Monday, March 17, 2014
I've received so many blog reviews that, I finally turned my blog into something bigger. If you're interested in knowing more about the behavior of men, tune into www.maledecoded.com follow me @Relationships 1O Hello Readers: Let me start off by saying, you can do absolutely nothing to get a man. Why, you ask? Because, being with someone is simply based off of God's destiny for your life. Love will only happen for you during the right time and right place and of course, the right season. People who give advice to you about how to get a man are wasting your time. I say that they are wasting your time, because there aren't any statistics that state being this way or that way or doing this or that, will gaurantee you a man. In fact, every relationship advisor, is an expert. Why are they experts? because they succeeded in getting into a relationship and maintaining one. Its a simple as, finding the perfect diet for yourself. Finding the perfect diet for yourself does not make one an expert, however, people who diet and exercise believe their system will work for all, or at least some. I am a firm believer on, whatever works for the person, makes that person an expert at their life, no one elses. As you can see, many of my blog entries are about the male psyche, behaviors on a psychological level, as well as, people being in touch with their self, loving who they are and finding empowerment within themselves.elationship advisors are experts (sarcasm). They are experts because they figured out what worked for them and how that same strategy could work for others. They are simply projecting their own experiences onto the world. I am here to tell you, nothing you read nor or advised to do will work for you. You must design your own romance program for yourself, to see the magic happen. What works for you? What makes your heart sink? What makes your heart sing? What makes you happy? What makes you sad? What is it that you want? What should you avoid,which can be detrimental to you? I'll prove it to you. I have read that, men desire sweet women; someone who will be nice to him. I have read, "Why Men Love Bitches". I have read, "Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man". I have read, "Be A Rules Girl". I have heard, smile when you see a man. I have read, don't smile when you see a man, because it comes off as eager and desparate. I have heard, " there's nothing wrong with speaking to a man first". I have read, "Never speak to a man first". I have heard, "Men like women with meat on their bones". Everything that I read or hear contradicts the next thing. My point is, it is absolutely nothing you can do to get a man. You can smile, play games, be well dressed, be nice, loving , kind, caring, sensitive to his needs, loyal and still be single, or maybe taken. However, on the flip side of that, you can be, nasty, grumpy, bitchy, abusive, dismissive, mean, as one author suggests in her book, "Men Love Abuse". You do all those naughty things and actually be in a committed relationship and or be single. It all depends on the man you attract. Some good women attract losers, while some bad women attract winners. You have to understand your psychology to figure it out. I have observed women, that possessed unattractive traits, such as, unattractive features, bad character, etc, which society would define as a woman who can't get a man get nor keep a man and guess what? Those women were either in relationships, married, were mothers, divorced,etc. I've also observed beautiful women, who were desirable, dreamy, successful, educated and smart, whom society would consider the type of traits, which would attract and keep a man and they were some of the most single, hurt and disappointed women around town. I have heard of prostitutes and strippers, who found love, all while tricking. There are plenty of church going women, and or levelheaded women, who are single. What I am saying is, no matter what traits you possess good or bad, you can still attract a man and or you can repel a man. I once met a man who dated a woman, who told him he wasn't anything everyday. He continued to go back home to this woman. When i was as sweet as a butterfy, men ran over me. Although still sweet, when I became no non sense, aka, "why men love bithes", men fell all over me and were obssessed with me. Now, im somewhere in between and its all confusing! lol My point is, because of who I am, men have to come correct. Due to that, men are very attracted to my no non sense, hit the rode Jack, attitude. Remember ladies, this world that we live in is a joke. When you expect nothing, life falls right into your lap. When you expect greatness, you get the opposite. People want what they cant have and don't want what they have. That's an ass backwards world to live in , but unfortunately, its reality. This is not God's world. This is the devils land. This world is earthly, while God's world, is perfect and full of love and respect, no heartache. For that reason alone, you will see many contradictions in the world. In the words of my pastor, " This world for us is temporary and that's why one minute you are the cats meow and the dogs bow wow and the next minute, you're at an all time low". Do not let this world's misconceptions and contradictions have you confused! Define your reality!
Sunday, March 2, 2014
When we meet a man, it's like aweeeeeee! Birds chirping , sunny outside , Music playing where there is no music and good people. Well, at least that's how high I feel! Lol
I have realized that men bum Rush their way into my life. First, I meet them and the next thing they have my number and the next day my life changes for good. Lol All of a sudden I'm getting bombarded with text message feast, "Good Morning beautiful" messages and all! Lol omg , what happened? Love doesn't happen over night and no, Mr. I didn't invite you into my life so please pump your breaks.
Always question a man sending those typical, "Good Morning" messages! It's always a red flag. Real men in pursuit mode don't have time to send daily morning affirmations to your doorsteps. In fact, a real man barely texts! Because texting to a man on the prowl should feel similar to getting cheated. A man that's hungry doesn't want to nibble on crumbs, he wants the whole feast. He wants to see you, touch you, hug you and eventually love you. Always remember that, a man talking or texting too much is covering his inaction.
Let me get back on task here. Men don't not know you existed yesterday and boom! Abra kadabra , they're consuming your life the next day! Those are red flags sweety! Men rarely fall in love at first sight, as often as women do! They're just living in the moment. A man moving too fast is a sure sign that he is not a keeper! He's Just trying to get it all in , because he's living in the moment.
Before you let any many into your life, make sure he is for one, about you & only you! Men are infamous for showing up and showing out but leaving nothing behind. Make sure that a man is for you and supports you before you invite him into your life. Per! No free passes! Seats are for RSVP guest only!
If you are a teacher , writer ,psychologists , freelancer, actor, educator , artist, humanitarian, MD, veterinarian , engineer, reporter , mechanic , real estate agent, whatever you are , if a man can not support you nor be about you in your endeavors, he should not get free tickets to view the concert of your life! Why? Because he will only distract and destroy you. Just look at all successful people , men and women. The closest people around them are about their life! No freebies! Make sure he's about your life before you allow him access into your life.
Remember, men live for the moment, while you as a woman lives for the future!I've received so many blog reviews that, I finally turned my blog into something bigger. If you're interested in knowing more about the behavior of men, tune into www.maledecoded.com follow me @Relationships 1O