecoded.com follow me @Relationships 1O Hello Readers: Let me start off by saying, you can do absolutely nothing to get a man. Why, you ask? Because, being with someone is simply based off of God's destiny for your life. Love will only happen for you during the right time and right place and of course, the right season. People who give advice to you about how to get a man are wasting your time. I say that they are wasting your time, because there aren't any statistics that state being this way or that way or doing this or that, will gaurantee you a man. In fact, every relationship advisor, is an expert. Why are they experts? because they succeeded in getting into a relationship and maintaining one. Its a simple as, finding the perfect diet for yourself. Finding the perfect diet for yourself does not make one an expert, however, people who diet and exercise believe their system will work for all, or at least some. I am a firm believer on, whatever works for the person, makes that person an expert at their life, no one elses. As you can see, many of my blog entries are about the male psyche, behaviors on a psychological level, as well as, people being in touch with their self, loving who they are and finding empowerment within themselves.elationship advisors are experts (sarcasm). They are experts because they figured out what worked for them and how that same strategy could work for others. They are simply projecting their own experiences onto the world. I am here to tell you, nothing you read nor or advised to do will work for you. You must design your own romance program for yourself, to see the magic happen. What works for you? What makes your heart sink? What makes your heart sing? What makes you happy? What makes you sad? What is it that you want? What should you avoid,which can be detrimental to you? I'll prove it to you. I have read that, men desire sweet women; someone who will be nice to him. I have read, "Why Men Love Bitches". I have read, "Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man". I have read, "Be A Rules Girl". I have heard, smile when you see a man. I have read, don't smile when you see a man, because it comes off as eager and desparate. I have heard, " there's nothing wrong with speaking to a man first". I have read, "Never speak to a man first". I have heard, "Men like women with meat on their bones". Everything that I read or hear contradicts the next thing. My point is, it is absolutely nothing you can do to get a man. You can smile, play games, be well dressed, be nice, loving , kind, caring, sensitive to his needs, loyal and still be single, or maybe taken. However, on the flip side of that, you can be, nasty, grumpy, bitchy, abusive, dismissive, mean, as one author suggests in her book, "Men Love Abuse". You do all those naughty things and actually be in a committed relationship and or be single. It all depends on the man you attract. Some good women attract losers, while some bad women attract winners. You have to understand your psychology to figure it out. I have observed women, that possessed unattractive traits, such as, unattractive features, bad character, etc, which society would define as a woman who can't get a man get nor keep a man and guess what? Those women were either in relationships, married, were mothers, divorced,etc. I've also observed beautiful women, who were desirable, dreamy, successful, educated and smart, whom society would consider the type of traits, which would attract and keep a man and they were some of the most single, hurt and disappointed women around town. I have heard of prostitutes and strippers, who found love, all while tricking. There are plenty of church going women, and or levelheaded women, who are single. What I am saying is, no matter what traits you possess good or bad, you can still attract a man and or you can repel a man. I once met a man who dated a woman, who told him he wasn't anything everyday. He continued to go back home to this woman. When i was as sweet as a butterfy, men ran over me. Although still sweet, when I became no non sense, aka, "why men love bithes", men fell all over me and were obssessed with me. Now, im somewhere in between and its all confusing! lol My point is, because of who I am, men have to come correct. Due to that, men are very attracted to my no non sense, hit the rode Jack, attitude. Remember ladies, this world that we live in is a joke. When you expect nothing, life falls right into your lap. When you expect greatness, you get the opposite. People want what they cant have and don't want what they have. That's an ass backwards world to live in , but unfortunately, its reality. This is not God's world. This is the devils land. This world is earthly, while God's world, is perfect and full of love and respect, no heartache. For that reason alone, you will see many contradictions in the world. In the words of my pastor, " This world for us is temporary and that's why one minute you are the cats meow and the dogs bow wow and the next minute, you're at an all time low". Do not let this world's misconceptions and contradictions have you confused! Define your reality!

Sunday, March 2, 2014

Before U Let A Man Into Your Life

Hello,

When we meet a man, it's like aweeeeeee! Birds chirping , sunny outside , Music playing where there is no music and good people. Well, at least that's how high I feel! Lol

I have realized that men bum Rush their way into my life. First, I meet them and the next thing they have my number and the next day my life changes for good. Lol All of a sudden I'm getting bombarded with text message feast, "Good Morning beautiful" messages and all! Lol omg , what happened? Love doesn't happen over night and no, Mr. I didn't invite you into my life so please pump your breaks.

