The Woman Who Made 300 Sandwiches To Earn Engagement Ring

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What the hell!! Sistah are you that insecure that you need to prove to a man that you can make 300 sandwiches, in order to prove your worth for a wedding ring? You've got to be kidding me. What makes this guy so special? Would you even do this for a brotha? Please. He should be making you the sandwiches and gourmet meals. Isn't he the chief? Let him prove his self to you? Her man even made a comment in an article that, we as women  spend so much time reading articles on how to keep a man , when all we have to do is, do something nice like, make a sandwich for him. Pahaaaa lol pleaseeeee. First of all women, he does have a point. There are so many how to articles directing  women for what to do, to get and keep a man and there shouldn't be. A woman is a prize to a man and she must know this. Stop trying to pursue a man and let him make 300 sandwiches to earn your love. Men are now in a position to sit back , collect our confidence and feel like the prize , while women become aggressors in order to win a mans affection but it is not the nature of a woman to do so. Allow nature to take its course, please. Let the man court and pursue you. 

In every animal kingdom, this basic knowledge is innate. 

Men are special, yes! And I love them but if we don't start honoring our crowns, and stop treating them, as if they are the golden prize, when they want and need us, can't live without us and yearn for what is between our legs, we will never embrace our feminine power!

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Be No- Non Sense

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Know if he's trying to make you feel good or bad at all times. Be no non sense with these dudes. One thing I notice about dudes is, they are sensitive to their feelings at all times! If he acts up, cut Him loose immediately. I know it sounds harsh but in my 30 years,I've learned that, men don't change if , rarely. You can give them chance after chance all you want but the real him lies inside and either you want people to be ingenuine or real. You can't change anyone, especially not a man, so you mine as well accept that. Men understand this very well. Men learn quick! They are very judgmental and weary of whom they let close to their heart. Men are only in a woman's life because she makes him feel good or she's giving him what he wants. They don't care about anything else and nor should you. Get your needs met for a change and dismiss a fool, who's cutting up and misbehaving. 

Be no none sense at all times and in fact, be that way with all people. 

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Does he like you or love you?

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In the words of a relationship therapist, that I met, " we want to get past the like stages and dating stages of a relationship and move into commitment and I love you's! 

Get over a man who just "likes" you or "likes you a lot" and move towards a mature man that has feelings and deep seething attraction for you. One who can't live without you. One who comes into your life to heal you. One who is committal to you. 

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Does He Still Have It?

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Teach him a lesson 

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Hills , Heals or heels

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If a man wants to be in your life and he is not head over hills for you ,then he can hit the hills and see the bottom of your heels as you walk away! I hope they're red bottoms too, lol 

With a man, if it's not a head over hills and be healed thing, he needs to just hit the hills! 

Heals, Hills or Heels? You choose. 

If You Don't Have Him

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The Main Ingredient

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Today's topic is , main ingredients. With relationships , I am realizing for myself that relationships should consist of main ingredients. I know we all have standards and so do I, which I expect to be met. I'm all about women getting what they want but hey! On the other hand, it's easy to let some things go, if the main ingredients are being met. For instance, you cannot make a cake without , main ingredients; flour, or eggs, but you can make one without the extra toppings that are sometimes added in the cake mix, such as, nuts, pineapple, Carmel, etc all that matters in a relationship is, the main ingredients. Does he have them or is he lacking?

If a man is everything I need him to be, I can personally do without the other foolishness , if I had to. As long as he has what it takes , we can work out the rest ;)

Trust God. Put God first