Chase a Man? Chase God!

Written by a very in tuned lady.

"SHOULD A WOMAN CHASE A MAN?
"A woman is not to chase a man. Women please stop chasing men. Let him chase you. Give him time to fight for what he wants. After he gets you, he'll know that you're worth more than rubies. (Proverbs 31:10) Both man and woman are suppose to chase after God. While the man is seeking God, God will direct the footsteps of both the man and woman so that they cross paths. God will lead the man to pursue the RIGHT woman. Too many times the good fellas end up chasing the wrong women because they lack discernment. As you begin to seek the face of God., your discernment will increase because for the spiritual height you will be on. Chase and Purse the word of GOD and then everything you want will be right around the corner, so i here my spirit tells me so.

So men lay in the arms of your Father just like Adam did when he went into a deep sleep as God handcrafted his beautiful woman for him. Or rest and relax like Issacc did when his father sent his servant on a journey to bring him a wife from his own country. The bible says, that before he and Rebecca were near each other, he was in the field meditating. Another thing godly men is watch your character and reputation. Remember Boaz saw Ruth working hard in the field. He watched her closely as she worked noticing some of her good qualities. A godly man is a wise investor. Any investor will tell you to not make any hasty decision regarding investing in a market or selling your shares. You have to watch the market and know the market in whatever you want to invest in so that you can yield high returns.


Many people tell half the truth when interpreting the scripture that says, "He that finds a wife finds a good thing". It is true that the word "finds" means that the man is to pursue a woman. But that scripture is also two-fold. What that scripture means is that after God completes processing the woman's character, she then becomes established in her spirit and character and is now qualified to be a wife. So now she is a good thing. (Church)!

A foolish woman is not a good thing to a man. The bible says everything God created was good. God didn't create evil character in women and men. So every woman must go through a fiery trial so that God may burn up the chaff; to produce the good that is in her. To bring out the best in her, so that when she walks into her season, she will be a good thing. And when she is a good thing, she will then become qualified by God to be called a wife. So whoever comes into the presence of this woman will come into the presence of a good woman who has allowed God to process her into being a godly wife.

The bible says "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these other things will be added unto you." (Matthew) As a matter of fact, the more we pursue things and people, the further God allows them to stay away from our lives, because we're seeking something more than we seek God. God wants us to pray and rest in His arms as we pray for our helpmates.

Remember Adam was asleep when God brought Eve to him. Adam knew he was missing something, but didn't know it was already in him. So when God presented Eve, she was good. That's what the scripture "A man that finds a wife, finds a good thing." And "NO" this doesn't mean a woman is suppose to chase a man. Isacc wasn't looking for wife. God presented Rebekah to him. Boaz wasn't looking for Ruth. God presented her to him. In each situation, it was God that brought each couple together through different circumstances, no matter how unusual they may seem.

No matter who your husband or wife is, or where they are from, God will strategically place you in the path of your soul mate. You don't have to go to the club or even go to church looking for anyone. Just keep your eyes on Jesus and He will meet everyone of your need, and give you the desire of your heart according to His will and word. Ladies be prayerful and ask God to make you a good thing. Again, I say don't chase a man, because if you're really good he'll chase you down. Remember the saying, "You never miss a good thing until it's gone. Stay out of his face. And seek His face. Stop calling him. And
call Him. Become that good thing, and your man won't be able to resist you because of the anointing radiating on your face from the inside out.

What this message renders is, a woman should not be chasing after a man, but should be chasing after GOD, allowing him to prepare her to be a good thing, a precious gift to a man. A man should be chasing after GOD 1st, so that he can be molded into being a good man for a woman, and so that GOD can present to him the woman he designed for that man and instill inside of him the ambition to actually pursue the woman of his desires. (You see why it's so important to be evenly yoked)

GOD MUST NOT ONLY DEVELOP YOU AS A WOMAN FOR THE MAN FIRST BUT A MAN MUST ALSO BE DEVELOPED FOR THE WOMAN! put all your desires in GOD. call GOD, text God, PAGE GOD, facebook GOD, myspace GOD, add GOD as your friend, vent your frustrations to GOD. Leave GOD a message 1ST and watch how he will move in your life, granting you all the desires of your heart but only .1st after you have throughly sought him.

PEACE AND church.

