Monday, June 4, 2012
Men of thed Zodiac
Capricorn Man: He's quiet, and loud, self controlled, conflicted, narcissistic, serious, focused, patient, determined, ambitious, a cheater and a good lover. Capricorn men weigh all their options before getting into a relationship. He won't be caught dead with the wrong woman. Love for him starts with his brain. It has to make sense for him logically, before it can make any type of sense to him emotionally. He will never be guarded by his heart. His head makes the decisions for his love life. Capricorn men have to be the smartest of everyone around him and he secretly believes that he is. He has to prove how much he knows, and how strong he is at the expense of others. Oh, his intellectual conversation can be so condescending,because he talks to you like he's teaching and he thinks he knows everything, but he really knows little to nothing. Even if Mr Capricorn is extremely smart, he believes he knows all, which makes him appear less intelligent to me, anyway. The key to intelligence and gaining knowledge is, openness, receptiveness and curiosity. He's a good guy but seems to have trouble with delusions of intellectual superiority. He just wants to prove he's better and smarter than everyone else, but secretly, he must be feeling defeated and depleted, to be that way!
Aquarius Man : Be careful. He's aloof, loves a chase, needs to be ignored, can be a heart breaker, wears his heart on his sleeve, short lived love, sales a fantasy. He's so charasmatic and fairy that, he can knock your socks off. Don't trust this man. He has the gift of gab and he's not afraid to use it. He can also be a player (lots of women). He's romantic, when he does fall for a woman and depending on the nature of this man, he does have the capacity to be a good loyal man. When it's real, expect loyalty.
Pisces Man : He can be so sweet, but he does have a jealous nature. He's intimidated by confident women. He can be very insecure and he can also be conceited and have a narcissistic ego, that's untouchable. He has emotions like a woman. He's just as gossipy, catty, and petty as a woman. He's extremely sensitive, and like a woman, if he takes something personal, he will ignore you, refusing to speak to you. He has the capacity to make anyone fall in love with him. He's a dreamer and can be a cheater. He can be kind, but he also has a mean streak. He is passive and not an aggressive man. He want's what he cannot have (Period).
Aries Man : OMG, Run for the hills! This guy perceives everything as a war or a fight. He's ready to go to bat over something as small as a sandwich or a simple comment. He's impulsive, competitive, aggressive and hyperactive. This guy needs to take a chill pill/impulsive depressor pill and sit his ass down. Aries control the head, which means he can be either, very spiritual, very smart, and or very hard headed. Aries men are very smart! Unfortunately, this guy is a relationship type guy, and may be subjected to being a loyal person, lol.
Taurus Man : Taurus men are masculine, butch, with strong statures and strong necks, yummmm. They are not passive and not afraid of a challenge, nor are they afraid of a strong woman. Taurus people, in general, can be bullies. They like to run shit and they have to be in control. They will use their big statures and bullish nature to control you and the things around them, at any sound off. Taurus men are loyal, to a fault. A Taurus man will go into a relationship, with ulterior motives and stay in a relationship, long after it has ended, due to comfort. If he knows you will be successful in your near future, he ain't going nowhere. Taurus men are loyal and bull headed. They will stay in abusive relationships and friendships, even if they are the contributing factors, due to their devotion. But be careful ladies, all Taurus's have a mean streak. They can be very stuck in their ways, so depending on what type of person he is, will determine what area he is stubborn in. If he is religious , philosophical, cultural, spiritual or insightful, he will be stubborn in those areas. If he is ignorant, bull headed, stubborn, a player , etc , he will be bull headed in those areas as well. I always say, determining his nature, will determine on which level he will be bullheaded in. If his nature is decent, date him, because he is stern , loyal, and still within his nature, so you mine as well date a good, stubborn person, lol. All Taurus's can be antagonistic and abusive, due to their insecurities and or superiority complexes. Choose a guy Taurus guy without those traits.
Gemini Man : Stay clear and buckle your seat belt, because this guy is fun, fun, fun and he can also be a train wreck! He's all over the place. He can be a cheater and usually has more than one woman on the side!! Never expect loyalty from this man, unless he is religious and or unless he has strong moral ethics, that have been taught to him from childhood. Either way it goes, he battles with loyalty , because it is not in his nature. If he has an ego and no ethical guideline, watch out! He is very competitive in life and in conversations and is easily angered when he loses. His mood changes from one extreme to the next and you have to pretty much kiss his butt, in order to keep things kosher between you two. A Gemini man hates when he cannot have a woman the way he wants her. Gemini's can be SENSITIVE, like a woman!! He has emotions and sensitivity like a girl. He can also be very manipulative. He is very self centered, believing the world revolves around him. Gemini's are chameleon's. They have different sides to them, that can drive you crazy! You never know what you're going to get with Mr. Gemini. Gemini men are adventurous and spontaneous. If you are fixed, laid back and bland, this guy isn't for you. He can drive you crazy, so run for the hills, unless you're the kind of woman who likes drama, and you can't get anyone else. He is definitely a no go. He's not relationship material and not worth dating. This guy's a disaster.
