Spiritual Soul Ties

Hello, Male Decoded has moved and changed locations. Please refer to my new website at www.maledecoded.com My new blog location will offer more services to my readers. I will no longer write on this site, so please visit new blog site. www.maledecoded.com Follow me @Relationships 1O    If you're wondering what soul ties is, please refer to my previous blog entries. A small definition to sum it up would be, entering someone's spirit sexually, creating a soul tie. Soul ties, along with the release of the Oxytocin hormone will bond you with the person you sleep with. Oxytocin is a serious hormone , which is only released during the contraction of uterine muscle and secretion of milk.  This is why, we are asked to save ourselves for our husband and wife. 1 Corinthians:7 "to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife and let every woman have her own husband".  Sex is nothing to play with and you better make sure that whom ever you choose to lay down with, is someone you don't mind creating a soul time with. It's serious business, because you're playing with your soul. That's why they call it soul ties. Sex is the highest form of affection and the greatest form of how a soul tie is created, without a doubt.  In addition to that, I personally believe that soul ties can also come in other forms, such as, kissing, fondling, hugging, touching and last but not least, emotional soul ties. Do you know that when you just as much as talk to someone , you are receiving them into your spirit. You are allowing that person to speak into your life. Touching someone allows their spirits to be transferred to you and let me tell you this, you don't know what you might be receiving into your spirit. Kissing can be just as bad. Just as soul ties are created through sexual intercourse, well kissing is wet sex. You exchange saliva, spirits, arouse one another, and bond more. Touching is even worst. While some people may feel that oral sex and or hand jobs and masturbation is innocent and elementary, it isn't. Yes, it's juvenile, and not sex, but it still bonds you , where you don't need to be , with a person, to some extent. God didn't say, have no sex, but do everything else, because it's somewhat innocent. Nope, God wants us to be pure in all forms, leaving us clear minded , so that we are able to recognize our true soul mates, when they arrive. While emotional bonding is the more innocent act of all, it can seriously get you in trouble, because all acts stem from the emotional state first. Like sex, be careful who you lay your emotions down with. Be careful who you like. You can allow someone to speak into your life and spirit, just by having feelings for them. Be very selective with who you like. Every emotion isn't an innocent one and it can get you in trouble.Be careful not to create emotional soul ties with just any old guy. Although sex outside of marriage is not my thing, I learned about emotional bonding, and kissing the hard way. Although it seems like innocent acts, that bond is still created.

Think i'm lying about soul ties? test it. Think of the guys that you have not had sexual intercourse with? Now think of the men that you have gone all the way with. Do you see the difference??!!
Think of the men you have kissed and now think of the men you have never kissed? Think of the men you don't like and the power you have, and now compare them to the men you like and even love?? Big difference huh? Think of the men you have fondled with and now think of the men that you haven't fondled with. There is a difference of soul tie bonding, vs not bonding at all , correctz? Be careful with whom you lay down with. Save yourself, because sex is a very adult action. Its like playing house. Most of all, be careful with who you like and develop feelings for. Guard your emotional self.

If He's A Loser

   If he's a loser, most likely, you're a winner.  Losers are attracted to winners because they need your energy so that they can suck you dry, so be careful. Notice how tired you are after being in the presence of a loser. They are energy vampires. Do you treat men well? Are you supportive, nurturing, nice, no non sense, rules girl, smart, educated, successful, even kill, good woman? If the answer is yes, then you're doing all that you need to do and most likely you're a winner. If you're not a good woman, then you need to re-think some things. One thing i know for sure is that, loser guys love winning women. If he's lying, ignorant, bitchy, annoying, irritating, disrespectful, arrogant, and chivalry is clearly dead on his end, I suggest you admit that you're dating a loser.
If he's a loser, you owe him nothing, refer  to my previous blog. And get rid of him fast.

