Men are really Great!

Hey, hey, hey, don't think this is a male bashing blog, because it isn't sistah! I'm a Scorpio, i see things in a clear, balanced way :)
Men are really great, it's a lot of knuckle heads out there, yes, but there's also a ton of wonderful, beatuiful, handsome men out there. I don't know if they're in America, Africa, the Carribean or outerspace, but they do exist! lol

You just have to decode these brothas and learn yourself and your needs in the process. That's all. Men will jerk you around the way they want to, because they know what they want, but don't mistake me, men are great. This blog is simply here to guide you into the different types of men that exist. The average man of these categories. This blog is to help you understand your mistakes and to better understand him, whoever he may be. This blog describes the gamers out there, the men causing confusion, the typical man of these categories.

This blog does not apply to all men, just the men it applies to, lol

" If it don't apply, then let it fly"

When a Man Comes on 2 Fast and 2 Strong

Don't you just love this? When he comes on strong and fast, just like a fairy tale. He says all the right things to you on day one, day two, or is it week one or week 2? It makes you feel like love at first sight really exist. He tells you the old famous line, " I've never felt this way before". He talks about relationships, marriage, and that he's looking to settle down. He tells you he's super single. He calls you baby within the first couple of days or weeks of dating. He acts as if you guys are much closer than you really are, what a man, what a mighty good man... lol

Wrong, unless you're irresistible, such as myself, if he's coming on too strong, too fast, it's because he's looking for something.
Maybe he wants some loving (boom, boom, wow) maybe he's buying time, until his dream girl comes along or maybe he's rebounding. Maybe he just wants some affection and just to be in the presence of a woman. Whatever the case is, love does not happen over night. You have to build a sort of rapport with people, so when people are coming on too fast and strong, they're seeking to find something.

Whenever someone comes into your life, and their moving a little too fast and strong, calling you their friend and what not too soon, they will also leave your life the same way they come in, fast. Think about it. You loose em, the way you get em. People that actually take the time to know you and build with you are long lasting.

Fashion

Men know exactly what they want their women to look like, or do they? Sometimes they may have a idea of their dream girl, but until they meet that special girl, that idea of the dream girl will cease to exist. Men will usually tell you how they think you should look, as if they can define the beauty of a woman! ha, i laugh. They may tell you to wear this or wear that, do your hair this way or that way. It is hard to define femininty. I have a gay guy friend who told me that, he wants to see me wear five inch heels, make up, fake eye lashes and a mini skirt. I had to ask, are you really gay?? lol The point is, no, absolutely not, that is not how i roll and that is not what defines me as a woman. How many of you women out there have changed up your style for a man, just to impress him? But does it make sense to dress for someone else, and not for yourself? No

Truth be told, men won't take those hoochie, koochie girls home to mama, never! In fact, the one with the natural beauty, who finds no woman as her competiton and can hold her own, is the one he marries. Never allow a man let you fall into a trap of, good time girl, subtracting long term girl. Read the Steve Harvey Book, are you a throw back? Be a true dream girl, don't be the fake girl they show in the media. Because i gaurantee you, the minute you subdue yourself to someone's opinion , he will feen for that girl that is naturally beautiful and it will leave you feeling stupid. Think about it, men love Halle Berry, Nia Long, Lauren Hill, Pam Grier? why? because their beauty is more natural, where as men will view Beyonce as sexy, yet seductive and a good time girl. Her beauty is more made up.

A man i met at a club/event once asked me why i was wearing flats. I went on to tell him, because I can. He said," yeah, you can get away with it,although you would look sexier with heels.". A girl, dressed seductively with high heels on walked pass as he was saying that and i said to him,sarcastically " would you rather i look like that?" He replied with, nahh, she's looks good but I wouldn't take her home to mom's , i would rather date a someone like you". Why? Because my beauty is the truth, two snaps, and one twist!

