DATE EM , LEAVE HIM, I DON'T WANT HIM. lol
Date like a man. Have fun, let loose, say to your self, ooh, "he's cute". Have friends, talk on the phone, etc. Never let him dictate your speed. Think like a man, differentiate when he's Mr. Right, or just a fling.
Flirt with him and all his friends. Remember to take nothing serious, just like you're a man.
Accept yourself for who you are, never lower your standards just because you want to appease him. Love yourself, flaws and all, and never second guess what you want out of life and who you are.
Saturday, February 5, 2011
RELATIONSHIPS
Relationships with the most drama are the relationships that end like sun dried tomatoes. When people are for you, it's effortless and positive. The one's you fight and have the most turmoil with, are the ones who end up married to someone else , with kids, five years later. Why you ask? because you're hard headed and God had to teach you a lesson the hard way. See, whoever you are meant to be with, is who you will end up with, no matter how many relationships you have in between passing time. You are somebody's wife, just as he is somebody's husband. That will never change, so take the fights, drama, arguments as a sign that he is not the right guy for you and he is for somebody else. Better to let it go now.
And remember that, men think of themselves first, so don't make him priority, if he's making you an option.
And remember that, men think of themselves first, so don't make him priority, if he's making you an option.
Man Leaves, U break Up, You Move On, Or Do You?
MAN BREAKS UP WITH WOMAN AND MOVES ON ! HE FINDS LOVE, POSSIBLE A SOUL MATE, MARRIAGE, KIDS AND MORE. DID YOU? MEN ARE KEEN FOR MOVING ON. THEY SHOULD RIGHT A BOOK ABOUT IT. WHY DOES IT SEEM LIKE THE MAN YOU WERE ONCE WITH, RATHER IT BE ONE YEAR AGO, OR TWENTY YEARS AGO, MOVES ON AND FINDS LOVE AGAIN, AND YOU DON'T? WOMEN ARE EXPERTS AT GIVING UP ON LOVE AFTER BEING HURT OR LET DOWN. MEN ARE EXPERTS AT KNOWING WHEN A WOMAN IS THE ONE, INSTINCTIVELY. MEN ARE EXPERTS AT BELIEVING THE GRASS IS GREEN ON THE OTHER SIDE. MEN ARE GREAT AT DENYING THEY HAD ANYTHING TO DO WITH ANYTHING, AND THAT THE WOMAN IS ALWAYS AT FAULT. MEN ARE ALSO BRILLIANT AT DIFFERENTIATING BETWEEN GOOD TIME ONLY GIRL AND LIFE MATE. MEN DETACH THEMSELVES FROM BEING THE FLAW THAT ENDED THE RELATIONSHIP. WOMEN ARE KNOWN FOR BLAMING THEMSELVES AFTER EVERY BREAK UP, AS IF THEY ARE THE FLAW. WOMEN FALL IN LOVE WITH THE IDEA OF LOVE. WOMEN DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT THEY ARE HOPELESS ROMANTICS. WOMEN DON'T GET THAT, MOST OF THESE ***** ARE SEAT FILLERS, TAKING UP SPACE UNTIL THE ONE COMES ALONG. GIRLS USUALLY GIVE UP ON LOVE AND LET A GOOD MAN PASS THEM BY BECAUSE, THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT ALL MEN ARE THE SAME, ACCEPT THE DIFFERENT ONES!
DO NOT FALL INTO THE TRAP OF ALLOWING A MAN WHO ONCE HURT, DISAPPOINTED OR LET YOU DOWN, HOLD YOU BACK FROM TRUE LOVE. Sometimes women open themselves up to the wrong man and just don't want to risk being open and vulnerable and end up hurt again, so they choose sing, instead. MEN ALWAYS, ALWAYS MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE. Yet 10 years later, you still single, wondering why?
DO NOT FALL INTO THE TRAP OF ALLOWING A MAN WHO ONCE HURT, DISAPPOINTED OR LET YOU DOWN, HOLD YOU BACK FROM TRUE LOVE. Sometimes women open themselves up to the wrong man and just don't want to risk being open and vulnerable and end up hurt again, so they choose sing, instead. MEN ALWAYS, ALWAYS MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE. Yet 10 years later, you still single, wondering why?