Make Friends

I am finding myself to be a strong advocate of this friend thing. In today's world, we rush everything! Even our relationships, as discussed in the last blog entry. Well, I have just the answer. How about dating the friendship first, you'll save so much time in the mean time. Now, if you don't mind wasting your precious little time, then bigolly, continue to speed date and you will surely run through lots of guys and waste lots of time ;). Here's the thing, when you meet a guy, you don't know who he is, nor if he matches the items on your ideal man list. Remember, he could be geeky, nerdy, corny, too nice, a yes man, a gay man, a use to be married man, a felon, a mentally ill patient, an abuser, STD, or HIV prone. He may even be a baby daddy. You don't know him, nor his idiosyncrasies, so don't act like you do. Unless you're psychic, there is no such thing as knowing somebody. First off, small steps should be taken, and as nature takes it's course, and God's will agrees, then you and the man can move through each stage, by first passing each step. And as stated previously ladies, always pray and always be one with your desires, and the characteristics of your ideal man. If you have not created a list of your ideal traits in a man, do so. Be one with your truth :) Here are the steps: Remember to take it slowwwwwwwwww or learn the hard way in the end. 1) Always be cordial. Be a friend first! Period, without a doubt 2) Leave room for a lot of space and allow that to lead into time on the phone 3) Do Lot's of talking on the phone before spending time together 4) After allowing space,& chatting a bunch, then you can spend time together 5) Once you spend lot's of quality time together,you can then start to date him 6) Once you have been dating for a while, you can then become exclusively dating 7) Once you have been exclusively dating, you can become girlfriend & Boyfriend 8) Once you have a relationship for a while, and you know for sure he is the one and he feels the same, marry him! and in that order!! ;) These steps are made to help and protect you. After going fast for so many years, i realize how precious my time is and you can't get it back once it's gone. Take your time, because time does fly. Men live in the moment,so they are equipped to going fast, but taking it slow is best for you, and any man who wants to rush has something to hide anyway. Notice how every guy that moves extra fast usually ends up being a bum, lol. Don't go fast, you have nothing to rush, oh but taking the time to get to know him can take years and the time spent doing so is worth the pain that you will dodge.

Should You Take What You Get ?!!?

Man likes you and you like him back. Man says he wants you and you let him have you. Man says, he wants to date you and you begin dating him. but is he what you really want? Is this the ideal guy that you had in mine? Women tend to sort of take what they can get. We date who wants to date us, and we are hooked by whoever hooks us. So should you take what you can get? The answer is , no! Never let a man set the tone for you. You should date the way you want and allow yourself to be had by who you choose. You do the choosing , never be chosen. The guy can think he choose you, but he didn't. Decide what you want, write down your ideal guy , place it in your bible, set the tone, go at your own pace, play hard to get and then choose the guy you want. Never just take what you can get.

When A Guy Says Let's Be Friends

When a guy says, let's be friends, I say, hell, give him what he asked for and put some stank on it, lol. Let's be friends could mean anything. It could mean he's gay, not interested, a player ,keeping his options open, dating someone else or unattracted to you. He may just want something from you.I don't have time for it. Just know you're a dime and no matter what his opinions, actions or his feelings towards you are, you are the dime piece. No matter what, you rock, eff what he thinks! Always like a guy less than he likes you. So if he dislikes you, hate him, lol "

"Never be further ahead emotionally/mentally in any relationship than the guy". A man should always like a woman more,so if you're busy worrying about him and obsessing over him, it gives him no time to do that for you. A man must like a woman more than she likes him, period! So when he says, "I see you as a cool friend" and or, "let's be friends", mirror him, and say the same,and trick yourself into believing the same. In fact, repeat his words back to him. Who cares why he said what he said, or what he meant by what he said, who cares! If friendship is what he wants, then bigoly, friendship is what he will get! 2 snaps. 'Men usually want to have their cake and eat it too. Men say things to get a reaction. Men say one thing and do another. Well, just remember this, make sure his words read his actions and his actions match his words. Watch a man's words, and then his actions, see if they comply. If they don't , treat him as a joke. Watch a man's actions and see if they match his words, if not, play like the dumb fox, who can only grasp information , when only, the talk matches the walk. Remember to clear your mind and write your ideal man down on a piece of paper and stick it in your bible or somewhere safe and remind yourself of those attributes. I'm sure, man who wants to be friends and sends mix signals isn't one on your list, ha ha. Remember that. So, he wants to be friends, touche, return the blow of friendliness and KO him! LOL

Why Rush ?