You get the drift? Define yourself. Do You!!! Men can't define femininity, nor beauty all they can do is appreciate it. Your designer, GOD, designed you as a woman before you were even concieved. You've been a woman from day one. While women mature four years faster than men, you knew your gender before he... lol


NO ONE, NOT YOUR FRIENDS, OR YOUR MAN CAN DEFINE YOUR BEAUTY. DO YOU AND I BET YOU WILL LOOK BETTER AND GET WAY MORE ATTENTION, TRUST. THE TRUTH ALWAYS OUTWEIGHS WHAT'S FAKE.

Do you know what you want?

When a man wants you, can he actually have you? Not I. Are you desperate for a man but don't know what type of relationship you desire? Do you adjust your life for his needs? and then justify that its what you wanted all along. And last but not least, the whole giving your life up thing, following him and helping him live his. If you answered yes to any of these questions, then no. You don't know what you want. If you know what you want then, no man can just yank you around with his needs and desires. Men usually bore you with all their, "this is what i want and this is what i need convo's" but can you have that same conversation with a man or your friends? I know what i want! Therefore no man can run game on me or trick me up. It takes time, but it's important to get to that level. Take some time and figure out what works best for you! what works for you! Find out what your type is and what floats your boats, because I guarantee if you don't know what you want, i can see many heart breaks in the near future. Research shows that, men are more self involved and concerned with what benefits the self, while women tend to be more concerned with what is best for the group. Please, when it comes to your personal life, you better do what's best for self. I'll tell you again, follow in a man's footsteps, they will lead you the way. In the words of my old home girl, "N$%** will lead you the way, lol. Why do you think men go through life with minimum heart breaks? Why? because they know what they want and they know how to get it. As a man, he has the power to pursue and a woman has the power to accept and or reject. Do not feel guilty , pressured and or obligated to entertain a man that does not fit your standards. A guy i know asked me, do i feel guilty when a guy likes me and I feel no desire to bite back, well should I? I mean, to an extent you want to be nice and not hurt feelings, but does that mean, sale yourself short? Men secretly play off of a woman's guilt of entertaining them, even when she's not interested. Why, because as i stated previously, they don't care how you feel, as long as they're satisfied and pleasured. That's why it takes them centuries to figure out that a problem exist in a relationship. Men think of themselves first, because they know what they like. That's why many men stay married, when a marriage is down the drain, while most women feel dissatisfied, because they don't care. IT'S GOOD TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT TO THE FULLEST, MAXIMUM.