Friday, February 4, 2011
When People enter your life
People enter your life the same we they exit it. When people come into your life in peace, then they will be at peace with you and leave in peace, if they ever leave at all. No one comes into your life uncaring and begins to care about you. If he comes into your life with ulterior motives, he will leave with his motives met or unmet, if you catch my drift. Just as people don't come into your life, in a loving manner, only to turn their backs on you later is the point I am making. A selfish person will be a selfish person from the beginning, until the end. A good person will be a good person, until the end. Good people don't switch up and Bad people don't switch up. How a person enters your life is the position they will hold, when they exit. Just think about it.
Hold no passengers. "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."-Matthew 12:34
Hold no passengers. "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."-Matthew 12:34
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Emotionally Unavailable Men
Hello,
Just because a man says he wants to get with you, doesn't mean he's ready for a commitment. In fact, it's the opposite. No man just wakes up saying, I want love, commitment and vulnerability and the possible risk of getting hurt or opening up to the wrong woman. Not even a man who says he wants a girlfriend operates this way. The way you see commitment is totally different from the way he sees it. When a man claims to want to be with you, love and commitment and going steady is what he thinks about later. In fact, men think of sex first and the other stuff comes later. A wise quote i once heard was, "men look for sex and find love and women look for love and find sex". In fact, men live in the moment, so you never know if he just broke up with his girl and or is still with his babies mother , still emotionally tied to his ex or just needing some female attention and TLC. So if there's a man in your life and he's telling you he has the hots for you, don't take it as his way of stepping up fora relationship, right away. No matter what he says, love doesn't happen over night. Emotionally unavailable man will tell you all the right things, but his actions will say it all. Don'tbe surprised if he's distant and or shows traits of emotional unavailability, such as
1) texting
2) facebooking
3) Myspacing
4) twitting
5) emailing
6) dropping in and out of your life when he pleases
7) actions contradicting words, changing of behavior and routines
8) breaking up with old girlfriend, getting back together
9) relationship statuses on facebook changing frequently
A man does not dream of his dream girl the way a woman dreams of her dream guy. He has to grow into wanting and desiring the whole love package.
While women have been thinking about love all her life, she has had a head start, that a man has to catch up to. Be patient ladies. A man in love is nothing to play with. It is the most intense, beautiful thing you could ever imagine. If he's acting as if he's head over hills too soon, it's lust and might be a sign that he is emotionally unavailable. Remember ladies, most of the guys you meet are emotionally unavailable at first, so understand that intense closeness is something he has to grow into. No matter what he says, love does not happen over night and men don't operate that way. Forget his words and believe his actions.
Just because a man says he wants to get with you, doesn't mean he's ready for a commitment. In fact, it's the opposite. No man just wakes up saying, I want love, commitment and vulnerability and the possible risk of getting hurt or opening up to the wrong woman. Not even a man who says he wants a girlfriend operates this way. The way you see commitment is totally different from the way he sees it. When a man claims to want to be with you, love and commitment and going steady is what he thinks about later. In fact, men think of sex first and the other stuff comes later. A wise quote i once heard was, "men look for sex and find love and women look for love and find sex". In fact, men live in the moment, so you never know if he just broke up with his girl and or is still with his babies mother , still emotionally tied to his ex or just needing some female attention and TLC. So if there's a man in your life and he's telling you he has the hots for you, don't take it as his way of stepping up fora relationship, right away. No matter what he says, love doesn't happen over night. Emotionally unavailable man will tell you all the right things, but his actions will say it all. Don'tbe surprised if he's distant and or shows traits of emotional unavailability, such as
1) texting
2) facebooking
3) Myspacing
4) twitting
5) emailing
6) dropping in and out of your life when he pleases
7) actions contradicting words, changing of behavior and routines
8) breaking up with old girlfriend, getting back together
9) relationship statuses on facebook changing frequently
A man does not dream of his dream girl the way a woman dreams of her dream guy. He has to grow into wanting and desiring the whole love package.
While women have been thinking about love all her life, she has had a head start, that a man has to catch up to. Be patient ladies. A man in love is nothing to play with. It is the most intense, beautiful thing you could ever imagine. If he's acting as if he's head over hills too soon, it's lust and might be a sign that he is emotionally unavailable. Remember ladies, most of the guys you meet are emotionally unavailable at first, so understand that intense closeness is something he has to grow into. No matter what he says, love does not happen over night and men don't operate that way. Forget his words and believe his actions.
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