Cancer Man : He's as cute as a button. He is husky and has broad features and he can be kind. He can be strong, and very snappy! He can also be moody. I was told by a female cancer that, cancer men can be assholes. He is totally capable of turning his emotions off and being the an insensitive guy. You be the judge! He is a relationship kind of guy, with sensitivity. He's not the most interesting person. Unfortunately, I don't know much about this guy, lol.
Leo Man : Run! He's a liar. He's cunning, phony,tyrannical, crazy, manipulative and simply a headache. You never know when he is being genuine or not. For more information, read my previous post on Leo men.
Virgo Man : He is half woman, half man. He is sensitive, talkative and thoughtful,just like a woman. He is extremely critical, scrutinizes and focused on small details, that don't always matter. He has identity issues,and is totally capable of metamorphosis. He can change from one identity to the next. For example, he may change from being a religious guy , into being a bad ass drug dealer, and this can happen at any given moment. However, don't worry ladies, no matter what he changes into over time, he won't dare take that risk, while he's in a relationship. He is a lifetime partner. If he's single and ready to mingle, watch out! He's very eccentric. He is analytical and he has no problem prying and being invasive. He can hit the switches at any time, you just never know with him. These above reasons are the reason I can't date another Virgo. I can't stand a critical man. Virgo men are very critical, no matter what tactic he uses, he is critical. He may deliver his messages as if something is wrong, but he's really just condemning people. On the other hand , he is a relationship guy, marriage material, weighing, logical,kind, romantic, loving,and a reliable guy. The good traits about a Virgo man are the traits I can fall for. You decide if this is the half man, half woman you want to be with. To each its own. With this guy, sometimes you win, and sometimes you lose. I personally like August Virgos better. Can't lose with them.
Libra Man : Libra men are sweet, romantic, and they have lots of money to spend, to wine and dine you with. This man loves money, so bets believe, he will have plenty of it. He's not afraid to use it and he knows exactly how to keep a woman's mouth shut. He can definitely fund your lifestyle. However, Libra men are cheaters! They usually have more than one woman. They are also a bit confrontational. They love to argue , as if they're lawyers. In fact, many Libras are debaters, and lawyers. They take everything seriously and literally.
Scorpio Man : OH wee, same sign as me :)! this man is a catch. He either loves you and wants to pursue you and or he just is not that into you. There is no in between, nor mix messages with a Scorpio man. He's passionate, powerful, convinced, loyal,sexy , smart and manly. He knows he's something to be in awww with. He's magnificent. He's so in love with himself. He loves to take charge. Just think of Scorpio man and power house, Sean 'Diddy' Combs. He can also be a little temperamental, so don't get on his bad side. Scorpio men are loved, because women just love them and are drawn to their magnetic, hypnotizing personality. It's hard to explain this man. What I love about Scorpio men is, they don't bait you, nor trick you into a trap, most women choose to be lured into their web.
He plays no head games, nor luring games. He's so damn appealing, women are naturally drawn to him, like a bee is to honey.
Sagittarius : Sagittarius men are very appealing and luring. You are drawn to them, without knowing why. They have a cupid spear that will have you head over hills, without knowing why. He is hard to get over. It's almost like he puts a spell on you and you are entrapped, unwillingly. Sagittarius men send mix messages. They want you, when they can't have you and they want you, when you have your own life, yet they don't want you when they can have you. He likes the chase, more than the capture. To him, the chase is more important than the capture. He's so twisted. Even in relationships and marriages, he has to always be pursuing you. He needs a challenge. He also needs a woman with spunk. Just look at Jay Z and Beyonce. Beyonce has her own life and that gives Jay Z a thrill or shall I say, chills, lol. You must have your own life, with this man. If you are not spunky and or kinky, he will loose interest. Sagittarius men don't realize what they had, until it is long gone. He is not marriage material,nor relationship material. He loves women, all types. He is considered to be the Don Juan of the zodiac. He can damn there get any woman he wants. He is an over thinker and he is extremely controlling. Sagittarius people are respected because they are who they are, without giving a flying f*** what anyone thinks about it. He only looks out for his own best interest. He is the epitome of cunning- charm. He can make anyone think that, he's innocent. He knows how to play the game to get what he wants, so don't be surprised if after he gets what he wants, he changes, and his true character shows. He believes he's running things, even when he runs nothing. He has to feel in control at all times. Sagittarius are usually attracted to cults and like to lead things. Every now and again, you will see this man as a loyal boyfriend, husband and or father. Usually, these are the men that are being checked by their woman and know to never step out of line and or they are the types that aren't really that attractive enough to play the game. lol :)
Saturday, June 2, 2012
Men Will Always Choose The Woman They Couldn't Have
Hello Ladies,