The Conscious Brotha

Hello,

What's up with the conscious brotha's? He's such a warrior, sexy , strong, so charming, intellectual, smart, sensual, culturally in tuned and king like, right? OH yes he is. This brotha can talk your panties off at the drop of a dime, if you're into the gift of gab types. This brotha is all about Black supremacy and will not settle for any conversations that doesn't revolve around that. Everything must be Black, his soap, his bath tub, his toilet paper, his dog and even his name is Blacky. In fact, he sees the world in either, Black or White. There is no grey area with him. He is convinced that he has a purpose and it is to drive people crazy with his Black power talk.There are no simple conversations with this brotha. These types of guys do not play. They don't have a sense of humor and they don't make light of anything. Nothing is simple. They are talkers, not doers. They assume that everybody is lost and they may even talk to you like you are, before realizing who you are. In fact, he finds a way to revolve everything around race. A simple conversation : You say to him: " I went to the store today", his reply: "But did you stick to your roots on the way there". He finds a way to make every conversation relative to racial issues. In fact, nothing exist in his world but that. He doesn't know how to stop and smell the flowers, as they would say. He doesn't engage in things of the world. He doesn't live freely, because in his eyes, this is a White man's world. He needs constant reminders everyday of who he is and where he comes from, to sort of drum up his confidence and desire to be a King. He is not balanced. These men are usually insecure in so many ways, that they have developed a defense that justifies their current situation. They are not metaphysical whatsoever. They also aren't educated. They are self educated. Many of these brothas hang out at college libraries, and public libraries and book stores. They claim to be experts at any and everything. They look at a degree as, Why be educated when, education is set up by a White government? They may even say, Why work? that's the matrix, and it can crash. He may even feel like this, why have ambition? That's why supremacy. These men are very articulate and they play off of words and speak in rituals.You never know if you're talking to them or a lectured video and or a walking computer. They do not have minds of their own, most of their information is regurgitated. Remember, his being revolves around protecting a sort of persona, an alter ego. Not to mention , this brotha has about 25,000 of those. As charming as he may be, he is narcissistic, just as many people who don't know who they are or know how to think on their own, are. This brotha is so determined to make excuses for himself, the stance of his people, that he has totally stepped back into the past, and commands that we should all live the way we once did before being brought to America. The only thing is, the world wasn't as developed then, until slavery, which means, we kind of had to live without many appliances, that we have today. These brotahs forget that, Africa eventually developed into the land that it is today, and yeah, they don't live like villagers everywhere. These brothas act as if, keeping up good hygiene, being ambitious, dressing to the T, having nice teeth, nice hair, and a nice presentation is a form of being Eurocentric. The thing is, it's insulting, because that's like saying we should be like swinging off trees somewhere, scratching our asses. Instead of getting up off their asses and getting a life, and paying homage to their ancestors for inventing almost everything,i.e., the seametress, cotton bin inventors that made this world what it is today, they would rather turn back to the cave man days and make excuses for not living for today. The are rebellious and in many cases, insulting, demeaning and condscending. They believe that they know more, and they expect things to be a certain way. These brothas can also be very angry. They act as if it's the 1960's again and slavery will happen at any given time, so "we better be ready". They can be very delusional. In the conscious world, everyone thinks the same, their is no such thing as individuality. There are no vague conversations about the weather. No, they have a answer for everything, remember, they really believe that they are truly scientists, psychologists, philosophers, and Doctors, why? because they say so, lol. They have delusions of grandeur. They can be so narcissistic that, they may even reduce GOD, the creator. How could you, how disrespectful? They may put color to GOD, instead of leaving GOD colorless. They believe in doing what Whites have done for centuries, by just putting color to it. In the conscious world, everyone speaks the same, and uses the same kinds of words to describe things. All White people are the devil and all Black people are innocent Goddesses. Everything that goes wrong is the White man's fault, because only bad things like getting fired, evicted, car repossessed, etc, can only happen to Black people and no one else. They use this form of grammar to totally control one's thinking and actions. They may ask you for favors or ask you to do things that are inconvenient and or not plausible, and if you refuse, they will blame your Resistance on being hateful towards your race. Remember, anything that holds no racial balance, can be used for tyrannical purposes. Other races do this often. Black power brothas usually stick together. They trade information with their like minded male counterparts and they form a plea, that will blow your mind, no matter what it is. In fact, any small comment can fuse it. I was speaking to one of these types of men the other day and he happened to be flirting with me. When i replied with, "aren't you seeing someone"? he said, i don't want no queen. You would think that means, he doesn't want to see anyone right now. No, he said he would rather have a goddess than a queen, because a queen is too resistant, and will not take that ish. Where as, from his perspective, a goddess is willing to give him the power he seeks to have over her. When i asked him to elaborate, he told me, there was a whole lecture behind it. Most of everything these brotha's know, someone else taught them. He is repeating someone Else's words, so who he is, from day to day, changes often. These brothas also like to go by King. They always have names like, King George, King Solomon, Prince Al, Muhammad, etc. They always have the king in their name. Now how you going have that many kings in one land?