Always question a man sending those typical, "Good Morning" messages! It's always a red flag. Real men in pursuit mode don't have time to send daily morning affirmations to your doorsteps. In fact, a real man barely texts! Because texting to a man on the prowl should feel similar to getting cheated. A man that's hungry doesn't want to nibble on crumbs, he wants the whole feast. He wants to see you, touch you, hug you and eventually love you. Always remember that, a man talking or texting too much is covering his inaction.

Let me get back on task here. Men don't not know you existed yesterday and boom! Abra kadabra , they're consuming your life the next day! Those are red flags sweety! Men rarely fall in love at first sight, as often as women do! They're just living in the moment. A man moving too fast is a sure sign that he is not a keeper! He's Just trying to get it all in , because he's living in the moment.

Before you let any many into your life, make sure he is for one, about you & only you! Men are infamous for showing up and showing out but leaving nothing behind. Make sure that a man is for you and supports you before you invite him into your life. Per! No free passes! Seats are for RSVP guest only!

If you are a teacher , writer ,psychologists , freelancer, actor, educator , artist, humanitarian, MD, veterinarian , engineer, reporter , mechanic , real estate agent, whatever you are , if a man can not support you nor be about you in your endeavors, he should not get free tickets to view the concert of your life! Why? Because he will only distract and destroy you. Just look at all successful people , men and women. The closest people around them are about their life! No freebies! Make sure he's about your life before you allow him access into your life.

Remember, men live for the moment, while you as a woman lives for the future!

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

The Only Way To Bring Out The Best In Him

It's your boy, Devon Bradway,

here with another "Male Confessions" Newsletter!

Today, I'll be talking to those of you who are currently

seeing a guy... but feel a bit unimportant in his life.

Do you feel like he's taking you for granted? Or does he

make a lot of promises, but can't keep most of them?

Or does he treat you like a girlfriend or wife... but

you're not OFFICIALLY his girlfriend or wife, because he

doesn't want to commit to a serious relationship?

I know how frustrating it might be to see other women -

some of them your own girlfriends - hook up with guys who

make them feel very special.

These men are attentive, devoted, funny, hardworking, and

loving. They have their lives and their relationships in

order. They spend every single day of their lives making

"happily ever after" happen for themselves and the women

in their lives.

So why do some guys embody the "Prince Charming" persona,

while others don't?

Answer: It's all because of a trend that's going on in the

dating game today, that's both a blessing AND a curse to

women all over the world...

Why There's A Shortage

Of "Real Men" Today

Here's a fact: These days, guys don't chase anymore.

Do you agree with that?

In the past, guys would trip over themselves to earn the

love and affection of a girl they liked. But these days,

thanks to the "gender equality" movement, more and more

women believe they have every right to chase guys, too.

And they do. That's definitely a choice every woman is

free to make.

All I'm saying that, after serving as a relationships

coach for years, I know for a fact that things work so

much better when it's the GUY who chases.

And it's not because of our ego or our pride.

It's because of something MUCH DEEPER than that:

"The Chase" Brings Out

The BEST Qualities In A Guy

When a guy actively pursues you, many great things happen

to him:

- If he was once "not interested in a serious

relationship," all of a sudden he'll do whatever it takes

to win your undivided love and attention.

- If he was once irresponsible and flaky, all of a sudden

he'll start keeping his promises, turning almost overnight

into a "man of his word."

- If he was once self-absorbed and followed his own rules,

suddenly he'll start getting his life in order... as if

preparing for a very special woman to share it with.

- If he was once living just for himself, all of a sudden

you're his #1 priority... and every decision he makes is

geared towards chasing you, catching you, and making you

happy for the rest of your life.

This is all due to a fact that surprisingly few women know

about: That a man's natural "leadership" and "alpha"

qualities kick in only when he's chasing, pursuing, or

working hard to achieve something BIG.

Ever noticed how passionate guys are about sports? That's

because sports represent something deeply important to us:

Competition.

