In order to train a man , you have to beat him at his own game. It's called reverse psychology. If he acts like your not that important, then act like he's not that important and find someone who thinks you are. If he acts as if you irritate him, then distant yourself from him, as if you feel responsible for his irritation. If he cheats and treats all women like a piece of meat, act as if you're more than that, and seek no one's approval. Let him observe you as a woman. If he texts you, claiming to like you and wish to connect with you, then look at his contradictory actions and treat him as a home boy. After all, that's what friends do right? They text. Real men pursue. If he doesn't treat you as if you're high maintence, then do it for yourself and show him better than you can tell him! If he doesn't want to wine and dine you, then treat him as if he's broke and can't afford you. If he refuses to fufill his duties as a man, such as taking the trash out, killing the bugs, fixing things around the house, supporting you, making you happy.
and protecting you, then ask another man to do it.
We as women have to stop allowing these men to think that their behavior is okay, when it's mediocre. Mediocrity is not okay in life. You have to passionate about the things you want. If you have no passion, then you don't really desire what you say you do.
Men have to start working harder to get a good woman and women need to start choosing better men. Men, start climbing to the top and women, make him climb the tree to get your best apple. Stop falling short from the stem down to the ground, for him to grab a hold of you. If he's hungry, he'll eat, If he's not hungry for it, then let him starve.
Simple, A+ B= C. If he is not meeting your requirements as a man should, then treat him as if he is not being man enough for you.
That'll show him!
Saturday, March 12, 2011
Saturday, February 5, 2011
Date Like a Man/ Think Like a Man)
DATE EM , LEAVE HIM, I DON'T WANT HIM. lol
Date like a man. Have fun, let loose, say to your self, ooh, "he's cute". Have friends, talk on the phone, etc. Never let him dictate your speed. Think like a man, differentiate when he's Mr. Right, or just a fling.
Flirt with him and all his friends. Remember to take nothing serious, just like you're a man.
Accept yourself for who you are, never lower your standards just because you want to appease him. Love yourself, flaws and all, and never second guess what you want out of life and who you are.
Date like a man. Have fun, let loose, say to your self, ooh, "he's cute". Have friends, talk on the phone, etc. Never let him dictate your speed. Think like a man, differentiate when he's Mr. Right, or just a fling.
Flirt with him and all his friends. Remember to take nothing serious, just like you're a man.
Accept yourself for who you are, never lower your standards just because you want to appease him. Love yourself, flaws and all, and never second guess what you want out of life and who you are.
RELATIONSHIPS
Relationships with the most drama are the relationships that end like sun dried tomatoes. When people are for you, it's effortless and positive. The one's you fight and have the most turmoil with, are the ones who end up married to someone else , with kids, five years later. Why you ask? because you're hard headed and God had to teach you a lesson the hard way. See, whoever you are meant to be with, is who you will end up with, no matter how many relationships you have in between passing time. You are somebody's wife, just as he is somebody's husband. That will never change, so take the fights, drama, arguments as a sign that he is not the right guy for you and he is for somebody else. Better to let it go now.
And remember that, men think of themselves first, so don't make him priority, if he's making you an option.
And remember that, men think of themselves first, so don't make him priority, if he's making you an option.
Man Leaves, U break Up, You Move On, Or Do You?
MAN BREAKS UP WITH WOMAN AND MOVES ON ! HE FINDS LOVE, POSSIBLE A SOUL MATE, MARRIAGE, KIDS AND MORE. DID YOU? MEN ARE KEEN FOR MOVING ON. THEY SHOULD RIGHT A BOOK ABOUT IT. WHY DOES IT SEEM LIKE THE MAN YOU WERE ONCE WITH, RATHER IT BE ONE YEAR AGO, OR TWENTY YEARS AGO, MOVES ON AND FINDS LOVE AGAIN, AND YOU DON'T? WOMEN ARE EXPERTS AT GIVING UP ON LOVE AFTER BEING HURT OR LET DOWN. MEN ARE EXPERTS AT KNOWING WHEN A WOMAN IS THE ONE, INSTINCTIVELY. MEN ARE EXPERTS AT BELIEVING THE GRASS IS GREEN ON THE OTHER SIDE. MEN ARE GREAT AT DENYING THEY HAD ANYTHING TO DO WITH ANYTHING, AND THAT THE WOMAN IS ALWAYS AT FAULT. MEN ARE ALSO BRILLIANT AT DIFFERENTIATING BETWEEN GOOD TIME ONLY GIRL AND LIFE MATE. MEN DETACH THEMSELVES FROM BEING THE FLAW THAT ENDED THE RELATIONSHIP. WOMEN ARE KNOWN FOR BLAMING THEMSELVES AFTER EVERY BREAK UP, AS IF THEY ARE THE FLAW. WOMEN FALL IN LOVE WITH THE IDEA OF LOVE. WOMEN DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT THEY ARE HOPELESS ROMANTICS. WOMEN DON'T GET THAT, MOST OF THESE ***** ARE SEAT FILLERS, TAKING UP SPACE UNTIL THE ONE COMES ALONG. GIRLS USUALLY GIVE UP ON LOVE AND LET A GOOD MAN PASS THEM BY BECAUSE, THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT ALL MEN ARE THE SAME, ACCEPT THE DIFFERENT ONES!