Men will always choose what they can't have over what they can have. I recently read an article about Kanye West pursuing Kim Kardashin, but why? Is it her riches? Is it her fame? Hell no, he has all that. It's the fact that she's the hot girl/pass down, trophy woman, that many celeb guys just want to see if they can obtain. According to magazines, Kanye wanted her long before now, but couldn't have her and now he has his chance at love. This may be a horrible example, because their new relationship all seems fake and full of b.s. to me, however, I'm making a point (wait for it). No matter how trashy Kim Kardashin's and her reputation may be. No matter if she is a loose candid, if a man cannot have you, he will see you as gold. You could be a nun, muslim, stripper and or unattractive, but if he can't have you, he prizes you above your value. If you already have value, he will value you even more. If you have little to no value, he will give you an unbelievable amount of it. No matter who you are, if a man wants something he can't have , he will cherish it over a woman who may be of a better creed, whom he can have. Wait, let's retrack that. Yes, a man will devalue a worthy woman, over a woman with less value, if the woman with less value is a woman , who he can't have and especially if she plays hard to get. Why you ask? Because it is psychological. It's a scarcity factor. People tend to value what is scarce and rare. We put what we can't have on a pedistol. You can be wifey, the better woman, and a catch, all you want, but if you are easy to catch and too good for him, he will value the woman he can't have over you. Simple, "men want what they can't have". It does no matter if he is cute as a button and you can't get enough of him, rock on baby, because in every culture, race, age group, background, social economic status, religion and political background, the same rules apply. Men value the woman they had to wait for, even if she was a friend at first. No matter how nice a guy is, you have to do what is best for him, and that's for him to value you! :) Give him the chase his true masculine hunting, nature needs. It's best for him. I know a cute guy, who's use to women wanting him and he has it going on, and for one second, I thought of reaching out to him, but that would only do him no good. I will not touch a dial, until he does. I am GOLDEN and the only way he'll see it is, if _______ Boom! When he contacts me, I may just contact him back. ha ha
How do you become the woman he yearns for, even if he can have you? Learn how to balance the two. Become the woman who he can't have, unless he works extremely hard to get. Be the woman he can't have nor obtain, until he puts some elbow greese in. In fact, learn how to dislike a guy who dislikes you. If he doesn't want you, then you don't want him. Pretend as if he's totally not interested, until his interest is undeniable. Don't let him in your emotional , mental, nor physical space too soon. Keep things rather shallow, until things progress. Even if you like a guy and you give in, just a little, if you keep things shallow, it sends a message that he hasn't earned the rights into your personal space, as of yet and he shouldn't. Trust me, it's for his own good, so don't feel bad. If you do not follow this script, you will only hurt yourself. Let him complain, because in the end, he values what he can't have, not what he can have so easily.
Friday, June 1, 2012
Remember One Thing
When it comes to men, all you need to do is, remember one thing! Does he make you feel good or bad?
How does he make you feel? Forget the shananagins and the he say she say. Forget what he says and forget all the books. Consult two things and keep your mind focused on the most important key factor. The fist thing to remember is, your self esteem. Always feel good about yourself. The second most important key factor is, to remember one thing, does he make you feel good? Does it feel good? If he doesn't make you feel good, if he puts you down, downgrades you or demeans you, f*** him! Always ask yourself and take note on how the man in your life is making you feel. Do an analysis everyday, if you have to. If it doesn't feel good, it isn't right, period! People are supposed to bring out the best in you, not the worst. Even if you aren't the most confident person in the world, who cares, the man in your life should be bringing some sort of Diva out of you, or Queen Elizebeth attitude out of you that makes you feel on top of the world. IF you aren't confident, he should be so into you, so willing to please you and make you happy that, it just blows your head up and makes you re evaluate your own negative self perception. Ever met a man that made you feel so on top that, you forgot how to hate your self. I mean, this man was such a compliment to your character that, you couldn't help but love yourself. Thats the feeling i'm talking about ladies, a man that brings out the best in you. If you are like me, and you do know the truth about your self and you have high esteem, then just listen for one thing, how he makes you feel. Ever been around a man who totally shited on your esteem. I mean, he beat up on your character and undermined your greatness and maybe even downplayed your essence. Well, in the words of an author, "if you're not feeling cherished, you need to raise your standards". Men who make you feel bad, should be dumped right in the space that they abused you in. Leave the energy where ever it started.
Your feelings are your guide. If you feel jealous, insecure, unsure, bad, unappreciated, or angry, let that be your guide. What's the use of a man being in your life, if he isn't going to enhance it? That's the whole point of being in touch with how he makes you feel. Chances are, if he makes you feel badly, then he needs to go, and if he makes you feel good , well, he can stay a while.
Be no non sense when it comes to men. If in the beginning he does or says one thing that makes you feel bad, kick him to the curb. If you were a corporation, he would be on his best behavior during his 90 day probational period and if he loved and appreciated his job, he would do whatever it took to keep the job! The key thing is, if he is not making you feel good, its because he's either smelling himself, not that into you, or doesn't cherish you enough to feel like he needs to try and impress you. Ever met a prick who was on his best behavior around his woman? Ever met a prick who humilated and spoke badly to his girlfriend? Now you get my drift.
