Saturday, August 24, 2013

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Friday, August 9, 2013

2 Feel Goood!

Hello, Male Decoded has moved and changed locations. Please refer to my new website at My new blog location will offer more services to my readers. I will no longer write on this site, so please visit new blog site. Follow me @Relationships 1O A relationship author wrote these words, " go from needy to, I don't need him". True words spoken. When you are needy of a man, you suddenly become empowered. When ever you are losing your power, as discussed in previous blogs, repeat those words. It helps ground you. If a man is not pursuing you, nor making you feel secure , loved, adored, uplifted and not putting you first, then you can forget about feeling confident. And if its one thing I can't stand, it's a feminine man. I cannot stand a feminine man.

The best way to get your power back is, need him not. Don't be needy and make sure you are dating a man that is honoring you in every way.

7 Things Done That Men Find Attractive

Hello, Male Decoded has moved and changed locations. Please refer to my new website at My new blog location will offer more services to my readers. I will no longer write on this site, so please visit new blog site. Follow me @Relationships 1O Seven Things That You Do On The Regular That Men Find Attractive

Reported By: Britt L

s*x appeal has been exercised by women everywhere. Flashing cleavage, sporting b**t pads and even longer weaves were believed to catch a mans attention. But the truth is, all of the miscellaneous things women do to become more attractive isn’t what captures a mans attention.
According to a survey done by Reddit, men were asked what are some things that women do that they find irresistible or, down right sexy. The answers were more innocent than s****l. Surprising right?
Ladies, these 7 normal things you do on the regular that might seem tiny to you, makes your man or men around you all the more attracted.
1. The Putting-On-Tight-Jeans Dance
In the early morning, when you’re both preparing for the day ahead, you struggle to wiggle into those too tight jeans, but that’s something your man would love to see. Something about grunts and frustration and watching you take 10 minutes squeezing into a size six when you’re an eight, melts the coldest of hearts in a man.

2. Stretching
Stretching can give your man something to look at, especially if you’re bending over or showing extreme flexibility. Also, having your arms stretched in the air, back arched and head up gets your man rattled, so go and try some yoga with him!
3. Flipping Of The Hair
This is probably the most deliberate and seductive gesture on this list. Almost every romantic comedy makes light of how some women have a patented way of flipping their hair to get a man’s attention. Slow strokes of the fingers through luscious locks? How is that NOT sexy?
4. Sneezing
In general, men are rough, callous, dirty, unkempt, hairy and lumbering. So it should come as no surprise that much of what they find so attractive in women is, well, their opposite attributes: their grace, tenderness and smoothness. And nowhere is that contrast more apparent than when you sneeze. Men tend to sneeze loudly and powerfully, like miniature volcanoes bursting; women, on the other hand, tend to have high-pitched, endearing sneezes.
5. Biting The Lips
Spend time in coffee shops or college libraries and just observe women (in as un-creepy a way as you can manage), and you will see the famous lip bite. Many a heart has been melted, songs written and duels fought, over this small, thoughtless gesture. The lip bite indicates want, and desire.
6. Touching Gently
Think of the first time you touched your boyfriend or husband. It was sensual right? Not an accidental brushing of arms but something deliberate, infused with s****l tension and romantic potential. How do you women do it?
7. Putting Hair In Ponytail
Weird, but yes. Men are so used to seeing women with their hair up, prim and proper. But it’s something about a girl dressing casual and comfortable that makes a man comfortable as well.
Now that we’ve let the cats out of the bag, don’t try too hard to incorporate all of the secrets into your everyday routine. It’s the natural motions that catch your man’s eye.

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

How to Tame A Man

Hello, Male Decoded has moved and changed locations. Please refer to my new website at My new blog location will offer more services to my readers. I will no longer write on this site, so please visit new blog site. Follow me @Relationships 1OOk, this is a loose blog entry. I'm still learning but one thing I have noticed is, a man's bi polar behavior when it comes to relationships. Men are very bi polar when it comes to women and especially relationships. He loves me/he loves me not, say it ladies! It's a constant battle with these men. One day they want you and the next day they hate you. Men are supreme for having love/hate relationships. The best way to keep them in check and tame that beast is, to be a model for the behavior you would like to see. In other words, be consistent with your emotions, requirements, and needs. If you maintain yourself, and you don't allow yourself to be swayed , he can't do anything but correspond.

Last but not least, in words of my former homegirl, "how you choose your man is the same method you use to choose your friends". Be sure to stay away from friends who are bi polar as well. If you have friends that don't show you love nor make you smile and friends who bring you down, then wa-la, you will also have a man that does the same. To be loved requires love all the way around. It means having good friends around you as we'll

That's all for now ladies. lol

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Men Secretly Adore Us

Hello, Male Decoded has moved and changed locations. Please refer to my new website at My new blog location will offer more services to my readers. I will no longer write on this site, so please visit new blog site. Follow me @Relationships 1O Let me tell you something about a man! He is too cool for school and he knows it.
Men are so busy trying to maintain their cool calm and collectedness that, they hide their true feelings , in order to conceal them, ohhh but deep inside, they're seething! Just look for the micro signs and read between the hidden lines. Men love us, don't get it twisted. They need and love us. There are always signs. They are too proud to admit it, for the very same reasons I mentioned in my blog yesterday, "power". A man will not reveal his hand and risk the power he has gained. Not never. Men play it cool, to remain in control.