When a Man Rejects You

   When a man rejects you, understand that you owe him nothing afterward. Not a explanation, phone call, text message, date, nor a rekindle. Just remove yourself from the equation. Never rekindle anything with a man who made you feel rejected. If he did it once, he will do it again. He doesn't deserve you. If he can reject you, then you can politely leave and reject his conversation, silence, withdraw, desire to rekindle, and his facebook friendship. Do not stand in the presence of a man doing this to you.  You owe a man nothing who rejects you. Never listen to a man who rejects you and never receive his rejection. The bible preaches that, rejection is not real. God will never reject you. Understand that rejection is of the devil. Do not receive it into your spirit. Keep it moving and stand far away from any form of rejection.


Know your worth and let's keep this 100% confidence campaign going!

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If You Want True Love Do This

Are you looking for true love? I have an idea where you can find it!

1st, start with God. God created you so how can he not provide you with love. God invented love. God is love.
2nd, start with self. Go find yourself and be about satisfying you for a change. "dating is not a charity case".
Thirdly, fall in love with your career and fall in love with making it! Invest in your purpose, your calling, your education and your dreams. Fall in love with that. I promise you that, if you put God first, invest in your own happiness, be no non sense, and focus on your career and put it as a priority, you will never be without , why? Because God it first and foremost and will never forsake you ; he can't. God is love.

And your career/path/ purpose will never tell you it doesn't like you , doesn't wish to be your friend, doesn't want to be with you or doesn't have the time. You're career cannot turn on you because it is what you make it.
Your career will never wake up and tell you it doesn't love you anymore.

Do these things and watch love come to find you!

If You Do This You Will Get The Man

This was written by a man, who says that, if you are anything like this , a man will not marry you.

"Men don't like Really mean and overly moody/b*tchy. Most of my friends hate women who don’t smile or are always mad about everything. It sucks. A smiling woman who listens to his problems, tells him that he’s special, has his back and drops it ferociously in the bedroom can get him hooked. You want to be that woman".


The best way to be at your best with a man is, to just be one with self. Love yourself and be satisfied with yourself at all times. When you are into yourself , it radiates outwards. So just work on you , and the rest is history!

Men Are Like Children

While studying men and children, I see similarities between the two. Men are like children in so many ways. They want to believe they are first , even if they are last. They need rules , standards and routines. They don't understand women, all that much. Like children , men need constant reinforcement. Like children, men need lots of attention. Men also need a lot of admiration and respect. Men are charismatic and even manipulative like children. Study a child , and you will have studied a man.

As you know, you have to be careful with children. Children watch everything you do and learn only from your actions. Men are the same way. They are reinforced by every action. You may not know it but he's watching you and learning you, like a child does with an adult. This is how he knows what he can and can't do or what he can and can't get away with. 

Never React To A Man's Bad Behavior

Never react to a man that shows bad behavior. It only reinforces his behavior and then on top of that , it makes him feel special. Oh no, we can't have that. Never blow up with emotions towards a man because he only justifies it into his "amazingness" being the cause of your irresistible emotions and anger towards him. I learned the hard way that , negative attention is still suitable attention to a man. In the words of Robert Greene , "it's best to be talked about negatively then to be ignored". Don't be his self esteem booster, if he's messed up. That's the last thing you want to do. The best way to teach a man a lesson is , SSN - Silence , Space and No Reaction. Lets change the abbreviation of social security number to , the new SSN=silence, space and no reaction. When a man is out of control or misbehaving , just pull back and shut him out. The best way to check a man is with silence and space. Try your hardest not to react nor pitch a bitch. Besides, more messages are communicated through silence , and withdrawal then with words. And men are the gender of no words. They speak less and act more. Let him figure out your feelings on his own , by reading your actions. Think about it? How man times has a man communicated with you about how he felt and what he was going to do do and how he was going to do it. Did he ever tell you he was going to disappoint you, cheat on you, mistreat you, make you cry, disrespect you or get on your damn nerves? I think not! He just showed you. Well you have to speak the language of the person you interact with. Men are of few words. Never react, just treat him like a stepchild when he steps out of line. Remember that, reacting does not show 100% confidence, only silence and space can do that ;). Until next time

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