All you need to know is, does he make you feel good or bad, and how does being around him feel. All the other stuff doesn't matter. Let that be your guide to remember.
Does he make you feel good or bad?
Monday, January 2, 2012
New Year Man's Eve
2012
This New Years, ladies let's know the truth and start it off right!
No more games , no more lies, and no more fake stuff. Be happy to be alive and invest in yourself.
Never believe in your heart everything a man tells you, believe what GOD tells you. Believe who God uses as a vessel. The flesh is thirsty and is always in need of something. Man lies, GOD cannot tell a lie. Man is of flesh, GOD is of spirit. As my pastor said yesterday, seek advice from Godly men and Godly women.
I have been hearing a lot of garbage about brothas requesting for Black women and or women in general to become more sexually flexible and promiscuous and as a result, that will help them keep a man. Now women, hear me when i say this. At no point ever, will sex get nor keep a man. Never, ever!! Men stay for more reasons beyond sex. Save your virtuosity and never give that up to the average Jone. Be the most flexible with your husband and the man you love. Do not be nasty and flexible with just any ol man. That will never get nor keep him. It will only categorize you as a nasty piece of meet that he will never respect nor remember and discard afterwards. Men speak about sex a lot, but that's only because they're more physical. They don't know what they really want, and its your job to show them. Men only remember and honor the women who don't give it up. Remember that! Don't be a man's toy. Remember the previous blog about oxytocins and soul ties. Not to mention HIV. A man has nothing to risk when he sexes, aside from HIV and diseases. A woman risks herself for Diseases, HIV, oxytocins, and soul ties. A man has nothing to lose, so let the man who risks nothing talk you into doing something, if you want to. It will only leave you empty in the end.
Brothas may rub their encounters , with the other races of women, who allow that type of trashy, permiscuious behavior,to Black women. Guess what, nothing is better than soul. Nothing is better than a Queen or King so pleaseeeee. If you don't think so, you have serious issues of self hatred. Brothas have so much self hatred, they don't even understand how to have self love, nor have cultural love first. You don't ever speak of another to a sistah. That's just plain mean and its gloating. It's like kicking someone when their down. It shows anger issues. No one is going to get tricked into a trap of fulfilling your most nasty sexual fantasies, without your earning it. Other men of other cultures never, ever disrespect their women and or express their desires for another to the women in their culture. That's called having no respect for your culture. Brothas have been tricked into believing that its okay to down grade their people , their women and culture. You can love everyone, but you must first love yourself, point blank, period. Respect your women and stop hating us because you have issues, insecurities and emasculation complexes. Get your shit together. Is it pro hispanic, when a hispanic person speaks highly of their own kind? No. Is it pro White, when a White person speaks highly of its own kind? No. Is it pro Asian, when Asians speak highly of their own kind?No. but when a Black person speaks highly of their own kind, its pro Black? smh
Be virtuous ladies and save yourself for your husband, that is GOD's word and GOD's intentions. God will never approve of casual sex. Never take advice from a worldly, unGodly man. Why? because those aren't the women they respect nor marry, no matter what they say. Be sexually open and flexible with your husband. Let the man with nothing have blue balls. You are not his trash.
Happy 2012
This New Years, ladies let's know the truth and start it off right!
No more games , no more lies, and no more fake stuff. Be happy to be alive and invest in yourself.
Never believe in your heart everything a man tells you, believe what GOD tells you. Believe who God uses as a vessel. The flesh is thirsty and is always in need of something. Man lies, GOD cannot tell a lie. Man is of flesh, GOD is of spirit. As my pastor said yesterday, seek advice from Godly men and Godly women.
I have been hearing a lot of garbage about brothas requesting for Black women and or women in general to become more sexually flexible and promiscuous and as a result, that will help them keep a man. Now women, hear me when i say this. At no point ever, will sex get nor keep a man. Never, ever!! Men stay for more reasons beyond sex. Save your virtuosity and never give that up to the average Jone. Be the most flexible with your husband and the man you love. Do not be nasty and flexible with just any ol man. That will never get nor keep him. It will only categorize you as a nasty piece of meet that he will never respect nor remember and discard afterwards. Men speak about sex a lot, but that's only because they're more physical. They don't know what they really want, and its your job to show them. Men only remember and honor the women who don't give it up. Remember that! Don't be a man's toy. Remember the previous blog about oxytocins and soul ties. Not to mention HIV. A man has nothing to risk when he sexes, aside from HIV and diseases. A woman risks herself for Diseases, HIV, oxytocins, and soul ties. A man has nothing to lose, so let the man who risks nothing talk you into doing something, if you want to. It will only leave you empty in the end.
