Dear Jacob :

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Jacob was one of the great patriarchs of the Old Testament, but at times he was also a schemer, liar, and manipulator.

Does this man sound familiar? 

Jacob is the man who is a liar and deceiver. He tells you want you want to hear. He comes to destroy & never to build. He is cunning, charismatic and convincer. No matter how sweet he comes off, you end up feeling effed in the end!

The Jacob is also the manipulator, aka, the wolf dressed in sheep clothing. He lies, cheats, schemes, & tries to get over on you. He doesn't care about you! He only looks out for his own best interest. 

Do you know Jacob? If so it's time to raise your vibration! Before Jacob was turned into the great, he was all of those bad things. Get rid of the Jacobs and get yourself a Kyle. (New & improved Jacob)

A Kyle is God sent & he comes into your life to lift you up! Ηε wants to love you. He cares about your feelings. Kyle brings out the best in us all! He's dreamy, handsome and only has eyes for you. 

Kiss Jacob goodbye & honor your worth and get a Kyle. 

I heard a spiritual advisor on the radio station ask, are we living our lives in a way that, mocks our value? 

I ask you the same. Are you living your romantic love life in a way that mocks your value? If so, stop that? 

The Difference Between Romance Confidence and General Confidence

General confidence vs romance confidence, is there a difference?
Yep there is. The difference is, one requires positive/ healthy self concept, in general and the other requires believing that you are worthy of being had and believing that you're a catch.

Many people have high self esteem and low romance esteem, while others have high romance esteem and low self esteem. One can also have a combination of both, low self esteem and low romance esteem or high self esteem and high romance esteem. I'm here to talk about people with low romance esteem. When you have low romance esteem , it doesn't mean that, you don't necessarily feel good about yourself. In fact , all that means is that you don't value yourself and or you don't honor your worth. When you don't have high dating esteem, you will not value yourself enough, ever! You won't have standards and you will allow yourself to be manipulated out of them once you set your standards. You have to know your worth, otherwise noone else will and people will be able to talk you out of your value.
A person with high romance esteem will value themselves and know that they are worth being with. You are worth all of your standards, so stop punishing yourself.

Feel good about yourself and have high romance esteem, so that you too can attract a beautiful relationship.

Do not, I repeat, do not take scraps from a man!

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Never Allow A Man To Disrespect You!

    Never , ever allow a man to disrespect you! If he's disrespecting you, then he must be respecting somebody else. That's how it works with men. Men work in Black and White codes. If he's done nothing special for you, he most likely has done something special for another woman in the past. How man times have you given in to a disrespectful man, to only notice that he's respecting the next chic? Never be that woman. Demand your respect and if he can't accept your standards, to hell with him. Remember to never compromise your confidence for anyone! Never allow him to cancel dates at the last minute, talk to you crazy, bring drama into your life, nor mistreat you in any way. I use to date a guy who was nice to me, but also full of baggage,anxiety and drama, which he brought into our relationship. I didn't even realize it, until it was too late, because i was fogged by how nice he was to me. Once i sat myself down, i realized that, he wasn't what i wanted and wasn't giving me what i needed and that was, R-E-S-P-E-C-T.  When you respect a person, you treat them the way they deserve to be treated, which was something he didn't do. Sit down and realize what it is that you need and desire and compare that with the man you're dating. Make sure it adds up. Always demand your respect.

Never be good to someone who isn't good to you.  In fact, "Love only those who love you".

Concentrate on your worth

When you concentrate on your worth and talents, you won't entertain non sense. You won't even tolerate it. Why spend so much time wondering why such and such did this or did that. Let's just concentrate on our worth, instead. A good artist knows he's good and doesn't sale himself short. He does not entertain critics, nor naysayers. Why do we entertain men who are not cherishing us as we deserve to be cherished? All you have to do is, concentrate on your worth and never look on the sidelines for anything that contradicts that. Don't mind who doesn't mind you. Never love who doesn't love you. Care about noone, who does not care about you.