For us to VALUE something, we have to WIN it. And we'll go

through pain, suffering, and humiliation to do it.

Yes, it's not logical. But is LOVE logical? ;)

That's why, when you chase a guy - or at least, when you

don't make him feel like he's chasing you - then he rarely

exhibits the sexy male qualities you expect.

He's hot-and-cold. He's flaky. He's wishy-washy. He makes

promises but doesn't keep them.

I hope you get the picture by now.

If you want him to be a REAL MAN, you have to make him

chase you.

And that's not as simple as it may sound...

The Right And Wrong Ways

To Make Him Chase You

The WRONG way to make him chase is by tricking him,

leading him on, or playing with his feelings.

Believe me: Guys aren't dumb. (Ahem... who wrote this

Newsletter you're reading right now? ;)

Okay... so we're not as smart as you ladies, I'll give you

that. But we're at least smart enough to know if you're

leading us on or playing tricks on us. And trust me,

that's NOT the kind of competition we like.

What's the right way to make a guy chase you?

Simple - by making the chase as fun, interesting, and

exciting as you possibly can.

By doing so, you bring out a host of great male qualities

in him: Confidence, maturity, hard work, strength of heart

and mind, devotion to family, an honor code, and more!

So that's your choice right now. Would you like a guy

who's hot-and-cold and non-committing... or someone who

spends every waking moment expressing his love and

devotion in many wonderful ways?

Thursday, February 13, 2014

The Golden Rule

Hello, Male Decoded has moved and changed locations. Please refer to my new website at www.maledecoded.com My new blog location will offer more services to my readers. I will no longer write on this site, so please visit new blog site. www.maledecoded.com Follow me @Relationships 1O In the rules book, it states," A guys intentions cannot be revealed, by revealing your hand; you just have to listen for cues". We are all guilty of this. We meet a guy and instead of listening and learning our new crush, we tell him what we desire and feed him the answers , instead of listening for his personal cues. Due to this, men tell you what you want to hear, not what you need to hear. If you listen for cues, red flags and personals in the beginning , his intentions will be revealed. No offense to any man who reads this. I use all experiences to explain most things. I met a guy who starting off joking around with me on Facebook and that lead into jokes about vacationing in Hawaii. Well, apparantenly, this man was all about the fantasies, because his patterns, lack of planning . and comments revealed it. This man also claimed to be celibate, until marriage, yet he talked about sex all the time, sent me shirtless pictures and video chats.

He was also highly vain and obsessed with himself. What does this reveal? It reveals that the physical is all he has to offer. There isn't much there underneath his looks. His intentions also revealed , "fantasy relationship". I also once met a man who sort of misunderstood every single thing I said and twisted the meanings into his own comprehensions. Sometimes, I forget that, the eyes sees only what the mind can comprehend. This man was also argumentative. He even told me that he enjoys debating and that he will sometimes disagree with people, although he truly agrees with their perspective, just for a good debate. He believes that, being agreeable or vibing with people is boring. He would rather spice stuff up! Sounds like some inner turmoil floating around, don't ya think? This reveales a lot to me. A talker is a talker.

Sometimes, I'm so quick and gifted , I mistake myself for other people and forget that I don't make assumptions , nor do I project. My observations are spiritual and keen. My gift is from God. Use your gift.

You have to be quick with men, because unless he's a narcissistic , a womanizer, a sociopath, cunning or deceitful , his red flags won't be hard to spot. In fact, even your spirit can detect the narcissist, womanizer , sociopath, cunning deceitful man. There will always be signs and no man is above out smarting this system. Take for example, I use to date a guy who was very cunning. He mirrored my mannerisms and he told me exactly what he thought I wanted to hear. He talked about marriage but also showed signs of being gun shy. No matter what he did, he did not seem genuine. You cannot fake genuity. Just trust your spirit to reveal his intentions , if you're finding it hard to do.

Men don't waste time. They are in and out. You have to be the same way. Detect in and Dectect out.