Brothas may rub their encounters , with the other races of women, who allow that type of trashy, permiscuious behavior,to Black women. Guess what, nothing is better than soul. Nothing is better than a Queen or King so pleaseeeee. If you don't think so, you have serious issues of self hatred. Brothas have so much self hatred, they don't even understand how to have self love, nor have cultural love first. You don't ever speak of another to a sistah. That's just plain mean and its gloating. It's like kicking someone when their down. It shows anger issues. No one is going to get tricked into a trap of fulfilling your most nasty sexual fantasies, without your earning it. Other men of other cultures never, ever disrespect their women and or express their desires for another to the women in their culture. That's called having no respect for your culture. Brothas have been tricked into believing that its okay to down grade their people , their women and culture. You can love everyone, but you must first love yourself, point blank, period. Respect your women and stop hating us because you have issues, insecurities and emasculation complexes. Get your shit together. Is it pro hispanic, when a hispanic person speaks highly of their own kind? No. Is it pro White, when a White person speaks highly of its own kind? No. Is it pro Asian, when Asians speak highly of their own kind?No. but when a Black person speaks highly of their own kind, its pro Black? smh
Be virtuous ladies and save yourself for your husband, that is GOD's word and GOD's intentions. God will never approve of casual sex. Never take advice from a worldly, unGodly man. Why? because those aren't the women they respect nor marry, no matter what they say. Be sexually open and flexible with your husband. Let the man with nothing have blue balls. You are not his trash.
Happy 2012
Friday, December 16, 2011
Down Low Brotha
The DL Brother
The DL brother is right underneath your nose. He's in your church choir, church, school, job site, house, family, and he might even be your closest friend or lover.
Unfortunately, in certain major cities that host these kinds of brothas like, LA, DC, ATL, etc,they rule. I don't know everything but I believe i can spot a down low brotha from a mile away. Here's some key signs:
1)First off, a down low brotha will never, ever , ever, build you up! In fact they're the type of brothas that bring you down and leave you feeling lonely, stupid, played, rejected and undesirable. If anything, they weigh you down. They rarely compliment you, are they are never there for you emotionally, physically and do not make you feel like the queen you are. As a matter of fact, they send lots of mix messages, like most guys, which keeps you thrown off for a long time. The only difference is, their mix messages are a lot more contradictory that the heterosexual man's mix messages. With a heterosexual man, he may have an attraction for you, but not be serious about a relationship with you, and his actions show that, but the DL brothas actions totally contradict his verbal words. The DL brotha will say he loves you, wants to be with you, desires you, wants to experience so many great things with you,yet his actions are totally opposite and quite confusing.
2)The DL brotha always chooses two types of women to pursue; the strong or the naive. They pursue strong women, due to conflicts with their mother. In that case, his misogynist instincts kick in, and their only job in that case is, to bring hell to your life, while still being conflicted at the same time, due to trying to conquer his issues from childhood. The second type of woman he pursues is the naive woman. This woman is usually the woman he chooses to settle down with, because of course, the naive woman expects nothing. She's clueless to this types of stuff. She might be gullible, insecure, in denial, ugly,desperate or just insane, etc. His goal is to settle down with a woman who will be his cover up, and one who will never find out his secret. He chooses a woman he doesn't have to give much affection to, nor show that much attraction towards.
3)The Down Low brotha always seeks a cover up. In other words, a woman who he can use as a cover up for his attraction towards men.
4) The down low brotha that is not ready for a commitment will always choose a woman who will be conflicting of something he can't commit to. For example, he purses the woman who he can't stand. He pursues a woman who is too strong for him. He pursues a woman who has her shit together. He pursues a woman who desires a heterosexual man who is not twisted. He pursues a woman who he is not like minded with. He pursues a woman with totally different values than he has. Last but not least, he pursues a woman whom he can't get along with. The purpose of him doing this is to come up with excuses as to why he is single and without a woman, just another cover up!
5)He ain't shit.
6)He never makes a move. Down low brothas never make a move, ever notice that? You've been owt with this guy several times, and he never makes a move. He never touches your hand and he never tries to kiss you. They never want to have sex, which you shouldn't be doing if you're not married anyway. On the other hand, men are more sexual and they will show that behavior, rather its sinful or not. Down low brothas also never want to kiss. Down low brothas never want to hug. They never make a move and when they finally do, it feels ingenuine , like its your uncle or something. Down low brothas talk a lot about wanting to be in a relationship, yet they never make a move and they do everything that will keep a relationship from blossoming.
7) DL Brothas usually look up to you. I don't know about you but a man looking up to me is some gay ass shit if I've ever seen it. Its one thing to admire and adore a woman but, its a whole different story for a man to actually look up to a woman, as a role model, unless of course she's an older sister, mentor or motivational person, i.e. successful woman or celebrity. Otherwise, it's pretty effeminate. A heterosexual man usually desires for a woman to admire him.
8)The DL brotha usually hates women. They can be some of the most frustrated men on the planet. Every woman sucks ass to them and they find every reason to hate each woman they meet. In their eyes, there is something wrong with every woman, but him. If you can convince every body that its the other person's fault, then all the attention is off of yourself, right?