DO NOT FALL INTO THE TRAP OF ALLOWING A MAN WHO ONCE HURT, DISAPPOINTED OR LET YOU DOWN, HOLD YOU BACK FROM TRUE LOVE. Sometimes women open themselves up to the wrong man and just don't want to risk being open and vulnerable and end up hurt again, so they choose sing, instead. MEN ALWAYS, ALWAYS MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE. Yet 10 years later, you still single, wondering why?
DO NOT FALL INTO THE TRAP OF ALLOWING A MAN WHO ONCE HURT, DISAPPOINTED OR LET YOU DOWN, HOLD YOU BACK FROM TRUE LOVE. Sometimes women open themselves up to the wrong man and just don't want to risk being open and vulnerable and end up hurt again, so they choose sing, instead. MEN ALWAYS, ALWAYS MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE. Yet 10 years later, you still single, wondering why?
Friday, February 4, 2011
When People enter your life
People enter your life the same we they exit it. When people come into your life in peace, then they will be at peace with you and leave in peace, if they ever leave at all. No one comes into your life uncaring and begins to care about you. If he comes into your life with ulterior motives, he will leave with his motives met or unmet, if you catch my drift. Just as people don't come into your life, in a loving manner, only to turn their backs on you later is the point I am making. A selfish person will be a selfish person from the beginning, until the end. A good person will be a good person, until the end. Good people don't switch up and Bad people don't switch up. How a person enters your life is the position they will hold, when they exit. Just think about it.
Hold no passengers. "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."-Matthew 12:34
Hold no passengers. "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."-Matthew 12:34
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Emotionally Unavailable Men
Hello,
Just because a man says he wants to get with you, doesn't mean he's ready for a commitment. In fact, it's the opposite. No man just wakes up saying, I want love, commitment and vulnerability and the possible risk of getting hurt or opening up to the wrong woman. Not even a man who says he wants a girlfriend operates this way. The way you see commitment is totally different from the way he sees it. When a man claims to want to be with you, love and commitment and going steady is what he thinks about later. In fact, men think of sex first and the other stuff comes later. A wise quote i once heard was, "men look for sex and find love and women look for love and find sex". In fact, men live in the moment, so you never know if he just broke up with his girl and or is still with his babies mother , still emotionally tied to his ex or just needing some female attention and TLC. So if there's a man in your life and he's telling you he has the hots for you, don't take it as his way of stepping up fora relationship, right away. No matter what he says, love doesn't happen over night. Emotionally unavailable man will tell you all the right things, but his actions will say it all. Don'tbe surprised if he's distant and or shows traits of emotional unavailability, such as
1) texting
2) facebooking
3) Myspacing
4) twitting
5) emailing
6) dropping in and out of your life when he pleases
7) actions contradicting words, changing of behavior and routines
8) breaking up with old girlfriend, getting back together
9) relationship statuses on facebook changing frequently
A man does not dream of his dream girl the way a woman dreams of her dream guy. He has to grow into wanting and desiring the whole love package.
While women have been thinking about love all her life, she has had a head start, that a man has to catch up to. Be patient ladies. A man in love is nothing to play with. It is the most intense, beautiful thing you could ever imagine. If he's acting as if he's head over hills too soon, it's lust and might be a sign that he is emotionally unavailable. Remember ladies, most of the guys you meet are emotionally unavailable at first, so understand that intense closeness is something he has to grow into. No matter what he says, love does not happen over night and men don't operate that way. Forget his words and believe his actions.