Why Rush , when time fly's? Congratulations, we now live in microwaveable society. We want everything fast, now, quick and in a hurry. Today's society is in a rush. We want relationships, education, success, and friendship, with the same amount of density that we want our fast food? Now! But you can't do that with relationships, friendships, success, education, etc. You have to work hard for the things that require gradual steps. Relationships are no different and work the same way. You must build rapport,in order to make the flower grow. You cannot rush knowing someone. AS for me, you can't rush information from me. I'm an acquired taste, that one must take the time to know and learn. Any man entering my realm is an understudy, simply a young grasshopper. It takes time. When you meet someone, things may seem cool, but you don't know that persons family history, quirks, likes , dislikes, pet peeves,sexuality, nor his idiosyncrasies, so don't act like you do. Hell, you don't even really know if you get along with the person yet. When you don't know a person, trust that, you don't know them. Rushing this process is dangerous to the birds eye. Dangerous, dangerous, dangerous! Be careful, you never know who you're talking to. That person could have a police record, a bad temper, mental health record, abusive tendencies,etc. He could also be a nice, and normal guy, but you don't know that yet, now do you? Never let a guy interview you, answer what you want, but always interview him! Now due to the time, days, weeks, months and earth moving at a more rapid speed than ever before, time fly's, so there's no need to rush. When you rush things, and the speed of lightening is already moving at a rapid pace, you are doubling up your speed. When you don't have to, because the earth is already doing that for you. When I look at how long I have known people and how long I have known the new people I just met, i think to myself, boy time fly's, so why rush a relationship, or getting to know someone. You have the speed of earth on your side, so don't rush. Take your time, time fly's.

Playing Hard To Get

A young frat of mine, whom I had 1 wonderful, yet, intellectual conversation with, felt the need to come out of the blue and say, "hey soror, I just wanted to let you know that, I see you as a cool person and a friend and I'm not trying to hit on you, and I just want to be clear about this". He felt this need to tell me this, although, I don't want him, at all and I know I didn't give off any romantic fever!I wasn't even thinking about that stuff. This brings me to my next point: I love this quote Play Hard To Get "Some women think playing hard to get is a game. Really it is not. What it is, is the opposite of being easy to get?. How has being easy to get worked out for you? Hard to get is about building romantic tension. Hard to get is about being in control of your dating life. It is about controlling your romance temperament, love life and your future. Being hard to get means you will not have to ever settle for less than the happiness you want and&;deserve.;By being hard to get you will discover how the chase will be thrilling and memorable for both of you. You will have love, fun, respect and excitement. You can be hard to get and easy to be with at the same time. It's a balance. A man likes the chase. A man values most what he works the hardest for. You are the prize and a prize is not easy. Everyone knows that, what is valuable, does not come easy. Men work for the woman they view as the prize. Think of it like this. You are not Walmart merchandise, that is easy to get and usually has a low price tag. You are top shelf material and top shelf does not come easy".

Reinforcing His Behavior

Do you know that whatever type of man you deal with and or entertain, you reinforce whoever they are? I came up with this theory a while ago , which details the psychology of a man's behavior. Here's a little psychology for you: Positive Reinforcement is when a reward is presented with behavior, which increases that behavior. With any person's behavior , if the behavior is presented with a reward, the behavior is unconsciously reinforced, with or without you or the person knowing. We reinforce behavior all the time, even when we don't know it and even if It's totally accidental. If people behave a certain way , and you present yourself as a reward to that person , your presence and your acceptance of that behavior will increase that persons behavior! When dealing with men, be very careful about this. Men have personality traits, that were already in line before you came along, so be careful to entertain a man who is righteous. When you entertain a man at his best or his worst and something about him is either on point or off point, you will reinforce his behavior. Men come as they are , so rather he is Godly, unGodly, mean, nice , gay , downlow, ratchet, nasty, disrespectful, respectful, lovely, unlovely, smart, cheap, player, censored, uncensored, loyal, responsible ,bossy, etc, they secretly believe that you accept them as they are, even if they don't have good ,acceptable character. Why do you think their behavior gets worst or better? Its crazy huh, but do you know that, a man comes as, "AS IS MERCHANDISE" and they'd like to believe that you have radar. Never entertain a man with bad characteristics. Why? Because you will only increase his character. Just the other day , i was in a shop , as i noticed these two ratchet guys, who were just out of the gutter, however, i was still nice to them and even let them go ahead of me. I should have kept looking ahead, because one of the idiot guys came up to me and asked me if I were expecting? What? Nothing about me even looks pregnant. But this guy was ignorant. So you see, when you see a duck that goes quack, recognize that duck and keep it moving! Why? Because you will only reinforce their behavior and a man is a man. No matter how nice I was , he still felt impelled to ask me that offensive question, why? Because a glass is still a glass, no matter What you do! A dog is á dog , and dogs aré dirty; dogs have fleas and dogs bite. A dogs nature is his nature , and no matter how you treat him , it ain't going to change, because a man who is a dog can only be himself. Just as a good wholesome dude, who is a respectful, gentleman can only be who he is and can't change, well that also applies to a wack dude as Well. Do you ever notice when you meet a guy ,who is not really your type , who you may have a bad inkling about, and you end up entertaining him anyway, that he becomes more ratchet, disrespectful and dull by the moment? Let me tell you why, Its because you reinforced his behavior, therefore his behavior increased. The same rules apply when you meet a wholesome, respectful guy. Always reinforce good behavior.