9)They speak like a lady. For example, "Hey Girl". "You know what, I'ma get you". "You better stop". "I need to loose weight". "She was trying to get in my drawers". "She was trying to get with me". "Buy me this or that". They substitute all female language with, a male dialect. In other words, if you listen closely and close your eyes when talking to a DL brotha, you would think you were talking to your deep voice homegirl.
10) He told you what male celebrity he would be with if he were gay, or refers to certain male celebrities as his male crush. What kind of man do you know that would have the nerve to think about what male he would like to be with, if he could. That is the downest , down low shit I've ever heard of. I was once asked this question in the reverse form, by a male, which i told him i could not answer, without putting myself in that twisted mind frame,which isn't my element, but he insisted on playing this question game and revealed what male crushes he would love to have, if her were gay. SMH
11) DL brothas are non committal and the biggest emotional guys you will ever meet. They are drama kings.
12) They may say things like, "I'm attracted to you", or "I want you" , or be extremely nasty. They do and say things that usually don't need explanation.
13) They claim to want you , although they live distances away. They may even do things that make absolutely no sense like, travel long distances to see you, only to not make a move nor pursue you. They may even wait to confess their supposed love to you, when you relocate, but never said anything when you were only a few miles away. Remember the in congruence and confusion that is constantly shown in his behavior.
14) Oh and not to mention, Down Low brothas think they have us all fooled. They believe that, we don't know or suspect anything! Ha. We just don't say anything, and half the time, to keep our own sanity,we deny it ourselves. They do not have anyone fooled. They are not out smarting us. Its just that, women have a history and pattern of being insecure and desperate for love, so they use those weaknesses and play on them. Remember his truth will always be revealed in the innuendo's , aka in congruences within his behavior. Think I'm lying,and you will continue to get caught up and be down in the dumps. All actions speak louder than words.
15) DL Brothas always have some sly remark and or frustration about having to put in the work to pursue a woman. They would rather be chased, rather than chase. To chase after a woman they really don't want deep down inside, is insanity to him.
16) There is always some reason for a DL brotha being single. He acts as if there just aren't any good women out there and or women aren't acting right, nor making it easy for him. Truth of the matter is, a man can pursue and search for any woman of his desires, so that's just bullshit!
17) Down low men sometimes even get married. Many down low brothas have been married before, and some stay married. They usually target a certain woman, who won't be able to figure his secret out. Most DL's are divorcees. They love to get married because its more of smoke screen distraction, and steers you away from his actual secret. Don't be fooled by this. If he's suspect he's suspect, no matter if he's married and or been married before. It's all a cover up. Hell, many DL's have children, and it means nothing.
18) Stay away from the poindexter's! I hate these kinds. They are the overly politically correct, up right, suit wearing, well groomed, nerdy type dudes. They usually are well spoken, well educated and totally geeky. Yea right! That's another cover up. As it will appear to the world as, poindexture, but he's really just a freak on the low. Get a real man and shake this guy!
19) The DL church man. I hate to write this , but many hide out there. Not all , of course. Many real men are in the church, because everyone needs spiritual healing. Many DL brothas are also there, and you must be able to decipher which is which and who is who.
20) Down low men love Asian and White women and also naive women. Asian women and White women are easy targets for these kinds of men, because they may not be aware of the signs, and because DL brothas are usually more masculine than other men in other races, their feminine gestures and suspect behavior is usually a smoke screen. No offense women, its just the way the cookie crumbles. DL brothas are also attracted to naive women of all races, why? because they are naive and lack worldly experience. Don't get it twisted , they love strong women as well, especially strong women , but that usually never last because the strong woman is not a good candidate in the long run. lol
20) Down low brothas usually have an object of focus. Meaning, they focus the attention outwardly, to keep people from focusing on them. Notice how they keep their eyes on your every move and or their focus is on something other than themselves. They usually have an object of focus , to keep the attention off of themselves.
-Don't chase after him and don't fall into his trap. You will be doomed for failure every time.
Whelp,that's all I know for now
Peaceeeee
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The DL brother is right underneath your nose. He's in your church choir, church, school, job site, house, family, and he might even be your closest friend or lover.
Unfortunately, in certain major cities that host these kinds of brothas like, LA, DC, ATL, etc,they rule. I don't know everything but I believe i can spot a down low brotha from a mile away. Here's some key signs:
1)First off, a down low brotha will never, ever , ever, build you up! In fact they're the type of brothas that bring you down and leave you feeling lonely, stupid, played, rejected and undesirable. If anything, they weigh you down. They rarely compliment you, are they are never there for you emotionally, physically and do not make you feel like the queen you are. As a matter of fact, they send lots of mix messages, like most guys, which keeps you thrown off for a long time. The only difference is, their mix messages are a lot more contradictory that the heterosexual man's mix messages. With a heterosexual man, he may have an attraction for you, but not be serious about a relationship with you, and his actions show that, but the DL brothas actions totally contradict his verbal words. The DL brotha will say he loves you, wants to be with you, desires you, wants to experience so many great things with you,yet his actions are totally opposite and quite confusing.