Oh, this brotha can be handsome, but if not, above all, he is charming and sensual. He is not overly sexual and would rather build with a woman, before being sexually involved with her, as GOD intended. He does believe in marriage and the foundation of his family. He is usually king of his household. He is not always harmonious. Remember, he is likely to feel inferior and he's trying to touch basis with his manhood and kingliness, just as his male ancestors once were, before being stripped of this right, owed to them during slavery. In many cases he is still finding himself. In the words of a "conscious" brotha i know, "the conscious rode is a lonely rode". Not to mention, these brotha's are usually players. They love women and they are okay with being vulnerable to them. They may even convince you that, in Africa, it is okay to have more than one wife, so it's okay to have more than one woman here in America to. They may hit on their woman's friends, at the right given time, and or their partners ex women. They don't care. They have created a, peace on earth persona. Therefore entertaining anything that is not "positive", is not advised. They will do things that may not be acceptable at times, believing that it's just spiritual. These brotha's have game, he will run that queen stuff to lure you in, so don't be fooled. He will try to make it seem like you are too independent as a woman and you should give up your crown to a man, who has given you no guarantees. He is a cheater and if he has a cultural connection with you, he is willing to cheat on his wife. He will give all types of excuses of why it's not really cheating. He'll take you on a date and say it's not a date, but a meeting. He will massage your feet and say, he's just healing a friend. He will flirt with you and say it's fine because things aren't going good in his marriage. Conscious brothas are very sensual, and dramatic about it. They will literally wash your feet, like homebody did Jada Picket in, Jason's Lyric.
Conscious brothas usually are broke and have no money, but they will trick you into believing that, the only reason you want to go out anywhere, is because you are living in a Euro centric mind frame. They will literally make you feel stupid. This brotha operates in a very judgmental way, and he takes on a position that, he has the right to validate who you are, your thoughts and feelings. They have many pre conceived notions, and they believe they already know you, because you fit in a category. These brothas actually believe that, sistahs have a hidden agenda, and in many cases, they have been taught not to trust women, because they are just too this or that. If you don't march to his drum, it's a problem. Remember, if he is willing to disrespect and reduce GOD, the almighty creator, then why not you? Remember that, if you refer to GOD as GOD and not Allah, he already has categorized you as worshiping a White Jesus. Therefore he will disrespect your faith, simply by misunderstanding that alone. Black conscious brothas have vocabulary's like they are Webster themselves. Since many of them don't have jobs and they choose to blame the government, yet sit around indirectly use the system, they have lots of time on their hands to read books and dictionaries. They even use words out of context sometimes. I once heard someone say, " I won't give up my avatar". These brothas will also attack your character if they feel that you are a threat to their thought process and alter ego. Know who you are, if you are going to be dealing with this brotha, because these types of brothas are a whole different ball game. In fact, most women dealing with them do not work and are completely under their power. They are repressed individuals, because these men do not accept talkative, strong women into their lives. It's unacceptable. They will not hear of it, therefore they will do whatever it takes to assassinate your character, until you utter and speak like them. Getting a woman to beat to their drum is a confidence boaster for these men. Sometimes they like to light your fire, just to see you go. These brothas wll try and shame you for the gifts you have and them being intimidated by them. They will put your education down, achievements down, etc. They'll say things to you like, "ooh you're a psychologists, a doctor, a philosopher"? " ohh so am I". In other words, they'll out down that your degree is a white man's matrix degree, yet define themselves with the same creditability you actually are an expert in. These people suffer from delusions of granduer. They call themsevles, doctors, experts, scientists, philosophers, yet they have no training, or education to back up the assertion. In fact, i had one Black power guy, who from my experience was very ignorant ask me, " so i see you have a master, so does that mean you mastered the field or do you just have a masters in the field?" lol What! That sounds like a crock of bullshit don't it? In other words, he was basically running a sort of reverse psychology, implying that there's a difference between mastering a field and having a masters in the field... lol You can have both, master a field and have a masters, but you can't master a field without having a masters in any field. As i said before, these men like to believe they are experts in fields because they have checked a few outdated books from the library and listened to a couple of lectures and etc. They can be very condecending towards women, and they believe women should just sit down, shut up, not be strong and pretty much oppressed. These men will run that feminine energy stuff on you, just to get a reaction our of you, don't go for it. Now, conscious single men, are just that, S-I-N-G-L-E by choice. They have so many issues, no woman wants them. I know of a woman who recently moved into a temple with brothas like this. Before she moved, she had a mind of her own, now she's a man in a skirt. She talks like a man, fights like a man, and hates like a man. She even conducts herself like a man. She has completely lost her feminine power. She's lost herself. There is nothing wrong with learing your roots and embracing them, but there is something wrong with cults and operating in a one mind mindset, in order to get there. That's why you must be careful, because with these brotha's, they are simply energy vampires, looking to suck all your energy. Oppression is oppression and it can come in any form. Remember that, a cult is a cult and you don't have to join one, in order to know thy truth about your roots! See the thing is, sometimes they get so obssessed with White supremecy issues that they begin to idiolize their slave masters, without even realizing. You think I'm lying, check out the nation islam and their newest partnership with scientology and newest white members. Farrakahan instigated the death of Malcolm X , due to changing his views against whites, yet condoned them linking up with Whites later in life. Ain't that a bitch, Malcolm X could have lived. Jealousy runneth deep, don't it? The point is, they get so locked into how their slave masters think, that they become addicited to taking everything white and making it black. Isn't that contradictory? There is no white Jesus, hell no! But although the bible states that his skin was bronze, hair of wool, i still don't put color to GOD. I believe people should know about their culture, and yes! I believe in the advancement and awareness of African history. I sure do, but where do these people get off thinking that you should submit yourself to their opinion and believe and think the way they want you to.