Until we meet again

Monday, February 3, 2014

Chemistry

A chemical reactions occurs with sex. Sex bonds people through soul ties and of course the release of the oxytocin hormone. But what about the meeting of two personalities? There is also a chemical reaction that occurs when two people meet. Have you ever noticed a spiritual exchange after speaking with someone, touching someone or even after kissing someone? Be careful of who you interact with, because there is a spiritual exchange , also known as, chemical exchange occurring without your knowing. Ever notice how you take on the spirit or philosophy of what a person says or does when in your presence? You might believe the words uttered to you or repeat words that are spoken to you. When people meet, it is the contact of two chemical substances, which both parties can be transformed for the better or for the worst. Be careful to whom you attach yourself to.

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Meant to be? Or Luck?

Relationships are either Godly or worldly. In a relationship that are Godly, it will be meant to be, for various reason that have evrything to do with Gods will for your life. Are you meant to procreate? Are you meant to be together, according to Gods will and Gods purpose? These are questions that must be answerd with yes for those who are meant to end up together. God is not a noun. For God does not view time the way that we do ;)

Now let's discuss worldly relationships. A worldly relationship is one that occurs based off of luck. Being in the right place , right time and in the right circumstances will definetely get you the mate you want. Luck is a noun, which includes a person, place or thing. It's luck for the worldly relationship, nothing more.

There are many self help books out there and relationship advisors that live by the creed of doing things a certain way to get the mate. I agree in conducting yourself a certain way and I also believe there are many great relationship books, I've recommended several. However, what I have noticed is that, people may conduct themselves in a certain manner that is supposed to render them having a mate , only to end up being single anyway. I have also noticed people who do not practice good conduct and are not single. Mean people get love and some don't. Nice people get love and some are single. Bad people get love and some don't. Great people get love and some are single too. There is no remedy. The only remedy is , to be the best you and to love yourself! I'm not saying not to conduct yourself well but what I am saying is, conducting yourself in any manner won't guarantee you a mate.

Be your best, yessssss!

Just know this, spiritual relationships are about God, and Gods will for your life. A worldly relationship is about luck!

It's either meant to be or it's luck!

So be you , love you! Work it! Love it! Own it!

Monday, January 27, 2014

Relationship Diet!

Relationship Diet

This article entitled, “Relationship diet”, was named to mimic a “food diet”. When we think of diet, we most often think of a food diet. A food diet consists of low calorie, low fat, low sodium, and low carb foods. The goal of a diet is most likely to lose weight, and become healthier. Have you ever heard of a relationship diet? It comes in the same form; accept. It doesn’t involve food. From my understanding, any book and or person giving advice on the do’s and don’ts in finding the perfect relationship are facilitating a diet, to perhaps motivate you to lose baggage and have a healthier relationship. We never look at relationship gurus as facilitating a relationship diet, but if anyone is requiring certain behavior, for a certain outcome, it’s a diet. Diets can be fun, but I am beginning to wonder what makes someone an expert? Everybody’s life is different, so how can someone advise a person, as if they have walked in their shoes. Just as every trainer, nutritionist or weight loss coach has advice on how to lose weight and it all works for certain individuals; I notice the same thing with relationship coaches’ advice. With there being so many food diets today, the best thing for myself to do is, learn what foods are good or bad for my blood type and create my own diet.

There are tons of relationship books, and relationship coaches out there; however, they all have different advice. I notice that, many relationship coaches’ advice stems from their personal experiences. Therefore whose advice should one take, if one person’s advice contradicts the next person’s advice? The answer is, create your own personal diet. Just as a person can design their personal food diet, you can do the same for your relationship diet. First pray or do whatever spiritual act that you do, take your life experiences that you have learned from and books you have read or advice you have gathered and create your own relationship diet. No one is an expert at your life better than you. If every diet works, because research shows people having results, from each diet, and research also shows that people have had positive results with relationship advice, how do you know which route to take? You have to figure out what works best for yourself and go that route. It is good to seek counsel but sometimes the best advice comes from within. You know better than anyone what you want, just figure out how to get it and you have the hardest part out of the way.

I use to find myself in countless debates over the topic of love, only to feel invalidated for what I knew was true for myself in the end. I began to realize that, I don’t need validation from others. Love is different for everyone. Everyone has his or her own idea of his or her perfect relationship. Either everyone is right or everyone is wrong. If you can figure out what good traits work for you and what bad traits don’t work for you, then you’re half way to the finish line. All you have to do is love yourself, trust and believe in yourself. Although I advise many of my readers in relationship psychology, I never profess to speak for them, because only you can speak for yourself.