2)The DL brotha always chooses two types of women to pursue; the strong or the naive. They pursue strong women, due to conflicts with their mother. In that case, his misogynist instincts kick in, and their only job in that case is, to bring hell to your life, while still being conflicted at the same time, due to trying to conquer his issues from childhood. The second type of woman he pursues is the naive woman. This woman is usually the woman he chooses to settle down with, because of course, the naive woman expects nothing. She's clueless to this types of stuff. She might be gullible, insecure, in denial, ugly,desperate or just insane, etc. His goal is to settle down with a woman who will be his cover up, and one who will never find out his secret. He chooses a woman he doesn't have to give much affection to, nor show that much attraction towards.
3)The Down Low brotha always seeks a cover up. In other words, a woman who he can use as a cover up for his attraction towards men.
4) The down low brotha that is not ready for a commitment will always choose a woman who will be conflicting of something he can't commit to. For example, he purses the woman who he can't stand. He pursues a woman who is too strong for him. He pursues a woman who has her shit together. He pursues a woman who desires a heterosexual man who is not twisted. He pursues a woman who he is not like minded with. He pursues a woman with totally different values than he has. Last but not least, he pursues a woman whom he can't get along with. The purpose of him doing this is to come up with excuses as to why he is single and without a woman, just another cover up!
5)He ain't shit.
6)He never makes a move. Down low brothas never make a move, ever notice that? You've been owt with this guy several times, and he never makes a move. He never touches your hand and he never tries to kiss you. They never want to have sex, which you shouldn't be doing if you're not married anyway. On the other hand, men are more sexual and they will show that behavior, rather its sinful or not. Down low brothas also never want to kiss. Down low brothas never want to hug. They never make a move and when they finally do, it feels ingenuine , like its your uncle or something. Down low brothas talk a lot about wanting to be in a relationship, yet they never make a move and they do everything that will keep a relationship from blossoming.
7) DL Brothas usually look up to you. I don't know about you but a man looking up to me is some gay ass shit if I've ever seen it. Its one thing to admire and adore a woman but, its a whole different story for a man to actually look up to a woman, as a role model, unless of course she's an older sister, mentor or motivational person, i.e. successful woman or celebrity. Otherwise, it's pretty effeminate. A heterosexual man usually desires for a woman to admire him.
8)The DL brotha usually hates women. They can be some of the most frustrated men on the planet. Every woman sucks ass to them and they find every reason to hate each woman they meet. In their eyes, there is something wrong with every woman, but him. If you can convince every body that its the other person's fault, then all the attention is off of yourself, right?
9)They speak like a lady. For example, "Hey Girl". "You know what, I'ma get you". "You better stop". "I need to loose weight". "She was trying to get in my drawers". "She was trying to get with me". "Buy me this or that". They substitute all female language with, a male dialect. In other words, if you listen closely and close your eyes when talking to a DL brotha, you would think you were talking to your deep voice homegirl.
10) He told you what male celebrity he would be with if he were gay, or refers to certain male celebrities as his male crush. What kind of man do you know that would have the nerve to think about what male he would like to be with, if he could. That is the downest , down low shit I've ever heard of. I was once asked this question in the reverse form, by a male, which i told him i could not answer, without putting myself in that twisted mind frame,which isn't my element, but he insisted on playing this question game and revealed what male crushes he would love to have, if her were gay. SMH
11) DL brothas are non committal and the biggest emotional guys you will ever meet. They are drama kings.
12) They may say things like, "I'm attracted to you", or "I want you" , or be extremely nasty. They do and say things that usually don't need explanation.
13) They claim to want you , although they live distances away. They may even do things that make absolutely no sense like, travel long distances to see you, only to not make a move nor pursue you. They may even wait to confess their supposed love to you, when you relocate, but never said anything when you were only a few miles away. Remember the in congruence and confusion that is constantly shown in his behavior.
14) Oh and not to mention, Down Low brothas think they have us all fooled. They believe that, we don't know or suspect anything! Ha. We just don't say anything, and half the time, to keep our own sanity,we deny it ourselves. They do not have anyone fooled. They are not out smarting us. Its just that, women have a history and pattern of being insecure and desperate for love, so they use those weaknesses and play on them. Remember his truth will always be revealed in the innuendo's , aka in congruences within his behavior. Think I'm lying,and you will continue to get caught up and be down in the dumps. All actions speak louder than words.
15) DL Brothas always have some sly remark and or frustration about having to put in the work to pursue a woman. They would rather be chased, rather than chase. To chase after a woman they really don't want deep down inside, is insanity to him.
16) There is always some reason for a DL brotha being single. He acts as if there just aren't any good women out there and or women aren't acting right, nor making it easy for him. Truth of the matter is, a man can pursue and search for any woman of his desires, so that's just bullshit!
17) Down low men sometimes even get married. Many down low brothas have been married before, and some stay married. They usually target a certain woman, who won't be able to figure his secret out. Most DL's are divorcees. They love to get married because its more of smoke screen distraction, and steers you away from his actual secret. Don't be fooled by this. If he's suspect he's suspect, no matter if he's married and or been married before. It's all a cover up. Hell, many DL's have children, and it means nothing.