Scenario: I was out with some friends this weekend and one pal brought along a guy friend that she grew up with. He was viciously attracted to me; I could see it in his eyes, not to mention his constant striking of conversation with me. It was so cute! Anywho, he sort of ended up getting on my nerves towards the end of the night, with his playful, immature nature and things went a little sour from there. He brought drinks for me and a friend, and he also shared his food. I ended up saying something to him, playfully and he reacted in a odd way. He went on to call me a Kardashin woman and rude and everything else. We clearly got into it after he stepped out of line. He then went on to say that he really appreciated me allowing him to hang out with me and my friends and that he thought I was cool and that he was attracted to me and blah , blah , blah
So he said all of that to confirm that my " high and mighty" attitude was legit in the first place. Here I was honoring myself and being a lady and he tried to take that away from me by calling me rude , etc only to tell me that he appreciated being in my presence and that he was attracted to me in the end.

Point of the story is this, he only had a problem with my queenliness because he couldn't give it to me himself. Once he saw that he had hurt my feelings, he then went on to tell me how honored he was to have been around me. You see what I mean, men love us! They feel honored to be around us. They like us and they want us. Lets get it right, men need us, just as much as we need them or even more than we need them. Don't be fooled by their cool guy act, they are for us 100%.

Keep your head held high!

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We Analyze The Disconnections

Hello, Male Decoded has moved and changed locations. Please refer to my new website at My new blog location will offer more services to my readers. I will no longer write on this site, so please visit new blog site. Follow me @Relationships 1O Why is it that, when it comes to love/ matters of the heart, we only remember the connections we have with our significant others. Yes connections are a good thing, of course but when it's over , it's over and if he's not acting right , then he just ain't acting right. What about those disconnections, which we refuse to acknowledge? Why do we pay so much attention to the connections only, when the signs read otherwise? If you have a connection with someone and all of their actions show you that, then you're safe. However, if you have a connection with someone and you know he just ain't right, perhaps you need to go deeper. Analyze the disconnections. When there are contradictions that support the connection, I believe one has just connected. In other words, there is a difference between "we connected" and "we have a connection". The difference is while you may have connected with a man , there was no deep seething ordained actions, to cause for a connection to be sustained.
Why do we hold on to our "connections" that we feel we have established with men, when every feeling we have is contradictory and quite the opposite. When this contradiction occurs , understand that, you have only connected , no connection was established. When you feel you two sooooo connected, and you're alone or without , then you need to analyze the disconnections immediately. How did you two disconnect?

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Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Fear vs Panic

Hello, Male Decoded has moved and changed locations. Please refer to my new website at My new blog location will offer more services to my readers. I will no longer write on this site, so please visit new blog site. Follow me @Relationships 1O The pastor preached a good sermon this past Sunday about fear vs panic.

The pastor states: fear is one thing and panic is another. While fear will cause you to protect yourself, panic will cause you to lose yourself.

I interpret this as, when you have some level of fear, that's good because, it causes a fight or flight reaction. You will protect your territory and fight for yourself but when you panic, you become paranoid and that's never good because that's when you begin to lose yourself.

While in a relationship, a little fear is always good but paranoia will only take you further away from reality and drive you crazy in the end. Don't be paranoid , be protective!

For more sermons , catch Bishop Noel Jones @ City of Refuge in Gardena,CA

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Never Give Your Power Away

Power: 1 a (1) : ability to act or produce an effect (2) : ability to get extra-base hits (3) : capacity for being acted upon or undergoing an effect
b : legal or official authority, capacity, or right
2 a : possession of control, authority, or influence over others
b : one having such power; specifically : a sovereign state
c : a controlling group : establishment — often used in the phrase the powers that be
d archaic : a force of armed men
e chiefly dialect : a large number or quantity
3 a : physical might
b : mental or moral efficacy
c : political control or influence

Power! It's a funny game. It's something that is played often in matters of love. Don't get it twisted. The sAying is, "All is fair In love and War". Meaning= whatever it takes to gain your power is whatever it takes and winning someone's heart and or a war can mean being deceitful, manipulative , seductive and dirty but in the end, it's all fair because people do it, to win.

Men are about power and it doesn't mean they don't love nor like because they do but those emotions are so intense that, they use power moves to stay in control. It's better to be in control and gain power , rather then being an emotional basket case. Men learn what their power is with a woman early on and they do not give it Away. They will find out what makes you needy of them; what compliments you fish for ; what makes you insecure; what your standards are; etc once they find this owt, it's , boom! KO!! They will not give up whatever it is that hooks you and keeps you coming back for more!