Believe GOD! Trust in God first, then yourself, allow no mortal being to validate or invalidate you.
These men expect to be worshiped, don't go for that. Please know who you are, if you are going to be dealing with these types.

All culturally in tuned brothas are not like that, trust!! There are some fantastically great balanced guys out there, who also know their roots and the truth. However, most are like the one's i described in this blog. Beware of energy vampires. It's nothing to play with.




And why does it seem like most brothas apart of this movement are Taurus men! Maybe because they have egos that need stroking lol

Be A Pimp About Yours

Evening,


Men see relationships similar to the way women see it, something worth investing in. The difference is, men may view a woman whom they are unsure about as a stock and will view a women they are completely sure about as an investment. Ladies, how many times have you said to yourself, "but he may change", "I'ma just wait this one out", "but he needs me", "I'ma change him"? exactly. How many times have you turned up the song, " ring the alarm", by Beyonce? Exactly, while a woman believes that every man is an investment, and something that she should be loyal to, men see it otherwise. Women don't know how to just walk away! How many times have you said to yourself, "this matha f***'s crazy"? , " or had a hunch that something just wasn't right? You stayed, didn't you? why, because it was an investment to you. Men know that their stocks can crash at any given time, so they know how to walk away when they feel something isn't right. but can you do that? Men do what feels best for their heart, they don't do things out of guilt. I once had a guy ask me if I felt guilty because a guy was feeling me and i did not feel obligated to go out with him, because i did not feel the same. Why should I? I have standards and preferences. Men know what they want, so know what you want, ladies. Men know who they are, and they do what's best for themselves first, so do you! Do what you want to do, they do. Let no one run your own shoes over. So if you want to date around, view the stock, take some time to decide, date more than one guy, be single, be a pimp about yours


Know the difference between an Investment, a stock and window shopping. Every man and every situation isn't worth investing in.


Investment: - a thing that is worth buying because it may be profitable or useful in the future :
• an act of devoting time, effort, or energy to a particular undertaking with the expectation of a worthwhile result

Stock-in (or out of) stock (of goods) available (or unavailable) for immediate sale in a store.
on the stocks in construction or preparation: To have a specified amount of belief or faith in : I don't put much stock in modern medicine.
take stock review or make an overall assessment of a particular situation, typically as a prelude to making a decision : he needed a period of peace and quiet in order to take stock of his life.

What Makes A Good Healthy Black Relationship?

A user wants to know what makes a good Health Black Relationship? Here's my view

What makes a Healthy Black Relationship to me that I notice is, when two Black people respect and honor each other, gracefully. When they admire each others will, and adore each other's nature. When both parties don't try and be the chief and when they are both confident individuals, surpassing baggage and issues from childhood, which leads to affecting their current circumstance.

I also notice successful Black relationships, when it's GOD's will and they aren't forcing it where it doesn't fit. When both parties are successful and feel achieved, never hating on one another, only support, helping one another grow, leaving behind the
NEGA-T-V-I-T-Y!