18) Stay away from the poindexter's! I hate these kinds. They are the overly politically correct, up right, suit wearing, well groomed, nerdy type dudes. They usually are well spoken, well educated and totally geeky. Yea right! That's another cover up. As it will appear to the world as, poindexture, but he's really just a freak on the low. Get a real man and shake this guy!
19) The DL church man. I hate to write this , but many hide out there. Not all , of course. Many real men are in the church, because everyone needs spiritual healing. Many DL brothas are also there, and you must be able to decipher which is which and who is who.
20) Down low men love Asian and White women and also naive women. Asian women and White women are easy targets for these kinds of men, because they may not be aware of the signs, and because DL brothas are usually more masculine than other men in other races, their feminine gestures and suspect behavior is usually a smoke screen. No offense women, its just the way the cookie crumbles. DL brothas are also attracted to naive women of all races, why? because they are naive and lack worldly experience. Don't get it twisted , they love strong women as well, especially strong women , but that usually never last because the strong woman is not a good candidate in the long run. lol
20) Down low brothas usually have an object of focus. Meaning, they focus the attention outwardly, to keep people from focusing on them. Notice how they keep their eyes on your every move and or their focus is on something other than themselves. They usually have an object of focus , to keep the attention off of themselves.
-Don't chase after him and don't fall into his trap. You will be doomed for failure every time.
Whelp,that's all I know for now
Peaceeeee
Follow maledecoded @maletalk101
Friday, May 6, 2011
When A Guy
When A Guy:
When a guy is on the phone with you, and tells you he has to get off the phone because he just pulled up to his house= He's cheating! aka has a girl on the side and she lives with him.
When a guy talks on the phone with you, while he's parked in his drive way= He has a girl upstairs, awaiting his return.
When a guy calls you at odd times= He has a girl!
When a guy refuses to give you his contacts, and or house number= He has a girl and she probably lives with him.
When a guy comes on too strong in the beginning, then pulls back suddenly= He had ulterior motives in the first place.
When a guy is tenaciously trying to give you his number= He's not a hunter and he won't make any moves to pursue you.
When a guy is on the phone with you, and tells you he has to get off the phone because he just pulled up to his house= He's cheating! aka has a girl on the side and she lives with him.
When a guy talks on the phone with you, while he's parked in his drive way= He has a girl upstairs, awaiting his return.
When a guy calls you at odd times= He has a girl!
When a guy refuses to give you his contacts, and or house number= He has a girl and she probably lives with him.
When a guy comes on too strong in the beginning, then pulls back suddenly= He had ulterior motives in the first place.
When a guy is tenaciously trying to give you his number= He's not a hunter and he won't make any moves to pursue you.
Saturday, March 12, 2011
Male Box
In order to train a man , you have to beat him at his own game. It's called reverse psychology. If he acts like your not that important, then act like he's not that important and find someone who thinks you are. If he acts as if you irritate him, then distant yourself from him, as if you feel responsible for his irritation. If he cheats and treats all women like a piece of meat, act as if you're more than that, and seek no one's approval. Let him observe you as a woman. If he texts you, claiming to like you and wish to connect with you, then look at his contradictory actions and treat him as a home boy. After all, that's what friends do right? They text. Real men pursue. If he doesn't treat you as if you're high maintence, then do it for yourself and show him better than you can tell him! If he doesn't want to wine and dine you, then treat him as if he's broke and can't afford you. If he refuses to fufill his duties as a man, such as taking the trash out, killing the bugs, fixing things around the house, supporting you, making you happy.
and protecting you, then ask another man to do it.
We as women have to stop allowing these men to think that their behavior is okay, when it's mediocre. Mediocrity is not okay in life. You have to passionate about the things you want. If you have no passion, then you don't really desire what you say you do.
Men have to start working harder to get a good woman and women need to start choosing better men. Men, start climbing to the top and women, make him climb the tree to get your best apple. Stop falling short from the stem down to the ground, for him to grab a hold of you. If he's hungry, he'll eat, If he's not hungry for it, then let him starve.
Simple, A+ B= C. If he is not meeting your requirements as a man should, then treat him as if he is not being man enough for you.
That'll show him!
and protecting you, then ask another man to do it.
We as women have to stop allowing these men to think that their behavior is okay, when it's mediocre. Mediocrity is not okay in life. You have to passionate about the things you want. If you have no passion, then you don't really desire what you say you do.
Men have to start working harder to get a good woman and women need to start choosing better men. Men, start climbing to the top and women, make him climb the tree to get your best apple. Stop falling short from the stem down to the ground, for him to grab a hold of you. If he's hungry, he'll eat, If he's not hungry for it, then let him starve.
Simple, A+ B= C. If he is not meeting your requirements as a man should, then treat him as if he is not being man enough for you.
That'll show him!
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