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Fantasy Man vs Reality Man

I think we've all been there!

The difference between a fantasy relationship and a reality relationship is, one is totally real and realistic , while the other one is totally fake/ make believe.

Know how to tell the difference between the two.

Let's get some descriptions happening

Fantasy Relationship:

1) Guy talks a lot

2) Very Charasmatic, accept it's over the phone , internet, text meassage, Facebook, Instagram, twitter networks only

3) Very fantasy oriented. He has so many fantasies that he would like to play out but none of the fantasies will ever happen. This fantasy guy has the gift of gab.

4) He speaks to you and talks to you like you're a girlfriend of his but you're never invited to family gatherings and you spend the holidays alone.

5) You have no commitments! Dude is not your man!

6) He has no future plans for you two

7) He likes being behind the scenes and in fact, he probably online dates

8) He is emotionally unavailable and very detached

Reality Relationships:

1) This man is committal and ready to mingle

2) This man backs his words up with action, in fact, he barely speaks. He just shows you what he's working with

3) He is romantic

4) He invites you into his world.

5) He has plans for your future

6) He takes you around his family and friends

7) He's all about actions and not words

8) His expectations are realistic

In the Rules book, fantasy relationships are mentioned, so that women are able to recognize them and quickly move on from them.

If it's fantasy, then most likely, he's a time waster. Remember, 25+ and up, our goal is to get married, not waste our time with juvenile relationships.

Friday, January 24, 2014

Five Ways 2 Get Rid of A Man

1) Please annoy the hell out of him today! Wine and complain. Start today, don't wait until tomorrow. Lol

2) Argue with him! Men love to be emasculated! (Sarcasm) Be combative with him and it will surely drive him away!

3) Make him work overtime for it! If you're dealing with a lazy man, this will most definetely run him off.

4) Call him continuously. Tell him you're falling for him. This works like a charm because men don't like women who are ahead of their emotions. They never like the woman who likes them more. ;)

5) Tell him you're looking to get married and that you want to start a family.

These five things will drive any man away. At first I was going to use this as a funny metaphor of how to get rid of a man that you don't like but I changed my mind. Let's also use this as a learning lesson for driving men who you love and admire you away!

Thursday, January 16, 2014

Trust Noone Trust in God

Hello,

We can be spiritual about all things, but relationships. Why is it that, we proclaim to be religious/spiritual guru's, if you will but we think its insane to consult God about our relationships/love life. We can pray and have faith in all things, even the silliest things, but we think its odd to let go and let God when it comes to romance. We believe that we are supposed to be as active as we are in purusing our dreams as we are to be in love affairs. I'm pretty sick and tired of being yanked in different directions, how about you? Love/Romance is like dieting, everybody is an expert at dating advice, but who is the real expert? God is. You are second to knowing what is best for you. Seek God and you shall find.

Romance is like a diet. Everyone has advice on it and it all works, but what works for you is most important. Figure that out and you will be bi-winning!

Dont just pray for school, for the job or for your health. Pray for everything, even about your love life.

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Monday, January 13, 2014

Happy New Years and Happy Founders Day

Happy Founders day to My sorority , Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, INC 101 years of excellence

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Thursday, May 8, 2014

Please Do Not Check This Blog Any Longer (Male Decoded Has Moved)

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Male Decoded Has Moved ( New Site Available)

Monday, April 21, 2014

A Man Will Move On You, If ....

Male Decoded Has Moved (View New Site)

Saturday, April 19, 2014

Male Decoded Has Moved (Say Goodbye)

Monday, March 17, 2014

Getting A Man

Sunday, March 2, 2014

Before U Let A Man Into Your Life

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

The Only Way To Bring Out The Best In Him

Thursday, February 13, 2014

The Golden Rule

Monday, February 3, 2014

Chemistry

Meant to be? Or Luck?

Monday, January 27, 2014

Relationship Diet!

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Fantasy Man vs Reality Man

Friday, January 24, 2014

Five Ways 2 Get Rid of A Man

Thursday, January 16, 2014

Trust Noone Trust in God

Monday, January 13, 2014

Happy New Years and Happy Founders Day

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