Last but not least, I think what makes a strong Black Union, is when a brotha is not intimidated by the strength of a sista's. He is not chauvinistic and he is not demeaning to her and he does not make her strength out to be something that should be denounced. Instead, he embraces it because he is confident, he is not narcissistic and he is strong himself. He does not wish for her to be inferior,so that he can feel superior. He knows what it really means to be a man, therefore she yields to his manliness and lets all walls down, because she trust him and she knows that his direction is for her own good and not just to benefit his ego, or narcissistic, GOD complex. She will never disrespect nor emasculate him.

Dig my poetry , lol : That's what i notice, in hEALTHY BLACK RELATIONSHIPS!!

When a Man is Abusive

Hello,

You ever notice how many have a natural ability to abuse? Men can be know it alls and chauvinistic, without even knowing it. Is it because us women are stronger these days? Is it because we're not as submissive like the good old days? Is it because men truly feel weak? Or is it a way of man oppressing and trying to keep a gal down? Abuse comes in many forms, rather emotional, physical, psychological, or verbal. I don't know if its the strong will of a woman, but men can be so abusive. Rather he's trying to get you to second guess your self, trying to argue with you, hate on you, play a mind game with you, isolate you, oppress you or verbally abuse you, it's some bull shit and it's wrong!!!! It is a form of abuse. If you listen long enough to a man with those traits, they will tell you why they're behaving this way. They may say something that revolves around being strong, being more "logical", or a woman being too strong. I had an ex- friend once say, "my friends and I don't like women who are on that Black Power stuff". What does that mean? Is it he and his friends that are truly weak and intimidated by a woman's strength? what he means is, a woman should sit back and shut up and not be strong, in other words. That's probably the reason why many movements fail, when a woman isn't involved. Men try so hard to be strong and king, that they may not realize that they are also being abusive in many forms. Oppression of any sort is, wrong!! It is abuse and if someone tries to oppress who you are, no matter what the form is, beware and stand clear. Don't take that!

Becoming Friends With His Family

Evening,

When you meet a guy, aweee, the infatuation begins, and then the butterflies. For the desperate woman, these things start when he asks her for her number. How many of us meet a guy, become in awee with him and then suddenly we want to prove our position in his life? We want to prove just how good of a woman we will be to him, right? You may start making him breakfast, lunch, dinner, deserts, doing his laundry, showing extra caring traits, taking on his interests, etc. You may even become sexual with him too soon, if that's all you know. We do these things to prove ourself to that special guy. The way we try and seal the deal, which really puts icing on the cake is, becoming friends with his family, his friends, his frat brothers, and in some cases, his animals. That's the way a woman really thinks she holds power. Yes, having a good relationship with his mother is important, but becoming friends with his family and friends is so out of the question. Pump ya breaks ladies! You are not going to get closer with a man by trying to befriend his friends and family. In fact, most women try that same trick. Yes, it's innocent on your part, but It's funny how he never tries to get close with your family to win you over. I've never heard a guy say, " yea, i was chillin with her mom's and sorority sisters the other day". Yet, women brag about being close with a man's family and friends all the time. A man never wants to involve other people in his relationship. He wants to get to know you. That's why men never try to become cool with your friends and family too soon. It may happen, but not so soon, he takes his time getting to know you first, before going through the trouble. Women try to hard, you don't need the security blanket of his friends and family, in order to seal the deal. If realtionships with the people he is closest to, evolve between you and them, then that's fine, only because it happened naturally. Other than that, don't force it, and don't let him force it upon you. Because men secretly know that women try and pull the close one with their family and friends, they will sometimes try and test you around their friends and or if he has kids, he will test you around the child, to see how you fit. Don't let a man test you. Let him prove his self to you, by all means. Men are use to women trying to prove themselves but that confuses the man from being actively interested and you being receptively interested in him. Always know that a man is the active one, you are the receiver. In the beginning stages, just let it be, sit back, let nature takes it's course and watch and see what he offers.
Remember that song. "Me and You , Your Cousin and Your Mama, Too", that isn't real life ladies, stop trying to befriend his friends and family, to get closer to him. Let nature takes its course and let those things happen naturally. Besides, just because u chop it up with his family and or friends, doesn't mean he's decided on you, for long term. Just because he says he's looking to settle down, doesn't mean it's going to be with you, so take it easy.

