Men sometimes believe that, when they get with you, they can change you or mold you into what they want you to be. Don't change for a man. Let him get whom ever he's trying to change you into. What attracted him to you, is probably who you are. Men will never tell you this, but, what they complain about most, is what arouses them. Allow a man to uplift you, and treat you like a queen, if he wishes to, but do not allow him to criticize who you are. If he isn't Moses himself, sent by the (God's) to help you, he's criticizing and trying to change you. So if you were stripping on a pole before you met him, keep stripping lol, don't change.
Keep stripping, keep being strong, keep being an activist, school teacher or who ever you are. Allow no man to criticize, nor change you. You have a right to be who you are. Understand the difference between uplifting and down playing.