Ladies , find out what your power is. What makes him weak in the knees and keeps him coming back for more? Once you know what it is , do not give that power away. I once had a friend and Soror who was dating a dude and he would complain and complain about how she was emotionally detached. I quickly told her to lighten up just a little , so that she doesn't run him away, but to also hold on to her detached nature because that is her power and it clearly keeps him coming back for more and more!! "Do not give up your power", is what I said! They never do. If a man finds out what drives you crazy, believe you me, he definitely won't be giving his best card away anytime soon.

Never throw away your best card nor reveal your best hand, so whatever it is that he really wants, really needs or is intrigued by, you have that upper hand ;)

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Sunday, August 4, 2013

The Difference Between Romance Confidence and General Confidence

General confidence vs romance confidence, is there a difference?
Yep there is. The difference is, one requires positive/ healthy self concept, in general and the other requires believing that you are worthy of being had and believing that you're a catch.

Many people have high self esteem and low romance esteem, while others have high romance esteem and low self esteem. One can also have a combination of both, low self esteem and low romance esteem or high self esteem and high romance esteem. I'm here to talk about people with low romance esteem. When you have low romance esteem , it doesn't mean that, you don't necessarily feel good about yourself. In fact , all that means is that you don't value yourself and or you don't honor your worth. When you don't have high dating esteem, you will not value yourself enough, ever! You won't have standards and you will allow yourself to be manipulated out of them once you set your standards. You have to know your worth, otherwise noone else will and people will be able to talk you out of your value.
A person with high romance esteem will value themselves and know that they are worth being with. You are worth all of your standards, so stop punishing yourself.

Feel good about yourself and have high romance esteem, so that you too can attract a beautiful relationship.

Do not, I repeat, do not take scraps from a man!

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Saturday, August 3, 2013

Men , Men , Men & And Their Many Excuses

Lets start there!

Men don't have excuses, they make them. In fact, there's a saying that says, " success occurs when you stop making excuses". When a man wants success, he plots and plans, until he can achieve his goal. A man with an excuse is a man that doesn't really want you nor care to meet your needs. Men are naturally equipped to be action oriented. A man with excuses would simply being going against his natural order to be active. Never except a mans excuses because men are programmed to find a way. A man with an excuse is simply communicating that, he doesn't care that much and isn't willing to try and meet your needs. When a man gives an excuse, he's already communicated what he really feels. Don't buy into a mans excuses. Listen, everyone has an excuse from time to time, but there is a clear difference between trying and then delivering an excuse for why you can't do something , verses not trying to make a way and just using a plain ass excuse, to cop out from being responsible

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If A Man Can't Do For You (Ta hell with him)

I say this fiercely but deep down I believe that we should first pray for our blessings.

I go on to say, what purpose does a man serve in your life?! Is he a friend? Homey lover friend? Lover? Supplier? Associate? Acquaintance ? Colleague? Co-worker?! Neighbor? Date? boyfriend? Husband? friend? Facebook friend? Classmate? Or nothing at all? Who is he? And what's his point of departure?

Know the purpose that any man plays in your life. Categorize him now and categorize him fast, otherwise your work will be cut out for you. I say to know what part a man plays in your life, because it will save you a lot of heartache and frustration in the end. =no surprises.

It's also good to know where a man should be placed in your life, for example, in the front row, middle row , or last row. Any man in your life must have something to offer, otherwise he needs to be in the overflow section. If a man is in your life and he cannot do anything for you , if say, you're in a bind, then he needs to go because he serves no purpose. If a man can't do anything for you, then what's his purpose for him having a front row seat! Save that for the worthy guys.
And for all the guys taking a sneak peak at this blog, no , this isn't a gold digger anthem. Men don't keep women around that serve no purpose in their life.
So to that I say, If he can't do anything for you and serves no purpose, he must go>>>> and go now

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Be All The Way Committed Or All The Way Free!

Listen , why be kind of single? or semi taken?

Forget that, if you're going to be with a guy , be with a man all the way! No insecurities, no commitment questions, no doubts, no cries , just all love 😍😘😍😘

But if you're going to be single , then be just that , single, free 💃🆓 have fun , live!
Don't be sort of dating someone or kind of in a relationship! Forget that, be all the way single or all the way committed.

Which means this:

A) when you are in a committed relationship that man should be all the way in, all feet in , and be totally committed to your relationship. No questions , no doubts , no fear , etc

B) if you are single , be free, easy and breezy! Don't fall for a guy you don't have and do not have a fantasy relationship in your head. Do not wonder why he hasn't called, why he left, why he won't commit nor wonder where his support and chivalry behavior is.
If you want to be taken, make sure you're happy and if you're single , be free and also happy.

Remember, it's best to be single and happy, rather than taken and frustrated!

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