Just because a man says he wants to get with you, doesn't mean he's ready for a commitment. In fact, it's the opposite. No man just wakes up saying, I want love, commitment and vulnerability and the possible risk of getting hurt or opening up to the wrong woman. Not even a man who says he wants a girlfriend operates this way. The way you see commitment is totally different from the way he sees it. When a man claims to want to be with you, love and commitment and going steady is what he thinks about later. In fact, men think of sex first and the other stuff comes later. A wise quote i once heard was, "men look for sex and find love and women look for love and find sex". In fact, men live in the moment, so you never know if he just broke up with his girl and or is still with his babies mother , still emotionally tied to his ex or just needing some female attention and TLC. So if there's a man in your life and he's telling you he has the hots for you, don't take it as his way of stepping up fora relationship, right away. No matter what he says, love doesn't happen over night. Emotionally unavailable man will tell you all the right things, but his actions will say it all. Don'tbe surprised if he's distant and or shows traits of emotional unavailability, such as
1) texting
2) facebooking
3) Myspacing
4) twitting
5) emailing
6) dropping in and out of your life when he pleases
7) actions contradicting words, changing of behavior and routines
8) breaking up with old girlfriend, getting back together
9) relationship statuses on facebook changing frequently
A man does not dream of his dream girl the way a woman dreams of her dream guy. He has to grow into wanting and desiring the whole love package.
While women have been thinking about love all her life, she has had a head start, that a man has to catch up to. Be patient ladies. A man in love is nothing to play with. It is the most intense, beautiful thing you could ever imagine. If he's acting as if he's head over hills too soon, it's lust and might be a sign that he is emotionally unavailable. Remember ladies, most of the guys you meet are emotionally unavailable at first, so understand that intense closeness is something he has to grow into. No matter what he says, love does not happen over night and men don't operate that way. Forget his words and believe his actions.
Monday, January 31, 2011
When a man is not into you (This is how he acts)
Ever wonder if a man is into you or not?
I got the answer right here ladies. When a man is into you, he will not criticize you, insult you, be against you, argue with you, or contradict you.In fact, it's the opposite, he will have your back. He will be your biggest fan!
When a man is into you, you can be overweight, have acne on your face , have a bad attitude, and he will still see you as an angel. Ask a man who's in love with a woman to describe her, he will be like, "she's perfect, she's beautiful"". He will describe a woman with horrible character, as a woman with a great personality! Your worst traits to everyone else, are your best traits, in his eyes. He will be in love with parts of you that others can't stand or can't handle. He will see the best in you and bring out the best in you. How many of you saw the Housewives of Atlanta after show, on Bravo last night? Notice how Kim Zoziack's new beau described every one of her worst traits as her best. He claimed, "I know the real her". A man into you will see what others overlook. He will see the real you and love you for it. He won't see you as too hot to handle, because you'll be right up his alley.
When a man is not that into you, he will put you down, criticize you, never try to understand you, fuss at you and he will never have your back. In fact, he won't even be on his best behavior, when he is around you. If you are great and complex, man average men won't make the cut in your life, but that one special guy will have the tools to win you over and he will see you as an addition to his life.
I got the answer right here ladies. When a man is into you, he will not criticize you, insult you, be against you, argue with you, or contradict you.In fact, it's the opposite, he will have your back. He will be your biggest fan!
When a man is into you, you can be overweight, have acne on your face , have a bad attitude, and he will still see you as an angel. Ask a man who's in love with a woman to describe her, he will be like, "she's perfect, she's beautiful"". He will describe a woman with horrible character, as a woman with a great personality! Your worst traits to everyone else, are your best traits, in his eyes. He will be in love with parts of you that others can't stand or can't handle. He will see the best in you and bring out the best in you. How many of you saw the Housewives of Atlanta after show, on Bravo last night? Notice how Kim Zoziack's new beau described every one of her worst traits as her best. He claimed, "I know the real her". A man into you will see what others overlook. He will see the real you and love you for it. He won't see you as too hot to handle, because you'll be right up his alley.
When a man is not that into you, he will put you down, criticize you, never try to understand you, fuss at you and he will never have your back. In fact, he won't even be on his best behavior, when he is around you. If you are great and complex, man average men won't make the cut in your life, but that one special guy will have the tools to win you over and he will see you as an addition to his life.
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