When a Man Cheats

Jerry Springer, you ever waTCH it?

I notice that a lot of times when a man cheats, it's usually within close proximity. Either the person he cheats with lives down the street, works with him, and or it's your cousin or sister. Men will take any opportunity to cheat, especially if he's a dogg. Being in the fact that, doggs are the only one's that cheat. Do not be surprised if you are dating a dog, and he cheats with your friend or cousin, or sister. Besides, if your a woman with scanless friends, don't be surprised if she's willing to lay the pipe. Be careful who you surround yourself around. A scanless man, usually cheats in close proximity. Do not be surprised if he cheats with your friends or family members. They usually will cheat with what's closest to them.

Men are know it all"s (Judgemental)

Where do men get off judging and calling you out. It makes you feel self conscious and it's intrusive. If you know what you're talking about, then you don't need my confirmation. Men always seem to define you. " You're this, you're that". They never seem to just let things be and exist. Men feel the need to quickly assess and they do this by testing you, without even realizing that they are intefering with an independent variable, which is behavior. In order to understand behavior, you must allow it to exist as an independent variable. The minute you tamper with behavior, thus causing a sort of reaction in others, then their behavior becomes dependent upon what has made them react. The best thing to do is, just exist, and watch objectively and naturally. Men don't know how to do this. They are so quick to judge and come to some quick decision about you, as if getting to know someone is a freaking driving quest. This isn't driving fella's, you can't just make a quick right or left turn and figure a woman out. It doesn't work that way. For some reason, men hate to admit they're wrong. Patiently waiting to know someone makes them feel dumb. A man that quickly judges, without fully collecting all the data 360 degrees around, can't stand it, it makes him feel lost, so he labels you and categorizes you. The wise man takes his time learning his prey. In fact, he won't irritate you or push your buttons to try and drive you crazy, so that he can supposedly see your true colors, while under stress. He knows this is untrue, so he sits back and just watches. Any educated, wise person understands that, a person does not act in nature when under stress. Do not let a man irritate you, judge you, and then label you as is. "People give so much weight to personality characteristics, and not enough weight to situational variables".

Men really need to relax and take a chill pill and stop judging women so quickly. No, all women are not the same and no, everyone does not belong in a category, and even if women were all the same, it's insulting to assume that right away, anyway. I know I'm not that easy (One of a kind). And NO MEN, YOU DON'T HAVE TO KNOW THINGS RIGHT AWAY, IN ORDER TO FEEL LIKE A SMART MAN. a wise man knows this!

What's up with Older LA Brothas?

Hello,

Okay what is the deal with older LA men with no cell phones? Is this some sort of new trend, that's wack? I've met three older gentleman, pushing forty or a little under forty, who only had house phones. I mean, is this a sign of a broke man? or some player type ish? Does he have another life? or does he have a wife, & kids? i mean, what's up? It's not the nineties anymore, everyone has a cellular. Unless he's living in the ice age, he's living in a moorish society, or unless he's Amish, i don't see why he only has a house phone. Either he's broke or he likes a chase, and in either case, it's a lost-lost situation. Who has time for games. Usually these types of guys are quick to give you there number, "hey, let me give you my number". It's a numbers game with these guys. I'm not sure what this is all about but I notice a pattern of these guys having something missing about them. They're usually wack as hell, hella corny and old, womanless, or desperate. They give their (house numbers) to fifty thousand women a day, hoping at least one will call. They wouldn't care if it was a female monkey. Stay away from those wack azz men with house phones and no cellular's, they are a waste. They have something to hide, that's why they usually beg women to call them, instead of the other way around. They get rejected a lot! ha ha lol In fact, they target women who may be just desperate enough to call, because then their chances will be higher.

Next time a older gentleman in LA says, "hey, i really like you, and spits one of those love and first sight lines, from a romeo and juliet movie, and asks for you to call him. Tell him HELL NO, "I DON'T CALL MEN, MEN CALL ME" -Chi